Well surely a person is capable of genuinely like sex and spending time with many people in the world and yet decide to not take part in them all unless additional reason or incentive is involved. Surely you are not suggesting if a woman truly likes you as a man, she simply will be unable to stop herself and will have no personal control over her burning desire to repeatedly see you and sleeping with you for no additional reason.
Can a genuine connection be real if money is involved?
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I had one SP tell me her fav quote from a Monroe movie “isn’t wanting a man with money similar to a man wanting a woman with beauty?”
I grew up poor and my family was treated like garbage for being poor. I am now quite well-off and once people realize that, they treat me very differently. Seeing the difference in how people treat you because of $ makes me sick. I would have a very hard time being in a relationship centered around money as I gravitate towards distrusting those who care that much about it.
It is not easy to love someone who works in this industry and yes, you need to be very strong emotionally to do so. One of the ways to keep the relationship strong is to reserve certain things just for the two of you. For example, only DFK with him and not with clients. This will help her to differentiate when she is intimate with "him" and helps him to feel safe that is something only reserved for him and not the paying public.
This can be quite simple... ask yourself the following questions.
Would she go out with you on social date without financial compensation?
Would she go out for dinner with you if you call her?
Would she share with you about her family/background?
If the answer is Yes for all of the above, then she will still choose to spend time with you. Obviously, she needs to work to pay the bills so can't expect her to give you freebies just because she has feelings for you. You shouldn't have that expectation either. But if she goes out with you on her days off, during her period or even before/after her work then you know she has true feeling for you.
I’ve had all of the above at various times including free sex, but I never expected exclusivity for anything nor would I ask. If she’s spending time with you off the clock you enter a FWB dynamic, don’t spoil it with expectations or jealousy
Thank you; i really appreciate your perspective 🙏
No pressure to respond to this, but I've realized my kink is the mental stimulation of getting to know someone over dinner and longer dates. It makes the build-up to physical intimacy feel more interesting and intimate lol
I work with boundaries all day, but I don't always feel like I thrive inside a container.
Sometimes I wonder if that fits well with these kinds of dynamics or if I'm just wired for something more fluid
Ive never asked or would ask for freebies or discount. I respect that her time nd presence is valuable, the hardships she puts up with.
Id never want someone to make my job more difficult than it is,
Thank you for sharing your experience! Ive been at this for about 3 years now. I am strong in terms of supporting whatever dreams the person i am into wants, they want to go back to school am there for them, wants to continue working am there for the roller coaster, i identify in the millenial generation and have done fairly well for myself to have disposable income to have enjoy life but i am always down to support someone in achievint their goals if i feel they are genuine
I have a different view of the term "connection." I have genuine friendships (connections) with my dentist and financial advisor (both of whom are attractive ladies) even though money changes hands. In a similar vein, over the years I have what I think are genuine friendships with some providers I have paid for services. I recognize that many of you are referring more to romantic connections but dating service providers has not interested me. There have been a few where we had common interests and hobbies and formed genuine connections.
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If she is not txting you to hang out on the weekend then she is simply a smart business woman.
However that makes you a vip client , so life could be worse .
However that makes you a vip client , so life could be worse .
This is a good point of view, that I appreciate
I work with consultants, ive worked in consulting
I play SimCity in real life, except the budgets are real and the consequences are slightly more stressful
I understand the billable hours spectrum. I've had genuine friendships come out of those experiences as colleagues and consultants who've ive worked with who still keep the connection for future work and ive built genuine business connections with these individuals
but none of them have made me orgasm or seen my naked parts
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No that’s not ever going to work by putting any restrictions on what she does , you either accept it all as a package & realize she’s a professional & leave it at the door or if she’s wanting to leave be financially able to help her with that. If not then go to the dating sites 🙂
100% , this right here is a win believe me .
Now imagine for what ever reason your favour with her ran out or you had a falling out and how much you would miss what you have right now .
Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth , accept it for what it is , and enjoy the fantasy and the fact that you have enough connections to be a preferred client .
If she wants more believe me she knows how to let you know , these woman aren’t coy and this isn’t Bridgerton.
If you find your feelings are gaining far more traction than hers than it might not be the worst idea to take a pause on seeing her until these feelings pass ( which they will in time ).
Have you ever heard the term “demisexual”? I enjoy longer dates with more mutual connection for that reason as well, I want to genuinely connect… it’s part of what turns me on. I get the sense you might resonate with Demi as well 😉
Don’t think with your dick, your dick is not your friend.
I think you misunderstood me.
I am not he is imposing a restriction on her not to do let's say DFK but it is more like a mutually agreed upon decision. Simply saying is to reserve something special just for the two of them.
That is something that is in movies & doesn’t work , he will never know if she’s truthful in that agreement & she will not be able to act naturally in her work , time goes by it gets used against you.It wouldn’t work. He would be very naive to believe she’s going to do that and affect her business.I think you misunderstood me.
