some things are never okay

[blakealridge]

Just stopped my session 1/4 of the way through because my regular client decided to “joke” about raping me (as an impromptu role-play we had definitely not discussed). He was on top of me at the time. I had a panic attack and had to take an Ativan and now my whole day is a writeoff. Why are men like this? At least he left immediately after (we were only 15 mins into the session) and paid in full, and was clearly remorseful. But good god. DO NOT DO THIS.

I'm proud of myself for not pushing down my emotions and forcing myself to keep going with the session. It would have built up and exploded as delayed trauma at a later time. I've definitely done that before, especially in situations where I felt less safe. Dealing with it head on and in the moment was scary, but necessary.

 

[Relax10]

Im sorry you had to go through this and I hope your day gets better.

 

[uncutboner1981]

Good for you. Stay Strong!!!

 

[Chuckerbie]

Im sorry you had to go through this and I hope your day gets better.

Good on you for being strong. Some people just don’t think.

 

[Originalscrappydoo]

Agree with above sentiments.
I’m so sorry you had to experience that, and the wake of following emotions for however long they will be on the surface.

And good for you! charlee! For recognizing your emotions and not suppressing them forcing through a session 🙌

We’re human beings with real emotions, with real life experiences and trauma. People need to remember this.

 

[blakealridge]

Thanks so much everyone 🥺 i appreciate your kind words so much

 

[sybian]

Just stopped my session 1/4 of the way through because my regular client decided to “joke” about raping me (as an impromptu role-play we had definitely not discussed). He was on top of me at the time. I had a panic attack and had to take an Ativan and now my whole day is a writeoff. Why are men like this? At least he left immediately after (we were only 15 mins into the session) and paid in full, and was clearly remorseful. But good god. DO NOT DO THIS.

I'm proud of myself for not pushing down my emotions and forcing myself to keep going with the session. It would have built up and exploded as delayed trauma at a later time. I've definitely done that before, especially in situations where I felt less safe. Dealing with it head on and in the moment was scary, but necessary.

PTSD, can be a bitch…..particularly given the fact that you’ve obviously suffered some trauma.
You did the right thing and removed the trigger or threat, and looked after your well being.
Dont bottle it up for later, otherwise you become something your not…..or in my case, something you'd never want to be.

Sending you some purification smoke from my campfire..

 

[Originalscrappydoo]

Let me say this about trauma;

We all have it. Every person on this earth. Each experience it different, and manifests different. It’s a fabric of our psyche and a foundation of how we as individuals function in the world.

Take a moment to think of others. Be kind.

 

[Mr. J]

Just reading this made me cringe so badly. I don't mean to sound extreme, but that kind of behavior warrants that clod to choke on a grape.

 

[MissingOne]

Correct and brave decision Charlee.

 

[Kikoolol]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I don't understand what goes into people's mind when they try to make joke about such things.

 

[blakealridge]

Thanks again so much to everyone replying to this and being supportive. It means a lot. Thankfully the client was/is incredibly remorseful, I trust that he truly knows he made a mistake and understands that my response was completely justified given his thoughtless actions. I honestly think I’ll probably see him again. He gave me space, paid me in full and left, even got choked up and teary himself.

I feel lucky he didn’t get angry or violent, or at least try to manipulate me into finishing the session, because that’s a totally expected response if I’m honest.

Sigh. You’re not all monsters but so many are. It’s scary not knowing who could be a bomb ready to go off.

 

[lukom]

That's terrible, nothing funny about that, and not sure why anyone would want to do that in any roll play either. Sorry you experienced that. People really suck.

 

[SashaStriker]

Just stopped my session 1/4 of the way through because my regular client decided to “joke” about raping me (as an impromptu role-play we had definitely not discussed). He was on top of me at the time. I had a panic attack and had to take an Ativan and now my whole day is a writeoff. Why are men like this? At least he left immediately after (we were only 15 mins into the session) and paid in full, and was clearly remorseful. But good god. DO NOT DO THIS.

I'm proud of myself for not pushing down my emotions and forcing myself to keep going with the session. It would have built up and exploded as delayed trauma at a later time. I've definitely done that before, especially in situations where I felt less safe. Dealing with it head on and in the moment was scary, but necessary.

Hugs! I’m with you sis.
it takes strength to intuitively know what to do In a horrible situation,
Wisdom to acknowledge it and courage to carry on ❤

 

[CapnMaynards]

Good god what a dumbass.

That's like saying "bomb" on an aeroplane, even if you don't mean anything by it you still can't cry about getting the ass whomping you deserve.

 

[Sonny69]

Sorry to hear. Nobody deserves that. Who knows what the lady may have gone thru In the past. He clearly gets his kicks in a messed up way. What worries me is this was most likely not his first time to act this way. I would almost report it to the RCMP as he may have a past history.

 

[Mclovinit604]

I think part of it might be the bullshit toxic male porn culture. Not all porn but the ones that promote degrading women. Sadly, I still hear some of it in locker rooms and bars.

 

[blakealridge]

I think part of it might be the bullshit toxic male porn culture. Not all porn but the ones that promote degrading women. Sadly, I still hear some of it in locker rooms and bars.

Yeah, toxic masculinity is rampart. What do you say when you hear it?

 

[AMG-GTR]

I love woman and I love sex and for that very reason, the “R” word is not okay. Even if it’s at the request of the recipient as a role play, I’m not sure I would even be able to stay hard.

I personally hate the term toxic masculinity. There are an equal amount of toxic feminist comments in my opinion. Unacceptable comments are unacceptable comments period.

To hear something like that given the circumstances at the time is fucked up. I can’t even imagine what that would feel like from a woman’s perspective and given your chosen profession.

This is coming from someone who is incredibly non PC and believes most people are too sensitive.

 

[Mclovinit604]

I love woman and I love sex and for that very reason, the “R” word is not okay. Even if it’s at the request of the recipient as a role play, I’m not sure I would even be able to stay hard.

I personally hate the term toxic masculinity. There are an equal amount of toxic feminist comments in my opinion. Unacceptable comments are unacceptable comments period.

To hear something like that given the circumstances at the time is fucked up. I can’t even imagine what that would feel like from a woman’s perspective and given your chosen profession.

This is coming from someone who is incredibly non PC and believes most people are too sensitive.

The difference is that “toxic feminists” don’t brag about raping men, sexually assaulting men, degrading men as objects, or beating the shit out of men.