marrying a working girl
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When you refer to women as girls, be them sex workers or otherwise, I feel disrespected and patronized. 'Working girl' is barely appropriate to describe a high school student who works as a cashier during her summer break. This isn't a political correctness thing, this is an appeal: please refer to me and my peers as sex workers or service providers, and more generally to women as women or ladies.
Marry a service provider -- no problem....... I would do it in a heartbeat.
My problem is --- trying to find one that would marry ME.
My problem is --- trying to find one that would marry ME.
Did anyone ever read the old craigslist M4M section and take a gander at all of the married men looking to screw other men?
It should be the ladies who give pause and wonder what they're getting into.
And where its been.
It should be the ladies who give pause and wonder what they're getting into.
And where its been.
Wow
Lots of different insight on this topic
Great!!
So had a few drinks last night with my bud who was also at the wedding. After getting half drunk, we talked about going to see some SPs.
And we both said at the same time! Did you ever fucked Dan's wife?!?!
A good laugh and few candid insights on our time with her
It turns out that our friend actually met her as a SP.
Apparently he fell in love with her at the first sight.
Couldn't even fuck her at that visit.
A long story short,
whatever magic or however much $ he threw at her, they did get married last weekend.
I guess I wish them nothing but the happiness in the future.
Lots of different insight on this topic
Great!!
So had a few drinks last night with my bud who was also at the wedding. After getting half drunk, we talked about going to see some SPs.
And we both said at the same time! Did you ever fucked Dan's wife?!?!
A good laugh and few candid insights on our time with her
It turns out that our friend actually met her as a SP.
Apparently he fell in love with her at the first sight.
Couldn't even fuck her at that visit.
A long story short,
whatever magic or however much $ he threw at her, they did get married last weekend.
I guess I wish them nothing but the happiness in the future.
My point exactly. Why waste your time on the terminology? That's not what this thread is about. You know what he meant, and I'm sure he meant no disrespect to sex workers or service providers or whatever term is "politically correct." When I meet my 50 year old buddies for drinks my common introduction is "howdy boys." Calling them boys doesn't mean that I disrespect or demean them as men. And frankly I find the term working girls less offensive than sex workers. The term service providers is just ambiguous as working girls. There are many service providers in other walks of life.
You guys sound like great friends. It must be a pleasure to be a part of your entourage. SMHWow
Lots of different insight on this topic
Great!!
So had a few drinks last night with my bud who was also at the wedding. After getting half drunk, we talked about going to see some SPs.
And we both said at the same time! Did you ever fucked Dan's wife?!?!
A good laugh and few candid insights on our time with her
It turns out that our friend actually met her as a SP.
Apparently he fell in love with her at the first sight.
Couldn't even fuck her at that visit.
A long story short,
whatever magic or however much $ he threw at her, they did get married last weekend.
I guess I wish them nothing but the happiness in the future.
With some of the lovely ladies I've seen, the thought / wish of being with them in a "real" relationship has definitely crossed my mind. And to go beyond that, and imagine marrying one of these ladies, even having kids with her, etc.... well, that is high fantasy.
I don't speak it out loud, because why would any woman I'm paying to spend time with ever think of me that way, if a civilian lass does not? The ones I see who are both sexy and sweet, who just have that "x factor" which hooks me, I just love spending time with. Sometimes for more than just carnal reasons, I'd just want to spend time with them. I wish there was no clock at all, for her or for me. Meet a girl this way & hook up, sure - but sometimes you just feel more than that, and it's hard to switch those feelings off.
So if they had any real feelings for me and expressed it, I honestly don't know what I would do. Would I lose my heart to them, or never really trust that they actually feel that way about me? Realism tells me: I'm never that lucky; it's a fantasy only.
Oh, but for some of them, if I got my wish ... (sigh) :angel:
I don't speak it out loud, because why would any woman I'm paying to spend time with ever think of me that way, if a civilian lass does not? The ones I see who are both sexy and sweet, who just have that "x factor" which hooks me, I just love spending time with. Sometimes for more than just carnal reasons, I'd just want to spend time with them. I wish there was no clock at all, for her or for me. Meet a girl this way & hook up, sure - but sometimes you just feel more than that, and it's hard to switch those feelings off.
So if they had any real feelings for me and expressed it, I honestly don't know what I would do. Would I lose my heart to them, or never really trust that they actually feel that way about me? Realism tells me: I'm never that lucky; it's a fantasy only.
Oh, but for some of them, if I got my wish ... (sigh) :angel:
Simple for me, nope, couldn't do it. Every time out for dinner i would be wondering who in the restaurant had been with my wife. Then going to the movies would be even more devastating.
I once (or twice) had somewhat of long term relationships with SPs
Yes I met them while i was their paying customer
Fell in love or at least I thought I was
Took them out of the business and supported them through their back-to-regular-life
One of them
She had my gold credit card for emergency
I was paying her rent + her tuition + cash for monthly expenses
I was on a business trip for 8 days but ended up coming back 1 day early and went straight to her place
No answer on the phone, no answer at the door
Well ... made a phone call to you-know-where and the receptionist told me someone was back and available for 1 day only
She sort of ran low on funds and decided to make some $ by herself rather than calling me to wire some
Still don't understand the logic but apparently it had something to do with "pride" I was told later
So... no never.
https://youtu.be/V3MwQjUag8A
Yes I met them while i was their paying customer
Fell in love or at least I thought I was
Took them out of the business and supported them through their back-to-regular-life
One of them
She had my gold credit card for emergency
I was paying her rent + her tuition + cash for monthly expenses
I was on a business trip for 8 days but ended up coming back 1 day early and went straight to her place
No answer on the phone, no answer at the door
Well ... made a phone call to you-know-where and the receptionist told me someone was back and available for 1 day only
She sort of ran low on funds and decided to make some $ by herself rather than calling me to wire some
Still don't understand the logic but apparently it had something to do with "pride" I was told later
So... no never.
https://youtu.be/V3MwQjUag8A
I am against getting married to anyone at this point in my life, but I am definitely open to establishing a sort of domestic partnership. As I get older, I would love to have a faithful, fun-loving companion to enjoy the fruits of my labor with. I see those that work in this industry as no different than anyone else. I guess the only contraindication would be for those that were attracted to the profession due to some underlying sex addiction. Addictions, by nature, are self-destructive, and I do not think one could manage a relationship under those terms - especially if you are unwilling to go along with a polyamourous, swinger, "hot wife", or cuckhold scenario. Outside of that, I am perfectly ok with firewalling a committed relationship from my partners career in sex work. At the end of the day, outsiders are going to be judgmental of your relationship regardless of the extenuating circumstances. Who cares? Anyone that openly does that should be removed from your life. Just my two cents...
When the phrase 'working girls' was first used it was a big step up from the terminology of the day which was'whore, hooker and streetwalker.' Everyone understood the euphemism and believe me it was meant respectfully.
Terminology when referring to female humans is a bit of a minefield for men. You suggest that "ladies" is an acceptable term, yet there are those who consider that a condescending term dating from the days when women were expected to be decorative accessories to their men. I find myself sticking to "woman", which seems to be mostly inoffensive, although I'm sure that somewhere someone has found a way to interpret even that as a misogynistic term.
If anyone ever wonders why their long term regular SP suddenly wants to cut the chord- this is the main reason.
Not saying that this was the case with yvrvisitor, but looking for love with your pay-date is not realistic.
Fully agree.
It's not like the OP referred to the former SP in question as street meat or a slattern or a skank, FFS.
He called her a working girl. BFD. Not a particularly derogatory or demeaning term- in fact, I thought it was quite innocuous.
I thought this was an ADULT oriented Board. Why so many hurt feelings over minutiae?
Good point BIGOZZIE.
I also thought it was an unlikely request from the author of "Elsi Dawson is a slut" advertisement.
As for calling women girls, it would be easier to eradicate if the women in general insisted on being treated their actual age. As is, it's still a common usage and more likely to be a compliment than an offence.
girl (noun) 2. a young or relatively young woman. 'he settled down with a nice girl'
