The feeling of being desired

[MikeyLikey99]

I may be posting this in the wrong thread, but I think it straddles the line between 411 and the lounge.

Presumably, most of us have seen at least one and, judging from the quantity of reviews posted from some people, perhaps all the way up to hundreds of providers. At one end of the spectrum, you see someone who seems disinterested in you and gives a poor to mediocre mechanical service. At the other end, you walk in the door and are met with someone completely engaged in the moment, clean, subjectively attractive, and very interested in you and exploring whatever floats your boat during your time together.

Since I’m a middle-aged out-of-shape guy, not really conventionally attractive, and usually nervous when meeting, i’m under no illusions that the girls are really attracted to me. The best ones make me question my assumptions giving me a big boost my confidence and mojo. They are masterful at creating the natural feeling that they desire you. For some guys, I’m sure there is a real element of desire from the ladies, due to looks or personality or a connection built up over time. For many of us however, they put on a master class of acting which amazes me when I encounter it. The best make it seem so real.

At this point I have two questions for members (male or female), what elements are key to making you feel absolutely desired. I would also be fascinated to know how providers get into that headspace, and what they think are the keys to making that feeling successful.

My other question, of course, is who among the current Vancouver providers do you recommend for that immersive experience of desire? I’m not really talking about ones that can make you laugh or are good at making you feel comfortable - i’ve had great experiences with ladies like that. I really mean the ones that actively make you feel desired. They want you, want to explore you, and everything flows from that desire.

 

[masterpoonhunter]

Your post makes a very good point.
Desire.
Powerful thing to feel desired, wanted and in a sexual way to know that your partner WANTS you to do good things to her!!
I have no illusions that any particular SP is full on in the desire mode, nice when it happens but as a pooner of decades anytime it happens its a bonus and I consider it unique that it most likely won't happen again with that same intensity.
On the civilian side of things, being desired is one of the primary reasons we as men fall into that love thing which can lead to those semi permanent relationships called marriage ...

 

[PuntMeister]

A few thoughts here.

First, in my experience, SP’s who are natural nympho’s (they really need/want sex every day), are more likely to invoke that sense of desire. So if a reviewer complains about an SP being too vocal or assertive, I’m like move over rover and let Punty take over.

Second, amp up your flirting skills. Do a dinner date first perhaps and throw a few wry smiles and smirks, tell funny stories, and be truly interested in Her convo. Try a roleplay perhaps—set the stage for desire to emerge.

Third, try pooning below your weight class instead of above it. You are more likely to find some honest desire when you are the treat. So try searching for slightly shorter / curvier / less attractive / more ethnically diverse advertisers than you usually do, as long as they have good attitude reviews.

Good luck, we all deserve to be desired to the extent we believe we are worthy of being desired.

 

[MikeyLikey99]

A few thoughts here.

First, in my experience, SP’s who are natural nympho’s (they really need/want sex every day), are more likely to invoke that sense of desire. So if a reviewer complains about an SP being too vocal or assertive, I’m like move over rover and let Punty take over.

Second, amp up your flirting skills. Do a dinner date first perhaps and throw a few wry smiles and smirks, tell funny stories, and be truly interested in Her convo. Try a roleplay perhaps—set the stage for desire to emerge.

Third, try pooning below your weight class instead of above it. You are more likely to find some honest desire when you are the treat. So try searching for slightly shorter / curvier / less attractive / more ethnically diverse advertisers than you usually do, as long as they have good attitude reviews.

Good luck, we all deserve to be desired to the extent we believe we are worthy of being desired.

Thanks for chiming in! I hear what you’re saying, Punty, but I’m really looking for recommendations for the ladies that can “fake” it very convincingly even when they aren’t feeling it 😁

Could I do more to amp up my flirting skills? Sure, 100% there is room for improvement. But It’s not as if I go into a session not caring how I present; I have to work with what I have, and I’m not going to charm school and dedicating a significant amount of my time to fitness in the hopes that it elicits genuine desire on the part of an SP. That’s more like if I’m looking for a partner in the real world

I’m curious about people‘s experiences if that is something that they look for. For myself, since I’m willing to pay for the experience with someone above my league, I’m looking for feedback on who does it really well

 

[tymyshoe]

I agree with you all and am in the same boat at the OP.
Very rare but i feel like the girls ive seen like this are queen ivy and nadia at the fox den. The platinum club girls deffiently not and K604 for sure not. Those are chop chop hurry up shops for sure. I think though these girls all maybe have good and bad days but on the days i caught these ones they were into the session.

Currently im in the que for aubrey angel and its my first time checking out the west coast angels agency and im excited for this exotic creature. I hope shes not a let down on the natural chemistry ile because the screening process for wca is harder than getting an apartment lol. like if you dont have any references and such.


I hope you find some natural feeling providers or some are revealed.

I think jenny fox was also into it but more like friendly and fun than maybe the desired your talking about.

To be desired is like a look in the eyes that you have their full attention. That their caressing you and curious of your presence. It feels like a warm hug or embrace that makes you feel welcome. Its definitely a hard feeling to put into words but can be seen through the eyes.

 

[MikeyLikey99]

I agree with you all and am in the same boat at the OP.
Very rare but i feel like the girls ive seen like this are queen ivy and nadia at the fox den. The platinum club girls deffiently not and K604 for sure not. Those are chop chop hurry up shops for sure. I think though these girls all maybe have good and bad days but on the days i caught these ones they were into the session.

Currently im in the que for aubrey angel and its my first time checking out the west coast angels agency and im excited for this exotic creature. I hope shes not a let down on the natural chemistry ile because the screening process for wca is harder than getting an apartment lol. like if you dont have any references and such.


I hope you find some natural feeling providers or some are revealed.

I think jenny fox was also into it but more like friendly and fun than maybe the desired your talking about.

To be desired is like a look in the eyes that you have their full attention. That their caressing you and curious of your presence. It feels like a warm hug or embrace that makes you feel welcome. Its definitely a hard feeling to put into words but can be seen through the eyes.

You get it 👍
I experienced one last year, and it was incredible. I don’t think it’s a common skill or talent… I’m not quite sure how to describe it.

To be honest, after I posted this, I was thinking I should tell the next lady that I’m looking for an experience like that and then see how it goes. Perhaps it’s just not something they normally bust out since it’s more work. Duh 😁

 

[tymyshoe]

You get it 👍
I experienced one last year, and it was incredible. I don’t think it’s a common skill or talent… I’m not quite sure how to describe it.

To be honest, after I posted this, I was thinking I should tell the next lady that I’m looking for an experience like that and then see how it goes. Perhaps it’s just not something they normally bust out since it’s more work. Duh 😁

Yeah i donno if you tell them that takes away the fun though too. Their were some girls in alberta that were like that but long way to travel.


Ive been curious about suga babies but these sites seem to never pull up any meets or anything. waste of money.

If you find one tell us!

 

[luvsdaty]

I may be posting this in the wrong thread, but I think it straddles the line between 411 and the lounge.

Presumably, most of us have seen at least one and, judging from the quantity of reviews posted from some people, perhaps all the way up to hundreds of providers. At one end of the spectrum, you see someone who seems disinterested in you and gives a poor to mediocre mechanical service. At the other end, you walk in the door and are met with someone completely engaged in the moment, clean, subjectively attractive, and very interested in you and exploring whatever floats your boat during your time together.

Since I’m a middle-aged out-of-shape guy, not really conventionally attractive, and usually nervous when meeting, i’m under no illusions that the girls are really attracted to me. The best ones make me question my assumptions giving me a big boost my confidence and mojo. They are masterful at creating the natural feeling that they desire you. For some guys, I’m sure there is a real element of desire from the ladies, due to looks or personality or a connection built up over time. For many of us however, they put on a master class of acting which amazes me when I encounter it. The best make it seem so real.

At this point I have two questions for members (male or female), what elements are key to making you feel absolutely desired. I would also be fascinated to know how providers get into that headspace, and what they think are the keys to making that feeling successful.

My other question, of course, is who among the current Vancouver providers do you recommend for that immersive experience of desire? I’m not really talking about ones that can make you laugh or are good at making you feel comfortable - i’ve had great experiences with ladies like that. I really mean the ones that actively make you feel desired. They want you, want to explore you, and everything flows from that desire.

This should be in the Vancouver 411

 

[jgg]

I find the more money I spend the more they desire me.

Don't fool yourself and don't set yourself up for a devastating case of feels.

 

[angry anderson]

A few thoughts here.



Third, try pooning below your weight class instead of above it.

LOL.

 

[angry anderson]

Could I do more to amp up my flirting skills? Sure, 100% there is room for improvement. But It’s not as if I go into a session not caring how I present; I have to work with what I have, and I’m not going to charm school and dedicating a significant amount of my time to fitness in the hopes that it elicits genuine desire on the part of an SP. That’s more like if I’m looking for a partner in the real world

Sort of sounds like it you aren't committed to doing the work, you are going to flunk the test. Load up your wallet if you want an Oscar nominee.

 

[angry anderson]

Funny thread. When I first got into this there were amazing girls. Malaysian Queenie. The original JoJo. You could find them on Craigslist. Greeted at the door by a 9 who would french kiss you, drop to her knees, unzip your fly and suck your cock, before you even hit the shower. Felt like Crocodile Dundee...."seems like a noice friendly place".....All for 120 for an hour.
Those days are gone.
Frankly I don't know how women can do it. I guess I am too old for this.

 

[Once you go black]

Really interesting topic. I assume by your post you want a genuine connection and not a great actress.
In my experience , for what you’re looking for , it doesn’t have to be a fireworks connection the first time. If its a small connection but a good one and genuine , then keep going back every once in a while . In my experience most women ( given that she’s already a little enticed by you ) will become more attracted to you as they get toy know you more. So if there seems like something could be there , get to know her more over time and see what blossoms. This has worked very well for me . Including providers.

That being said, there is also a fine line . I also don’t over do it , I personally wouldn’t do more than once a week , just like real life, the coolage effect can put a damper on the fire.

To put things into perspective, pretty much all women have been getting hit on by multiple guys since they hit puberty .
Many of the guys smart, attractive etc . And thats just civilian women . So to expect the fireworks to be at 9 or 10 right away is a big ask . But if its an 8 or even 7 and it seems real , that can definitely grow .

I tend to think of mens libido’s like light switches , women’s more like volume knobs.

 

[MikeyLikey99]

It may sound a bit shallow, but I’m completely fine with a great actress. I mean, do all y’all think those moaning, leg twitching orgasms are real 100% of the time 😂

If she honestly feels desire, that’s even better. So, if there’s a local lady that makes you feel that way please drop her name or private message me.

 

[SashaStriker]

I would like to add that although there is an element of creating a fantasy, speaking only for myself here that there is the assumption from most that it is all an act, when in fact for some of us the connections we build are very very genuine. I like to think of us as chameleons because I can tell you no dynamic is the same and for me that is something I quite enjoy. Before this industry I found myself changing directions every couple of years, because doing the same thing over and over was not as satisfactory for me. Adhd is also quite common amongst us providers.
There is a level of excitement and diversity that for myself I personally enjoy in this. As for desire… I desire to be seen, heard and valued just as much as im sure anyone does. I will say for myself this work has been incredibly self explorative and healing. I enjoy to give that back to people even if only for a brief moment.
Im not really sure if my response is hitting on the question you had asked but my brain has already squirrelled to something else.

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Just a tid bit from the other side.
✨

 

[VinVan]

Thanks for chiming in! I hear what you’re saying, Punty, but I’m really looking for recommendations for the ladies that can “fake” it very convincingly even when they aren’t feeling it 😁

Could I do more to amp up my flirting skills? Sure, 100% there is room for improvement. But It’s not as if I go into a session not caring how I present; I have to work with what I have, and I’m not going to charm school and dedicating a significant amount of my time to fitness in the hopes that it elicits genuine desire on the part of an SP. That’s more like if I’m looking for a partner in the real world

I’m curious about people‘s experiences if that is something that they look for. For myself, since I’m willing to pay for the experience with someone above my league, I’m looking for feedback on who does it really well

I don’t want to speak for Punt, but what (I think) he was hinting at is that there are a spectrum of providers. At one end are the Oscar actresses that you seek and at the other end are the jackhammer artists at the standard AMP who have no interest in you aside from what’s in the wallet and have no desire to pretend otherwise.

When a client puts no effort into the engagement, is not high on the looks scale or has poor hygiene (I’m not suggesting the OP is any of these) then the number of providers who can fake the desire are few indeed. I’ve found that when I’m engaging, complementary of an SP’s virtues, kind and respectful, the SP has more desire for me. As clients, the worst name tag you can hang on a provider (on this forum at least, excluding scam artist) is being a starfish. So what is a male starfish but a client who puts no effort into the engagement and expects to be desired. It’s a Quixotic enterprise if there ever was one. It seems to me, the more effort you put in, the more likely you are to be desired (or fake desired).

Again, I’m not saying this is the OP, and not am I trying to pick a fight - just merely trying to make some sense of the question posed.

 

[steverino]

I tend to categorize the ladies into relationship focused and transactional focused. The relationship focused providers are looking for repeat business and potentially longer, more social plus physical visits. They invest the energy in trying to make the customer feel special and "desired." As others have intimated, at the end of the day it is still a business with the attendant limitations.

Transactional providers are looking at maximizing their return for each visit and will invest less time and energy in making the encounter special. More about the physical release than building a relationship.

I sense the OP is looking for providers who take the relationship focused approach.

 

[white Ninja]

The relationship focused providers are looking for repeat business and potentially longer, more social plus physical visits. They invest the energy in trying to make the customer feel special

This is no reflection on the industry in general , but in the time I’ve been in the hobby so far , these relationship focused providers which you perfectly describe, for me have been unicorns .

The couple I have found I have been loyal to because the experience is so much different.

Of course I am not speaking for everyone as many pooners prefer to keep seeing different ladies . I enjoy that as well , but the two who I have connected more with , I always return because for me the experience just feels more fulfilling ( again , just speaking for myself )

 

[MikeyLikey99]

From my limited experiences so far, steverino seems to describe it the best. I guess I’m in the unicorn camp. My preference would be to have a lady or a few ladies where I feel a connection and that “special” feeling with them. I’m not really into transactional encounters as much unless it’s something unique that they offer (an unusual look, or service, or something like that that I want to try).

 

[blakealridge]

I would say me. I truly am attracted to my clients and desire them. I love making my clients happy, especially insecure ones. But I know a lot of dudes don’t believe that cuz they feel shit about themselves, or they don’t think it’s possible. I mean I guess I could be lying, too. The truth is until you yourself feel desirable and believe you deserve to be cared for, you won’t feel like it’s real even if it is.