It's not entirely fair to say that women are completely at fault, as the whole distance and coldness thing goes both ways in this city. There's more than enough blame to go around. That said, for purposes of this discussion I will only discuss the women as that's what this thread pertains to.
Yes, the whole online thing has given women a grossly over-inflated sense of self-worth. A reasonably ok-looking female can put her best pics up and get flooded with messages. Then they have their checklist and try to find something wrong. As soon as she does, it's on to the next one, which is never too far away. I use online dating, but I am also old enough to remember life before the internet and people put a lot more effort into nurturing relationships. That goes for friendships as well as partners. Now everyone's disposable. I have been guilty of the same tactics in the past and what comes around goes around, so I'm not judging. More ofthen than not, when I send messages I don't even get a response and that's regardless of whether I try to send a message that shows I have actually read through their profile or if I just send a generic hello. Ironically, I think if I were to meet up with some of these women at a party or through friends there might actually be a chance.
Specifically regarding women in the city and their attitudes, I have met a lot of really cool ladies from Calgary both visiting there and ones that have moved here. These women are awesome and don't have a problem with you talking to them. They actually like it. There are some Vancouver girls who don't mind, but they seem to be the exception and not the rule. The comments about women from the Calgary ladies are interesting. One told me straight up that she felt sorry for any guy in Vancouver who was actually serious about finding a girlfriend in this city because it's just not gonna happen. Another one had become so insecure about herself since moving here because of her body. She had a bit of baby-fat on her, but you couldn't call her fat, or even chubby for that matter. She was a cute girl and lots of fun but felt so intimidated by the way women here are fitness and yoga freaks and go out of their way to project an image of perfection. She then said that she never had any issues with her own body image until she moved here. I belong to running and cycling clubs and I have taken yoga classes in the past, and I assured her that these women are not perfect by any stretch of the imagination. That said, I know first hand how over-inflated their egos are. I see and hear it first-hand. The ones who don't have that attitude are already married, it's always the single ones.
Then there's the whole White guy/Asian girl thing. Lots of White girls (not all, but a good many) really resent Asian women because once a guy goes out with an Asian girl they don't always go back to White. Asian women are my preference and most who know me are well aware of this, although it's not a requirement for me. This is also true of some of my friends. After you have gone out with Asian women for a while, you have pretty much put yourself out of the game as far as meeting White women. At that point you couldn't go back even if you wanted to as they now see you as "one of those guys". And the comments, yellow fever, can't handle a real woman, etc the hostility, and judgement that follow. It's their own insecurity that causes this, but it only reaffirms why I typically won't pursue a White woman. At least not in this city...
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