Recent content by rubytuesday

The real debate that arises from this is what should and shouldn't be considered wild, anti-social urges of some fucked up men. What is wild and anti-social and how do we categorize fucked up?

@sleepmonger: Thanks for clarifying. I think/hope most parents want to defend their parenting knowing that deep down, they are not as perfect as they wish they were, but trying their hardest! @Toon: Introspection is always good thing. I know how difficult it is to think things all the way...

mimi, thank you so so much for taking the time to share everything you have. Your openness and honesty is exactly what I'm striving for and I find it very easy to relate to so many things you've said. What resonates with me most is that at the end of the my life, he is the one I want to grow old...

@cuteangie: I don't know what I expect to get from this either, but I can say it has provided more perspective, which is something I'm always open to. And yes, I agree that only my husband can answer for himself. Perhaps curiosity, fear, hope and hopelessness have brought me here. Whatever the...

*laughs* To everyone in general, I'll say it again, I'm not a troll and I sure do wish I could be in this very moment so I wouldn't have to deal with all this. What fun it would hypothetically be if all this weren't real. But it is. And in spite of that, a lot of your replies have left a...

@cuteangie Thanks so much for your reply. It's crossed my mind but I'm just not that breed of crazy. I have been tempted to offer different SPs $$$ to identify my husband in a row of pictures just to confirm that he wasn't simply making phone calls, that he was actually seeing them, but felt...

Chilli, it's funny how hearing things from strangers with no obligation towards my feelings can make me feel better and confirm what I believe (about good sex) is true. ..sorry for the long strange grammar of that sentence..

Creepy psycho stalker question for anyone: Are 2 phonecalls, a few minutes apart, each lasting 1 minute seem like protocol SP booking? Again, thanks in advance for any PMs and replies. @vancity_cowboy: You're right. I'm a pretty intelligent person, and forgiving and loving to a fault. I hope...

@Missy Mariposa: Thank you for your input. I appreciate it. :) Following up on what you said, would you still say it could be emotional if it's with different SPs? (I totally accept YES as an answer, but love insight on how it's possible if it is with different SPs and happens only after some...

@lost-in-japan: Thank you very much. No, I'm not a troll, but what I meant was, feel free to troll me for being the pathetic weeping wife who does everything she can but leave. =P rubytuesday is not my nickname anywhere else, but he'd probably be able to guess it was me by the "way I write". As...

So, first off, I apologize for entering your community and just want to say that I'm not trying to intrude or judge and you can troll me as much as you want, or give me your honest feedback. Hopefully, it'll be the latter. My husband (who I have children with) has been seeing SPs about once a...