Why do men use escorts?

[rockinbods35]

I was bored and was doing some searching on the internet on the type of men that use escorts and the reasons why they use them. I think you might find the studies/articles interesting I will enclose links to those that want to read.

Personally I use them because I really enjoy sex, and I do not need to put in the effort to maintain a relationship. I can come and go as I please, and see who I want as often as I want. However, maybe I am just being lazy in regards to pursuing a relationship, or have some deep seated intimacy issues...that cause me to prefer the "companionship" of an escort vs a girlfriend. I don't really know

I welcome your comments

http://i1.cmsfiles.com/eaves/2012/04/MenWhoBuySex-89396b.pdf

http://www.livescience.com/28169-men-who-use-prostitutes.html

http://blog.modernmechanix.com/why-married-men-visit-prostitutes/

http://io9.com/are-men-who-pay-for-sex-normal-or-just-weird-459038857

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200911/sex-ed-keeping-the-johns

 

[Miss*Bijou]

I'm just wondering.. Do you use a massage therapist? How about a hair dresser? Do you tell a friend "I've been using the best dentist! You should definitely use him/her next time!" ? Or: "There's this really cute server I use whenever I go to this restaurant but she told me this was her last week there so I'm really not sure who I'm going to use from now on" ? I'm guessing not.

So why do you say you use escorts? You use a car to get to your appointment, you use soap and mouthwash when you get there and then she provides a service which, hopefully, you both enjoy. If you insist on the word "use", then maybe say you use her services but if you notice my examples, "use" is for things and non-people but when you're referring to individuals "use" is not the term you should use.

I'm posting this here but it's something I've heard in the past and it's always rubbed me the wrong way. Kind of like the question "What time do you close/open?" Huh? Excuse me? I'm not a door, as far as I know I'm a person and people don't actually close or open, they usually start and finish. I've never understood why people say it that way. Doesn't it sound wrong to them too? So weird...

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Carry on.....lol

 

[kauffman]

I'm just wondering.. Do you use massage therapists? How about hair dresser? Do you tell a friend "I've been using the best dentist! You should definitely use him next time." Or "There's this really cute server I use whenever I got to this restaurant but she told me this was her last week there so I'm really not sure who I'm going to use from now on." So why do you say you use escorts? You use a car to get to your appointment, you use soap and mouthwash when you get there and then she provides a service which, hopefully, you both enjoy. If you insist on the word "use", then maybe say you use her services but if you notice my examples, "use" is for things and non-people but when you're referring to individuals "use" is not the term you should use.

I'm posting this here but it's something I've heard in the past and it's always rubbed me the wrong way. Kind of like the question "What time do you close/open?" I'm not a door, I'm a person and people don't actually close or open, they usually start and finish.



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Carry on.....lol

ONe can have an "open schedule" and be "open to accepting appointments" so it may be that are you open is just short hand for those phrases. Likely not meant in a derogatory way. Also the term "use escorts" may not be intended in the way that it is coming accross. People often say "use a service" and once again are skipping over the refernece to the service and incorrectly attaching the term "use" to th eprovider herself. WE say "use" telus, but use is not meant to imply that we take advantage of telus. However, there is clearly still a social stigma attached to the escort business. However that is likely due to the fact that we have been taught as a culture that monogamy is the correct behavior and that sex and love ares upposed to be closely related. But due to the consistent prevalence of the exchange of intimacy for currency throughout history and accross cultures this is obviously a tool to drive a certain segment of the economy underground to keep it prosperous for a few. As long as organizations can use Guilt and SHame to find scapegoats for the problems of the world they can maintain control, power and divert attention away from their wrong doings to others. Others that are engaging in a transaction that under proper circumstances should be between the consenting adults and nobody else.
Perhaps a bit of a transgression? My point is that words like "use" and other negatively saturated words and phrases are encouraged in conjunction with escorting in order to margiunalize and silence those that engage in it. It benefits those that need to point a finger in a direction other than their own.

 

[Ms.Lolita Monroe]

I'm just wondering.. Do you use a massage therapist? How about a hair dresser? Do you tell a friend "I've been using the best dentist! You should definitely use him/her next time!" ? Or: "There's this really cute server I use whenever I go to this restaurant but she told me this was her last week there so I'm really not sure who I'm going to use from now on" ? I'm guessing not.

So why do you say you use escorts? You use a car to get to your appointment, you use soap and mouthwash when you get there and then she provides a service which, hopefully, you both enjoy. If you insist on the word "use", then maybe say you use her services but if you notice my examples, "use" is for things and non-people but when you're referring to individuals "use" is not the term you should use.

I'm posting this here but it's something I've heard in the past and it's always rubbed me the wrong way. Kind of like the question "What time do you close/open?" Huh? Excuse me? I'm not a door, as far as I know I'm a person and people don't actually close or open, they usually start and finish. I've never understood why people say it that way. Doesn't it sound wrong to them too? So weird...

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Carry on.....lol

That was hilarious and so so so very true

 

[Ratbert_2008]

Miss Bijou, I guess you must really hate guys who ask "Are you free now?" instead of "Are you available now?".

 

[V1Rotate]

I'm just wondering.. Do you use a massage therapist? How about a hair dresser? Do you tell a friend "I've been using the best dentist! You should definitely use him/her next time!" ? Or: "There's this really cute server I use whenever I go to this restaurant but she told me this was her last week there so I'm really not sure who I'm going to use from now on" ? I'm guessing not.

So why do you say you use escorts? You use a car to get to your appointment, you use soap and mouthwash when you get there and then she provides a service which, hopefully, you both enjoy. If you insist on the word "use", then maybe say you use her services but if you notice my examples, "use" is for things and non-people but when you're referring to individuals "use" is not the term you should use.

I'm posting this here but it's something I've heard in the past and it's always rubbed me the wrong way. Kind of like the question "What time do you close/open?" Huh? Excuse me? I'm not a door, as far as I know I'm a person and people don't actually close or open, they usually start and finish. I've never understood why people say it that way. Doesn't it sound wrong to them too? So weird...

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Carry on.....lol

Of course. And escorts don't use MEN for their money eh.

 

[rockinbods35]

I'm just wondering.. Do you use a massage therapist? How about a hair dresser? Do you tell a friend "I've been using the best dentist! You should definitely use him/her next time!" ? Or: "There's this really cute server I use whenever I go to this restaurant but she told me this was her last week there so I'm really not sure who I'm going to use from now on" ? I'm guessing not.

So why do you say you use escorts? You use a car to get to your appointment, you use soap and mouthwash when you get there and then she provides a service which, hopefully, you both enjoy. If you insist on the word "use", then maybe say you use her services but if you notice my examples, "use" is for things and non-people but when you're referring to individuals "use" is not the term you should use.

I'm posting this here but it's something I've heard in the past and it's always rubbed me the wrong way. Kind of like the question "What time do you close/open?" Huh? Excuse me? I'm not a door, as far as I know I'm a person and people don't actually close or open, they usually start and finish. I've never understood why people say it that way. Doesn't it sound wrong to them too? So weird...

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Carry on.....lol

Well perhaps "see" would be a better term than "use" to avoid offending anyone's sensibilities about the subject...but I was only using the language of the articles..whether we want to get caught up in a debate about the dynamics of power and control and the use of language to illustrate a prevailing cultural bias towards the acceptable nature of the transaction between escort and client I believe is kind of missing the point of why I put the topic up for discussion.

It's to simply get men and women thinking about why we do the things we do...and in a forum such as this dedicated to relationships between escorts and clients to help provide some insight into the motivations about why men seek out pay for sex encounters, and what likely demographic they come from.

And ultimately whether you agree or disagree with the conclusions of the various authors of the articles, and perhaps add your 2 cents into the mix of why you personally choose to visit escorts

 

[kauffman]

THats like saying London Drugs uses people who have coughs. Escorts arent chasing the men they are advertising a service that men need and seek out and pay a price for. That is not using that is being paid for a service. WHen you pay for something that you research , seek out, book yourself after being provided with a price, how are you being used,? you are being provided with as convenience. Give me a break!

 

[kauffman]

Of course. And escorts don't use MEN for their money eh.

THats like saying London Drugs uses people who have coughs. Escorts arent chasing the men they are advertising a service that men need and seek out and pay a price for. That is not using that is being paid for a service. WHen you pay for something that you research , seek out, book yourself after being provided with a price, how are you being used,? you are being provided with as convenience. Give me a break!

 

[kauffman]

Of course. And escorts don't use MEN for their money eh.

THat's so obvious

 

[Ms.Lolita Monroe]

Escorts provide a service in exchange of money.

 

[kauffman]

Miss Bijou, I guess you must really hate guys who ask "Are you free now?" instead of "Are you available now?".

That's so obvious. Love men that say that. If you were for them, there'd be no need to ask in such a way

 

[kauffman]

Escorts provide a service in exchange of money.

i assume you mean in exchange FOR money? Or are you trying to say something else. Sounds like escorts are "middlemen" of some kind

 

[Smilf]

Miss Bijou, I guess you must really hate guys who ask "Are you free now?" instead of "Are you available now?".

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Like the old saying goes,

We don't pay for sex.
We pay for them to leave after.

Seriously, I saw escorts because after years of being a single dad who desired some female companionship on occasion but was frustrated by all the strings that went along with dating or "seeing someone". I loved the fact I could spend an hour or 2 with an attractive, intelligent woman and when it was over we each would go on with our lives and I wasn't in shit because I didn't call or send flowers the next day or because I stayed home to watch football instead of attending her sister's new age dance performance.

Cheers

 

[PlayfulAlex]

Love it!

Language plays such an enormous role in our society, there's just no getting around it. But English is complex such as, when I tell you "I love you", I probably mean something completely different than the last 100 women that told you so meant!

I love using the best language possible in whatever circumstance I find myself when communicating with someone, be it in person or in writing.

Hence, the term I prefer to use, which is visitors, rather than clients. But to each, his own!

 

[chilli]

Of course. And escorts don't use MEN for their money eh.

oh no no no, Miss Bijou would never do that; she's different

I think "use" is a valid term for this type of industry. There is no doubt in mind that the majority of men are "using" escorts; just as the majority of escorts are "using" men.

For an escort to ever publicly admit that she is "using" men for money would be rather foolish; but let's be honest.

I am under no illusions about whether an escort thinks I'm attractive or not, likes me or not or cares about me or not.

It doesn't matter to me.

As long as you can act like you do; then I'll leave pretty happy.

 

[BonerHardBiceps]

Most guys wont admit it but I use use escorts because i can't get normal girls at school/work. These days, with the high standards girls have, you need extremely good game/good looks and money to be able to get sex without directly paying for it.

 

[VanessaofBC]

Miss Bijou, I guess you must really hate guys who ask "Are you free now?" instead of "Are you available now?".

HA! HA! you took the words right out of my mouth!

 

[badbadboy]

I have a high libido and seek out SP's who have a good reputation for having a similar sex drive. So far this year has been very good in that regard without having a passive partner. I like SP's who also initiate as much as I will and do not lay back passively waiting for me to finish.

Likening it to Baseball, I tend to go after SP's with a high batting average. I consider Service and Attitude to be a priority and Looks last. I have seen some very pretty, cute/girl next door types and have repeated with them because of Service and Attitude. I would take a solid 7 over a 10 any day if the 10 had a hit and miss reputation for Service and Attitude.

I have neither the time nor the patience to follow the PUA formulae. I witnessed these guys at a bar in Toronto from the Toronto Lair and what a joke it was seeing them use their schtick to come on to females. Each and everyone of them were shot down in flames and probably went home to jerk off at the end of the night.

If you want to get laid, choose a known to be excellent Pro, go see her and be prepared to pay for excellent service.