Well, after months of eyeing perb, I finally set up 1st date and it didn't work out. I called her about noon to set up a time 2-4 pmish, however she was in the middle of finding a new place to work. Ok, no worries, she'll give me a call about 6pm for an update on new hotel. I can wait (hehe barely!). She was very nice on the phone, and answered all my questions straight up. About 6:45 i get her call and we'll meet at 8, great!!! I get to the hotel , head to the elevator and it can be ONLY operated by a quest key card. Well, i better not stand there too long, and that's where i think I made my mistake. The front desk clerk , just doing his job, asked "do you need any help"?. I said yes, i'm looking a friend named (1st name) ******* and she should be in room ****. Of course he checks his computer and says " I have no one named ******* in the hotel". Now right off the bat, I've unintentionally put some pressure on her because now the front desk might ( should, if doing his job) become extra cautious, curious etc. The clerk says "if you have some valid ID, and your friend agrees, we can add your name to the room". Ill just phone her I say to the clerk. I step outside to call her, let her know I'm having issues getting access, though I didn't mention being asked for ID to her( should have i think). At this point I've had enough and so I cancel and go home. Well, the crux of it, I'm 99% sure this wasn't a scam or rip off or thing like that. I think she was working hard at getting a place and positively going to provide service. So, should I call today and talk to her, I do feel sorry, and possibly arrange a new time, if she amiable? Also, as far as I can see, it wouldn't be very smart of me to have her to my home as an outcall never having met her before ( assuming she would in the 1st place). Not sure what to do but I'm not an asshole or anything like that, so if anyone has some insight/advice , I'd like to hear it. Thanks!
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Zasawn, I think you should either do nothing or let the lady know what happened.
Were you honestly not thinking about the facts that you were there for a reason that hotel staff might not approve of and that the lady obviously wouldn't have the room booked under her work name, which is not her real name? Or did you just panic? In the future if something like that happens please just avoid saying anything to the staff about who you are seeing or their room number. You could easily have just said something like, "No thanks, I'm supposed to be meeting a friend, I'll just go call them." and gotten out of there. Or even, "No thanks, I think I'm in the wrong hotel. Bye." Pretty much any excuse would have been better than giving the lady's SP name and room number. Please try to use more discretion in the future.
For now, let's hope they just thought you were confused about the room number or something. I would suggest you not try to see that lady at that location again. If I were her, I'd want to know about what happened so that I could be prepared in case the hotel asked me about it or I was under extra scrutiny. (I'm not sure if other ladies are like me in that regard though?) To be fair, she ideally should've checked if the elevators were key card access only and warned you, but you could've handled the situation far better.
Were you honestly not thinking about the facts that you were there for a reason that hotel staff might not approve of and that the lady obviously wouldn't have the room booked under her work name, which is not her real name? Or did you just panic? In the future if something like that happens please just avoid saying anything to the staff about who you are seeing or their room number. You could easily have just said something like, "No thanks, I'm supposed to be meeting a friend, I'll just go call them." and gotten out of there. Or even, "No thanks, I think I'm in the wrong hotel. Bye." Pretty much any excuse would have been better than giving the lady's SP name and room number. Please try to use more discretion in the future.
For now, let's hope they just thought you were confused about the room number or something. I would suggest you not try to see that lady at that location again. If I were her, I'd want to know about what happened so that I could be prepared in case the hotel asked me about it or I was under extra scrutiny. (I'm not sure if other ladies are like me in that regard though?) To be fair, she ideally should've checked if the elevators were key card access only and warned you, but you could've handled the situation far better.
Sorry to hear your first date didn't work out. The first time I booked a date I remember feeling scared when I entered the hotel lobby. I guess I looked like I needed help and the doorman just asked, "can I help you sir". The whole adrenaline fight or flight thing kicked in and I panicked, fled the hotel and almost run down the street. He must have thought I was crazy. That was in the UK about 30 years ago. However, I tried again and soon got over my fears and love the hobby. Chalk it up to experience and try again with someone else. Feel sorry for the girl but what can you do?
Usual protocol is call from hotel parking lot or outside the entrance to notify lady you have arrived and make sure she is ready for you. At that point she would have informed him of the card key, and would have come down to meet him. No big deal unless the guy is too stupid to follow simple instructions.
There is always a chance that she is behind schedule for whatever reason. I ALWAYS call from downstairs to make sure the coast is clear. I very much doubt the OP did this, he would have said so in his original post.
You should have texted her.
Either to let her know you were in the lobby to be polite, or when you realized you needed a card to get up to her room.
Actually both most likely to tell her your on your way up, or you couldn't get up.
Big mistake talking to hotel staff, or anyone about it, pull out your phone use it, or pretend to use it while your collect yourself,
I agree, its partly on the sp for not realizing you needed a card, she should have checked it out, and she should have given you instructions to text her letting you know you were in the lobby.
Either to let her know you were in the lobby to be polite, or when you realized you needed a card to get up to her room.
Actually both most likely to tell her your on your way up, or you couldn't get up.
Big mistake talking to hotel staff, or anyone about it, pull out your phone use it, or pretend to use it while your collect yourself,
I agree, its partly on the sp for not realizing you needed a card, she should have checked it out, and she should have given you instructions to text her letting you know you were in the lobby.
so you were told the room number before even getting to the hotel? unusual way to do things. Usual is you are told the building or hotel and only after
phoning or texting from outside the address are you given the room number or buzz/suite code . And in the very near future if you are going to be going on any "blind" dates like this chances
are the only date you will have is a court date.
phoning or texting from outside the address are you given the room number or buzz/suite code . And in the very near future if you are going to be going on any "blind" dates like this chances
are the only date you will have is a court date.
