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Hello yall,

I've been going to parlours for a while now, and I think I'm fairly young (20) compared to a lot of yall on this board (sorry...) and so I am still a virgin. But anyways I was reading some of these reviews from like the blue shark guy and others and I was thinking, am I not doing enough? Like usually I like go in, shower, lie down, touch and finger her whilst I get massaged, then CBJ and HJ and then just talk and leave, but a lot of yall seem to be doing shit like massaging the girl, making her cum, daty, shit like that. Should I be doing that? Should I like ask a provider to teach me how?? This is also kinda important cause like eventually if I get with a not-provider I think it's important or something...

Curious about yalls advice!!

...and obligatory GenZ: ts pmo icl so Kevin ngl
 
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cardbore said:
Hello yall,

I've been going to parlours for a while now, and I think I'm fairly young (20) compared to a lot of yall on this board (sorry...) and so I am still a virgin. But anyways I was reading some of these reviews from like the blue shark guy and others and I was thinking, am I not doing enough? Like usually I like go in, shower, lie down, touch and finger her whilst I get massaged, then CBJ and HJ and then just talk and leave, but a lot of yall seem to be doing shit like massaging the girl, making her cum, daty, shit like that. Should I be doing that? Should I like ask a provider to teach me how?? This is also kinda important cause like eventually if I get with a not-provider I think it's important or something...

Curious about yalls advice!!

...and obligatory GenZ: ts pmo icl so Kevin ngl
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Read reviews for entertainment value and not for what you should be doing. Every provider is different and every client is different so every session is different. If you want to do more with a provider, research for one that is good with the inexperienced and would enjoy teaching you. Then go and have fun. We all started somewhere. I have lots of clients who are a massage and a hand job. They are definitely not all fs. Usually more costs more money as well. Some people love to just lay back, get a massage, and then have a hand job.

if you’re going to be fingering a girl, the goal should be orgasm. But always with consent and take direction. Lots of ladies don’t allow fingers.
 
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Should I be doing that? Should I like ask a provider to teach me how?? This is also kinda important cause like eventually if I get with a not-provider I think it's important or something...
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Rather than simply imitating and following the words of other men, an unfortunate downfall that many guys face when trying to look for advice about women, talk to and listen to the lady you are with. We provide more accurate advice based off of our own lived experiences as women.

Make sure to tell the provider when you are inexperienced in something but want to learn and do well. It's important to ensure that your selected provider is someone you are comfortable communicating with. Definitely be upfront, honest, and open to trial and error.

Being known as a very responsive and vocal SP focused on consent makes me a choice for a fair number of people who want to gain different kinds of experience; I've been the first squirter for a lot of my clients whether they are in their 20s or even their 40s! Lots of laughs and care in handling that. There is no "one right way" to live, and no single way that everyone is "supposed" to be like whether in bed or otherwise.

Finally, have fun! So much of life is so unserious. We don't need to feel weight or urgency to every situation. Smiles, laughter, pleasure, it all comes together and helps you recognize that you are just two people in a place enjoying what bodies are capable of in physical and sometimes emotional intimacy. Take the good vibes, and enjoy the ride~
 
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Harmony-bc said:
Read reviews for entertainment value and not for what you should be doing. Every provider is different and every client is different so every session is different. If you want to do more with a provider, research for one that is good with the inexperienced and would enjoy teaching you. Then go and have fun. We all started somewhere. I have lots of clients who are a massage and a hand job. They are definitely not all fs. Usually more costs more money as well. Some people love to just lay back, get a massage, and then have a hand job.

if you’re going to be fingering a girl, the goal should be orgasm. But always with consent and take direction. Lots of ladies don’t allow fingers.
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Thank you!!! I see!
 
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rinamood said:
Rather than simply imitating and following the words of other men, an unfortunate downfall that many guys face when trying to look for advice about women, talk to and listen to the lady you are with. We provide more accurate advice based off of our own lived experiences as women.

Make sure to tell the provider when you are inexperienced in something but want to learn and do well. It's important to ensure that your selected provider is someone you are comfortable communicating with. Definitely be upfront, honest, and open to trial and error.

Being known as a very responsive and vocal SP focused on consent makes me a choice for a fair number of people who want to gain different kinds of experience; I've been the first squirter for a lot of my clients whether they are in their 20s or even their 40s! Lots of laughs and care in handling that. There is no "one right way" to live, and no single way that everyone is "supposed" to be like whether in bed or otherwise.

Finally, have fun! So much of life is so unserious. We don't need to feel weight or urgency to every situation. Smiles, laughter, pleasure, it all comes together and helps you recognize that you are just two people in a place enjoying what bodies are capable of in physical and sometimes emotional intimacy. Take the good vibes, and enjoy the ride~
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Alright yeah, that makes sense, thank you!
 
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I know that my reviews are often full of activity but I am trying to provide review information. Typically I am trying to cover a lot of bases especially when you consider that you can only do a detailed review every 2 months according to the rules. My advice is to do what makes you happy and her comfortable. When I am not in the room doing a review on a new provider or updating a previous one, I relax a bit more. Sometimes, I concentrate on making the lady feel comfortable with just body closeness time and a HJ. But I know how you feel, I read some of these posts and think, wow, these guys are insatiable.
 
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Every person and every situation is unique.

And communication is the best starting point for any interaction with anyone.

Should you do more? No.

If you want to do more, communicate it each time with each person.

And bring more cash. Don't assume everything is included in each situation every time.
 
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cardbore said:
Hello yall,

I've been going to parlours for a while now, and I think I'm fairly young (20) compared to a lot of yall on this board (sorry...) and so I am still a virgin. But anyways I was reading some of these reviews from like the blue shark guy and others and I was thinking, am I not doing enough? Like usually I like go in, shower, lie down, touch and finger her whilst I get massaged, then CBJ and HJ and then just talk and leave, but a lot of yall seem to be doing shit like massaging the girl, making her cum, daty, shit like that. Should I be doing that? Should I like ask a provider to teach me how?? This is also kinda important cause like eventually if I get with a not-provider I think it's important or something...

Curious about yalls advice!!

...and obligatory GenZ: ts pmo icl so Kevin ngl
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A while ago, someone told me that the goal of being with someone shouldn’t be to get your rocks off, it should be to set the stage for another time together.

I’m pretty sure they said it better, but I tend to be a pleaser, and I really enjoy things like DATY, and spending time on my partner, SW or not.

You said at the end that you’re thinking about being with folks who aren’t SW. I think it’s fair to talk to whoever you’re with, tell them you’re inexperienced and want to get better at oral, or fingering, or whatever. They know their bodies better than anyone, let them lead.

The joy of being with a sex worker is that as long as you pay attention to their guidelines, you can work together to figure out what works best for both of you.

Don’t feel like you have to do what I like, or what someone else likes. Think about what you want in a future partner, learn, and have fun.
 
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SmikeSmith said:
A while ago, someone told me that the goal of being with someone shouldn’t be to get your rocks off, it should be to set the stage for another time together.

I’m pretty sure they said it better, but I tend to be a pleaser, and I really enjoy things like DATY, and spending time on my partner, SW or not.

You said at the end that you’re thinking about being with folks who aren’t SW. I think it’s fair to talk to whoever you’re with, tell them you’re inexperienced and want to get better at oral, or fingering, or whatever. They know their bodies better than anyone, let them lead.

The joy of being with a sex worker is that as long as you pay attention to their guidelines, you can work together to figure out what works best for both of you.

Don’t feel like you have to do what I like, or what someone else likes. Think about what you want in a future partner, learn, and have fun.
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I do agree with everything you said.
Sadly there are far too many women who will not lead, and will not let you know when you have stuck oil and try to subdue their own reaction. Perhaps it is shame or something else. Communication is a key which opens up locked doors, and gives access to the most important erogenous zone - the brain.
 
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cardbore said:
Hello yall,

I've been going to parlours for a while now, and I think I'm fairly young (20) compared to a lot of yall on this board (sorry...) and so I am still a virgin. But anyways I was reading some of these reviews from like the blue shark guy and others and I was thinking, am I not doing enough? Like usually I like go in, shower, lie down, touch and finger her whilst I get massaged, then CBJ and HJ and then just talk and leave, but a lot of yall seem to be doing shit like massaging the girl, making her cum, daty, shit like that. Should I be doing that? Should I like ask a provider to teach me how?? This is also kinda important cause like eventually if I get with a not-provider I think it's important or something...

Curious about yalls advice!!

...and obligatory GenZ: ts pmo icl so Kevin ngl
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wtf does that last line mean,lol
 
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cardbore said:
Hello yall,

I've been going to parlours for a while now, and I think I'm fairly young (20) compared to a lot of yall on this board (sorry...) and so I am still a virgin. But anyways I was reading some of these reviews from like the blue shark guy and others and I was thinking, am I not doing enough? Like usually I like go in, shower, lie down, touch and finger her whilst I get massaged, then CBJ and HJ and then just talk and leave, but a lot of yall seem to be doing shit like massaging the girl, making her cum, daty, shit like that. Should I be doing that? Should I like ask a provider to teach me how?? This is also kinda important cause like eventually if I get with a not-provider I think it's important or something...

Curious about yalls advice!!

...and obligatory GenZ: ts pmo icl so Kevin ngl
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Everyone’s turn ons are different, same goes for experience and what each person hopes to get out of a session.

Some folks just want to lay back and receive, others want the fully interactive experience (whether fs or half service). For some folks, giving pleasure is their turn on and for others it doesn’t matter or they only want to save that for their partner.

Whatever you’re doing in session (as long as you’re being respectful of boundaries and the providers humanity as well as paying without negotiating), is fine.

If you want to experience something new or learn how to develop your erotic intelligence/skills, by all means talk to your provider about that.

I have a few lovely fellas who love to give massage and they’re often the ones who get an extra fulfilling experience because it helps me get in my body and even more turned on.

Guess who reaps the benefits of a more turned on Sophia?
 
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