asking out a girl!

[magicmystery]

Ah well, that changes things. My advice to you is no different than it was before, but your chances are probably higher than I had assessed. Good luck!

I hope so. Now I've to wait through the whole weekend now - I wish I had asked her out earlier this evening and gotten it over with.

What do you guys think about calling her for a lunch-date and then following it up with an in-person visit that I've to make to hand her the void-cheque anyway?

 

[magicmystery]

If she says no to you, you can at least stop posting on this board to look for confidence through someone else, because you at least had the balls to do it.

Hahaha. Yes, in the end, it's all about 'who dares wins';

After NOT asking her out earlier this evening, I feel let down by myself. How hard is it to say two sentence? Sure, she might say 'no' but then it's not like that 'no' will make situation any worse than it is. I had everything to gain and nothing to lose.

You are right, I won't acquire confidence through this board or through therapy. I'd ask her on Monday over the phone or in person. Now I am not even so worried about actually taking her out. Now it's about me -- I don't like this feeling of having 'chickened out'. I need to get this over with and ask someone else out soon after and continue practicing. Speaking of which, since I am new to Vancouver, tell me, where can I meet new people (girls)? I am not a bar/night club kind of person (don't drink, smoke and talking over loud music is just not my thing).

By the way, I saw Sarah (indy R&T in Richmond) yesterday. Posting a review soon.

 

[ThreeTimes]

ThreeTimes feels your pain.

What if the chick is a totally ugly pig? Will you feel nervous? It is perfectly fine to feel nervous. That is the feeling that motivates you.

ThreeTimes' suggestion to overcome feras with women:

1) Date a lot of women, even the ones you don't like. Just date them and practice your skills with women. However, this might not be helpful for the pressing issue you are having.

2) Poon a lot. Go out and see those extra hot SPs. You will get used to being with hot women. So, during the weekend, go out and poon like if there is no tomorrow. On Monday, you will have very courage to ask your lady out.

 

[maroonedsailor]

u makin me crazy

I hate to say it, but you blew your chance. Sure, you'll be able to see her again to give her the void cheque, but if you ask her out when you see her again, she'll probably think: "hey, he conveniently forgot to give this to me so he could see me again to ask me out... how creepy."

Now, I'm not saying that you shouldn't ask her out anyway, because there's always a chance that she might think: "hey, he conveniently forgot to give this to me so he could see me again to ask me out... how sweet." The odds are against it, but you've got absolutely nothing to lose by trying, so give it a shot.

My advice to you is to not build it up as some big thing. Convince yourself that you don't care if she shoots you down. That way, there'll be no reason for you to be nervous at all when you ask her. If you're not nervous, you'll be more able to just be yourself - the confident version of yourself.

If you get rejected, not only is it no big deal, but it'll actually be good for you. You'll see that being shot down by one woman isn't the end of the world, and seeing that it's not so bad, you'll be more comfortable with asking out the next girl. The more comfortable and confident you are, the better your chances.

This date has been so over thought as to eliminate any possible spontanaity (spell check?). At this point he's going in there with his limp dick in his hand like a beaten dog looking for crumbs. Before asking ANY woman for a date this guy needs to spend some time doing martial arts or something to toughen his mind/body and build some confidence. When I was 14 my older brother said "will you stop chasing these broads already? just stand still and let em catch you" Good advice. "James Bond" doesn't give a shit if they blow him or not and he just assumes they'll want to. In your mind - go there.

 

[maroonedsailor]

Hahaha. since I am new to Vancouver, tell me, where can I meet new people (girls)? I am not a bar/night club kind of person (don't drink, smoke and talking over loud music is just not my thing).

Go to a gym, take a martial arts class, go rock climbing. Do something you wouldn't normally do. Join a political action group. Join toastmasters and build some confidence speaking in front of groups. Go to boot camp. Teach yourself that you CAN. Somewhere along the line you'll start meeting women. Until that time enjoy the R and T girls or wank it like a monkey in a mango tree..
As the secretary said to the Mayor " best of luck on your next erection"

 

[LittleAsianGuy]

Im a stud and id never ask any girl out. Let them ask me out instead

 

[LightBearer]

How come no women have let us know what they like or expect?

You see a woman go up to her and as her "Hey hows it goin? Hey look I got a question. If a man is going to ask a woman out should he be direct or indirect at first?" Shes going to say "Direct" then boom you ask her. Say something like. "Ok well I had to talk to you, you look stunning, here give me your digits (as you hand her your phone) and we'll go see a movie or coffee or something...." She'll giggle and if she plays with her hair thats a good sign. She puts in number give her your name and then leave.

 

[magicmystery]

Go to a gym, take a martial arts class, go rock climbing. Do something you wouldn't normally do. Join a political action group. Join toastmasters and build some confidence speaking in front of groups. Go to boot camp. Teach yourself that you CAN. Somewhere along the line you'll start meeting women. Until that time enjoy the R and T girls or wank it like a monkey in a mango tree..
As the secretary said to the Mayor " best of luck on your next erection"

Yep. Already started martial-arts and also Yoga last week. Was doing grouse-grind every weekend when it wasn't cold.

 

[leelee]

Okay, I will chime in...

How come no women have let us know what they like or expect?

I cannot speak for this girl specifically; however, I can let you know how most women feel.

I think that most ladies can sense when a gentleman is interested in them. Men just act a certain way...I am not sure what it is specifically...but women can tell.

When a woman can sense that a man likes them she will respond according to how she feels about him. If she likes him, then she will smile more or chat more, or touch his arm gently in conversation. You know, little things like that. Women usually don't want to be the aggressors; therefore, they let their physical hints do the talking.

If a girl is not interested in being asked out by the gentleman, then she will change her behaviour in order to keep a distance between herself and the guy, so that he gets the hint without having to ask the girl and receive a no.

Magic mystery: if you are nervous about asking her out, you could just try flirting with her to see how she responds. If she "takes the bait" then she likes you, if not then she only sees you as a friend.

Lastly, I have a question for you guys. In my life I have been flirting with a guy who has flirted back with me. Does that mean that he is interested, or do men just like the attention that women give men. I guess what I am asking is how do you know that a guy likes a girl, especially if he is immensely shy. What signs do you guys give off?

 

[HB40]

Lastly, I have a question for you guys. In my life I have been flirting with a guy who has flirted back with me. Does that mean that he is interested, or do men just like the attention that women give men. I guess what I am asking is how do you know that a guy likes a girl, especially if he is immensely shy. What signs do you guys give off?

If we are breathing and blinking I would say that is a good sign we like you.

YES, we like the attention you give us.

 

[Validator]

I agree with everyones advice - any of them will work depending on how much she likes you based on the first impressions (look, clothes, smile, demeanor, etc). So really that's all that matters - how much she likes you and a decent approach will work. I think at this stage, given this is new territory, I really think there's too much thinking and analyzing and you should just ask her out. Since u will see her after the weekend, ask her how the weekend was. That should get things going. Her answer may reveal a boyfriend too! But asking is a feat it itself and doing so is a great step forward. Think big but act one step at a time and your next step is simply to ask her out.

 

[lenny]

I think Validator hit the thing on a head.

 

[maroonedsailor]

Yoga?!?!?

I think you should turn in your penis right now.

Yoga = good place to meet healthy women in good shape with some kind of self image. I say well done lad.

 

[HB40]

He should still turn in his penis.

Sheesh, lets at least wait to see if he grows a pair, that penis might come in handy then.

 

[maroonedsailor]

Lastly, I have a question for you guys. In my life I have been flirting with a guy who has flirted back with me. Does that mean that he is interested, or do men just like the attention that women give men. I guess what I am asking is how do you know that a guy likes a girl, especially if he is immensely shy. What signs do you guys give off?

Leelee, the answer is that most men are thick as a brick. They do not get subtle hints and in many cases they don't even get direct requests. In fact, men are so stupid about women that it's a miracle the race doesn't die out altogether. But God in her infinite wisdom created pussy and it's the pussy that rules in the end. Truthfully, if it wasn't for pussy, men would spend most of their time with other men, drinking beer, fighting and shooting helpless lil animokes to roast over an open fire while drinking and fighting with their friends. It's been said that if women didn't have a pussy there would be a bounty on them. (that's a joke so please take it as one) Guys do not give off signs. They are not that subtle. Just show up naked with beer.

 

[trackstar]

Leelee, the answer is that most men are thick as a brick. They do not get subtle hints and in many cases they don't even get direct requests. In fact, men are so stupid about women that it's a miracle the race doesn't die out altogether. But God in her infinite wisdom created pussy and it's the pussy that rules in the end. Truthfully, if it wasn't for pussy, men would spend most of their time with other men, drinking beer, fighting and shooting helpless lil animokes to roast over an open fire while drinking and fighting with their friends. It's been said that if women didn't have a pussy there would be a bounty on them. (that's a joke so please take it as one) Guys do not give off signs. They are not that subtle. Just show up naked with beer.

I'm guessing you were raised by a single mother that taught you how to pee sitting down?

 

[maroonedsailor]

He should still turn in his penis.

LMAO - the line for turning in penises forms on the right. Please do not push. The guy in front of you was selected by the WFUWLD (women fed up with limp dicks) committee just before you were so be cool.

 

[maroonedsailor]

I'm guessing you were raised by a single mother that taught you how to pee sitting down?

uh huh - and I'm guessing you're about 22

 

[trackstar]

uh huh - and I'm guessing you're about 22

lol, I wish...

 

[HB40]

Guys do not give off signs.

Gee I don't know about that one, the bulge in my pants has gotten me into trouble a few times, it's always a dead give away.