I can usually find something decent in seven's posts and generally enjoy them once they've been decoded. But jumping to everyone is being a crybaby as we all told op to "move on" when he appears to be a little butt hurt over being brushed aside (tone of that poll certainly points to that) is beyond ridiculous as "move on" is by far the best advice in this particular situation. I'll just assume he had a bad day, happens to the he's of us.
Sp snubs you for a month what would you do?
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Right on Mimi. Odds are she wasn't personally targeting your for pain. Missed your original e-mail or txt and sent a spam out for Valentines Day. You *should* treat it like it never happened and if you can do that then you're still looking at the original situation. Do you want to see her or not?
NAG75
Too many fish in the Ocean. Go see someone who is more professional about her line of business. Even if she is too busy, she should respond to you.
Move on. You owe nothing!
G.A.
Move on. You owe nothing!
G.A.
honesty give the women the benifit of the doubt
its only an email. maybe she just forgot or had alot going on in her life,
as for me,
like i said i had cancer and had a father jailed for rape
and well i was just this sad alone kid,
but people would like to bully me and pick on me well i guess because they could
never really got why they did or needed to, or had the strength fo fight back, so i was alone more,
maybe im over sensitive,
but i realy get pissed when some one is bullied, or not given the benifit of the doubt i mean really pissed.
not so much for myself im used to well insenstive people
life is full of insenitive people and self centered selfish people
im sorry if i offended any one by calling them a baby,
but well,
my opinion doesn't change,
if any one is bullied on this board or not given the benifit of the doubt,
sorry but im going to have an opnion
whether im dysfunctional or can spell or not
sorry but im almost sixty,
so if i am dysfunctional and need help,
fuck it,
you dont want to hear what i think of shrinks and social workers etc.
its only an email. maybe she just forgot or had alot going on in her life,
as for me,
like i said i had cancer and had a father jailed for rape
and well i was just this sad alone kid,
but people would like to bully me and pick on me well i guess because they could
never really got why they did or needed to, or had the strength fo fight back, so i was alone more,
maybe im over sensitive,
but i realy get pissed when some one is bullied, or not given the benifit of the doubt i mean really pissed.
not so much for myself im used to well insenstive people
life is full of insenitive people and self centered selfish people
im sorry if i offended any one by calling them a baby,
but well,
my opinion doesn't change,
if any one is bullied on this board or not given the benifit of the doubt,
sorry but im going to have an opnion
whether im dysfunctional or can spell or not
sorry but im almost sixty,
so if i am dysfunctional and need help,
fuck it,
you dont want to hear what i think of shrinks and social workers etc.
hey hatrick, you mean there aren't line-ups of cars on the low and mid some nights?
Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha, nothing worse than getting the silent treatment from said sp :nod:
InnocentBoy do yourself a favor and walk away.
I just had a crazy experience that I think makes the point. I was seeing this SP for like 7 months. I saw her once a month but I took her on trips to LA and NYC. I saw her for the last time about a month ago as she told me she was turning her life around and she was no longer in the business. I came into town and took her for Dinner at the Shore Club. I dropped $150 for dinner to say thanks for the good times. She is a very nice lady and I am happy for her for stepping up and turning her life around. I even brought her a offical Jersey of the Swedish National Hockey Team for her son with his name on the back. Set me back about 2,700 SEK or $400 CND. We had dinner I wish her well and we parted company with a hug felt glad I had met her and she told me we would be friends for ever. (still not sure what that means when a SP tells you that) I never expecting to hear from her again. Which is cool. Not the first time and will not be the last time.
Now InnocentBoy I want you to know I spent like close to $30,000 CND over the last 7 months on this lady. Including
about 8 dresses, 9 pairs of shoes, 3 pairs of boots, 5 handbags, tons of lingerie, Flowers to her home and to her office
All expense trip to LA as well as daily pay but including first class flights the afternoon shopping at the South Beach Galleria Mall, Dinner at the Orange Hill restaruant watching the sunset, Romantic cuirse to Catalina Island as well as a private day tour of the island. Dinner at Dana Point over looking the ocean. Stay in a 5 star hotel in Long Beach right off the ocean.
All expense trip to NYC including day spa treatment at Saks 5th Ave, Private stylest three complete outfits, Private guided tour of NYC, Dinner at two of NYC finest restaruants, Gala Evening at Lincoln Center for a season opening Concert, Private Midnight Carriage Ride around Central Park, A Broadway show with front row seats, Private picnic in Central Park, Stay in a suite in Midtown in a 5 star hotel with special VIP treatment.
Special Private Christmas party with Dinner at Chop Steak house complete with Carollers singing just for her. A special Christmas tree set up for her complete about 25 Presents hand selected.
Plus many other shopping trips and other gifts from rings and braclets to necklaces and earings.
I tell you this because here comes the kicker and the reason I say walk. I get an e-mail totally out of the blue. Remember I never thought I would hear from her again. She calls me a monster, an evil person, cruel, ruthless, heartless, brutal, among other things. I am like the worst person in the world and she hates me. All the above does not come into play. Remember she had told me before that she wanted to be my friend forever. Now it is like I am worst than dead meat. She tells me she did not need these fancy dresses, that I should not have shown her this other world, I was a liar, and a cheat because of a business dealing I was trying to complete.
Now let me tell you why I hate relationships and I have not had one in 8 years. Now Even the SPs are going crazy. I thought it was nice she wanted to be a friend. I did not ask for that just like she did not ask to be treated like I treated her. I did it because I wanted too not because I had too. I enjoyed seeing her smile I thought I was making her happy but now I learn she was unhappy.
Moral of the story InnocentBoy don't chase them down don't try and make something that is not there. I think I am done taking SPs on trips with me. Don't try and do them favors. She was upset I did not fix her roof and put in new tolets in her house. Sorry but I am not in the home reno business.
Take my advice time to move on.
Yes, it would be so depressing i'd be looking for the nearest bridge. SP's can be soooo so cruel ;
Exactly. Although i've found MP3 players can make those long lineups more tolerable. Especially if there is eye candy.
My guess it is because the money spigot was turned off and she wasn't happy about that. At least his comments seem to point that way.
BobbyDazzler, I have no issue with being disposable. We understand that going in. What I do not understand is going from Knight in Shinning armour to being totally evil. How does one slide that bad over night. I am not asking to be on the christmas card list but I just do not understand going from one to the other. Listen I know i am not cean in the matter but nothing could move me down the list that fast. Not even killing someone could make that evil.
My thoughts:
Part 1: Now that it's clear that you're referring to text messaging (this wasn't clear on your original post), it is not inconceivable that you contacted her during a time when she couldn't reply for whatever reason(s)...perhaps she has another job, does this work only p/t, was taking a few days off, was having dinner with her family that night, etc etc.
How many times has it come up in this forum that it is kinda uncomfortable when an sp contacts a fella long after his initial attempt to reach her, like a few hours later or the next day, for example.
So basically, if she didn't respond to your initial text, it's highly likely that she was busy then and simply assumed that you'd made other plans by the time she saw your text. In other words, I wouldn't give it another thought, it wasn't a snub, unless there's more to the story than what you've mentioned here.
Part 2: Now it's Valentine's Day. Maybe she's trying to drum up business and she remembers that guy who tried to reach her a month ago that she never got to. So she texts you, to see if you're still interested in getting together. I doubt she had any inkling that you'd felt snubbed, and she's just doing her style of marketing. Decision time for you: now that you're pretty sure it wasn't a snub, you simply decide if you want to respond to her or not. Did you really want to try her out or not? Simple questions, simple answers, no drama.
Part 2A: If you don't appreciate getting marketing texts out of the blue, that's a whole nother subject to address with her.
Wow, this is a heavy story, obviously with even more detail, although you've shared a lot.
Chances are, something happened in her life that turned her against you, it's not something that you did or didn't do. Perhaps she wasn't prepared for the reality of it, and she did have a hard time with the loss of income. Perhaps she realized that all of the money that went on fancy clothes, etc, would have served her better if it had gone on toilets and roofs.
But that's not your fault, and she has no right to blame you for her life choices, even though you were involved. It sounds like you guys had an agreement, which you both kept to.
When things go awry, it's human nature (sadly) to look for someone to blame, and it sounds like you are simply the scapegoat for some poor decisions on her end. Name-calling and nasty e-mails may have been the only way she could rationalize her behaviour, to find the problem with you, not with her. Kind of like a child whose parents pay for everything for a while but, when the child wants independence, and things don't go as planned, he blames his parents and the way they raised him.
It's never a bad thing, when life gives us opportunities to re-evaluate our actions or our boundaries or our standards. As you stated, and it's not always easy, it's time to move on...
Thank you PlayfulAlex. Sometimes when you are looking at the forest you forget to look at the trees. You maybe right. She just lost it for a week and I can handle being the scapegoat. I just hate to think that Everything we did was that bad. Oh well we move on. WHO IS NEXT ON THE LIST to make thier life miserable.
Interesting take on it ssdex. Wow that is deep and kinda twisted look at it. Who knows what goes though a ladies head. I did have her play my wife when we travelled. I paid her to tell me she loved me and wanted me. She did play the role very well. But I have had others who have played that role knowing that it was not for real.
But well I don't think that is the issue here. I think we just came from different worlds. She was never meant to be in this world. She was too nice to be playing on the dark side. It was a mistake her getting in to this game. It really is a fantasty world. But everyone has to leave Disney Land at some point. That is the difference between real GF and SPs.
Oh ssdex you got me thinking. If she felt like that why does she hate me so now. Why not just say that. She always told me she was not interested in having another boy friend or another husband. So what is the truth and who is the liar?
Or she just went bat-shit crazy.
Not exactly an historic first for a woman....no?
