Would you accept your SP/an SP as a GF or Wife?

[Miss*Bijou]

another poll about dating us circus freaks..umm.. i mean, SP's

I think that everyone who has answered Yes without having experienced it can say it all they want but the answer means nothing until you can back it with real life, real love experience.

It's so easy to answer yes with the best of intentions and open mind without having lived it, it's even possible to answer the same way in the beginnings of it..... but a few months down the line, when the woman you love is busy getting ready for work, kisses you on her way out and all you can think of is that you know she's on her way to fuck someone else.... there are very few of you who would still say yes.

Some, yes... but very few. That's just the way it is. Things change as it gets more serious. And by then, the initial answer means shit. Just means wasted time.


So as strange as it may sound, I feel safer knowing someone who's answer is no. Because I know where I stand, I know they're not fooling themselves (or me) and I can be sure it won't change!

 

[aznboi9]

If it was in the past, absolutely I wouldn't care one bit. A girl's past has never bothered me or been my concern.

If she was actively working as an SP, I have to say I really don't know as I've never been in a remotely similar position. I would like to say that it wouldn't bother me and that I wouldn't get jealous and I would absolutely want to be a supportive SO; but I honestly have to say I wouldn't know unless I was in the situation.

One thing though, given the secrecy of this pooner "alter ego" that I have, it would probably end up being the most honest relationship I've ever been in.

 

[smackyo]

"If it was in the past, absolutely I wouldn't care one bit. A girl's past has never bothered me or been my concern."

Don't dwell on the past instead learn from it. Lessons learned and forward to the future...

pretty much the same thing. if she is still active then no but if she was finished with it and it was all done then sure, who am i to judge. but if i was with someone and they hid it from me and remained active and i found out, i'd probably freak.

 

[SexyBoy]

I think that everyone who has answered Yes without having experienced it can say it all they want but the answer means nothing until you can back it with real life, real love experience.

It's so easy to answer yes with the best of intentions and open mind without having lived it, it's even possible to answer the same way in the beginnings of it..... but a few months down the line, when the woman you love is busy getting ready for work, kisses you on her way out and all you can think of is that you know she's on her way to fuck someone else.... there are very few of you who would still say yes.

Some, yes... but very few. That's just the way it is. Things change as it gets more serious. And by then, the initial answer means shit. Just means wasted time.


So as strange as it may sound, I feel safer knowing someone who's answer is no. Because I know where I stand, I know they're not fooling themselves (or me) and I can be sure it won't change!

I don't get jealous about sex. I start getting jealous when the girl is going out on dinner dates etc.

It has to be a two way street also. If I want to go see a SP I should be able to do that.

Other then that I don't see a real problem with it besides the worry about the condom breaking and now you cannot go BBFS with her until she gets tested etc.

SP's can be great gf's some have so much love to give.

 

[Lurker 123]

"If it was in the past, absolutely I wouldn't care one bit. A girl's past has never bothered me or been my concern."

Don't dwell on the past instead learn from it. Lessons learned and forward to the future...

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Exactly! I have been dating a sp for two years and three months. So far everything is doing well and she has given up seeing any other clients for more than 9 months. The chemistry between her and mine are nicely matched. And I can't see why we can't continue!

As you can see I haven't contributed much for the last 12 months mainly because my love life between an ex-sp is doing well!

 

[GoodKat]

In the past? Yes. Still working? No.

 

[Wet My Noodle]

My future gf/or ex wife is cheating on me right now.

The bottom line is that SEX is only about 5-10 % of the relationship.

The rest of the relationship, is making it or breaking it.

Hypathetically Speaking, Your with an SP, You get married.

As the relationship progress's, there are few times within the relationship, that you want SEX and she says NO.
Be true to yourself, Would you absolutely accept that with NO JUDGEMENT>


Cheers.

 

[rescue911]

other side of the coin

what SP in her right mind would want one of us:

- she knows from the get go we are going to be unfaithful,
- we will argue over price when it comes to things she wants to buy,
- we will want to be in bed by 9:00 PM for at least 2 hrs,
- we will expect her to give bbbjs as a prequel to lousy sex for her,
- she has already lied to us about what great lovers we are,
- she knows we will lie and tell other ladies what a lousy lay she is and how she is so hard to get along with,
- she knows we will tell other ladies that she does not understand us..even though she know from experience what assholes we are,
- and worst of all.. she knows that we will be on here telling all of the guys how much she enjoys greek eventhough she has never done it with us,
- what SP in her right mind would want a husband when she has already had 100s

happy new year everyone.

 

[ma1234]

what SP in her right mind would want one of us:

- she knows from the get go we are going to be unfaithful,
- we will argue over price when it comes to things she wants to buy,
- we will want to be in bed by 9:00 PM for at least 2 hrs,
- we will expect her to give bbbjs as a prequel to lousy sex for her,
- she has already lied to us about what great lovers we are,
- she knows we will lie and tell other ladies what a lousy lay she is and how she is so hard to get along with,
- she knows we will tell other ladies that she does not understand us..even though she know from experience what assholes we are,
- and worst of all.. she knows that we will be on here telling all of the guys how much she enjoys greek eventhough she has never done it with us,
- what SP in her right mind would want a husband when she has already had 100s

happy new year everyone.

Very true. It is beyond me why would any woman, let alone an sp want to marry a pooner?

 

[Aerts]

Such an honest point of view. Most of the guys who answered yes are thinking with the little head and not the big one. We are jealous by nature and we can pretend to be open-minded all we like. I bet most guys who had a SP relationship probably used her old profession in a verbal fight. We say hurtful things and I'm sure some nasty things come out in a heated discussion.

If I was dating an SP and we got into a fight, I would never let her profession enter the picture because I would always remember the time that I clicked yes on a PERB poll about accepting an SP as a GF/wife.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

If I was dating an SP and we got into a fight, I would never let her profession enter the picture because I would always remember the time that I clicked yes on a PERB poll about accepting an SP as a GF/wife.

lol

good one. hehe
Not sure why but I like that one.

 

[SexyBoy]

What if you get into a huge fight go see her have angry sex!

 

[SexyBoy]

Id rather date or marry a SP over a stripper. Dated two strippers in the past and nothing but problems. Im unsure if I could live in a comfortable home with a SP while she was working. I dont know though.

Do they travel a lot?

I would think that would be my biggest problem. They don't get paid to have sex yet while they are on the road many do have sex.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I believe you. But when we want to hurt our partner we go for some of the darkest things that should never be said. I can imagine all guys dating current/retired SPs saying they would never mention her past in a fight and find themselves doing the opposite.

Is that a guy thing? I don't get that... I mean, I've been able to control that urge even when I'm really really reallllly angry. After a few times realizing the damage that can be done and not undone, I learned.
Sure, I can say or act impulsively and be like WTF after it's all over.. but the real hurtful things that come to mind or the ones you just know are going to sting..? I can totally keep that to myself even if really pissed off.
But somehow it isn't the case with most men I've met...... why is that? Is a guy thing (in general or just the ones I'm lucky enough to meet? LOL) or a maturity thing?...or what?
(Sorry kinda hijacking here but oh well..)

 

[Miss*Bijou]

What if you get into a huge fight go see her have angry sex!

LOL

That, is a SP secret weapon. I'm telling you...
I wish I could advertise it cause I'm at my very best when having angry sex.
No kidding.. I just wish I could advertise it. lol All that extra angry energy.... just tons of fun for all involved, I tell ya. I love it!

 

[ma1234]

I can imagine in case of a divorce a husband could argue the wife is not fit to raise the kids, because she used to be an escort and she may bring the johns home etc.

Which judge would let the woman have the kids if he thinks they are being endangered?

 

[ma1234]

What if you get into a huge fight go see her have angry sex!

SexyBoy, HONESTLY, how old are you? 14?

 

[ma1234]

But somehow it isn't the case with most men I've met...... why is that? Is a guy thing (in general or just the ones I'm lucky enough to meet? LOL) or a maturity thing?...or what?
(Sorry kinda hijacking here but oh well..)

It is not a guy thing. It is lack of respect.

 

[Miss*Bijou]

So have any of your exes mentioned about your past?

Wouldn't you if you had a weapon that you knew no matter when, where, how or what the fight is about, is going to hurt and hurt good? No need to think of anything or get creative, that one will never fail you. And you'd let it go to waste? My guess is not many would.

 

[SexyBoy]

Is that a guy thing? I don't get that... I mean, I've been able to control that urge even when I'm really really reallllly angry. After a few times realizing the damage that can be done and not undone, I learned.
Sure, I can say or act impulsively and be like WTF after it's all over.. but the real hurtful things that come to mind or the ones you just know are going to sting..? I can totally keep that to myself even if really pissed off.
But somehow it isn't the case with most men I've met...... why is that? Is a guy thing (in general or just the ones I'm lucky enough to meet? LOL) or a maturity thing?...or what?
(Sorry kinda hijacking here but oh well..)

I never do that. Sure I do get into arguments but not over them being a SP. If anything I get upset when she doesn't capitalize on her situation enough.

Hey if I was a woman I would have my current job and I would also be a SP. Just like a few of the SP's I already know. I would do what Rebbeca Lord does. She has phone sex, makes movies, is a SP, has a porn website. She also has a family and is married.