A woman willing to get a 40 hour a week job and do modest level of housework is a 10 in my book. Those are not easy to find anymore. I'm actually surprised by the amount of women willing to get a job at all, but I'm chinese we have a generation of lazy young females in our culture due to the gender imbalance in China. Males in china wanting a wife have to provide everything and hopefully the female is willing to work but its a lot to ask.
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That's a leap that can't be supported without knowing more details than you can get in this thread.
Pretty small sample size on a board where anonymous people want to justify their habit. I don't think we're in a position to generalize about all the women in Vancouver.
Those are some wise words. I going to save this.
Quote Originally Posted by E.Humperdink View Post
Exactly.
-My financial security is to be found,in sticking to my own game plan and not letting it be ruined by anothers'.
-Domineering aggression,userous expectations and bullshit emotional needs.Just what I really want,like a second hole in my ass.
-For whatever reason a woman may be romantically appealing,it will never be a permanent condition or unconditional.After the infatuation phase,it's all downhill.
-More than 50% of marriages fail.Not what I would consider a wise,emotional & financial investiture.
I like the girls at the supermarket,we share jokes,news & opinions.
I like the dentist lady,she does a good job & is a nice person.
I like the pet groomer lady, because she does a good job & mentors me with advice.
If a lady wants to spend time with me for enjoyment & shared interests,that's fine.
If a woman wants to coerce me with obsolescent gendertype-casts,then I'll laugh in her face with contemptuous spitefulness.
The Culture of Entitlement,will never further my interests.So don't expect me to further,the Culture of Entitlements' interests
"I was not put here,to live up to your expectations.
Neither were you put here,to live up to mine.
I don't owe no one,no obligation.
Nobody owes me,so everything is fine."
-Peter Tosh
Englebert Humperdink
Quote Originally Posted by E.Humperdink View Post
Exactly.
-My financial security is to be found,in sticking to my own game plan and not letting it be ruined by anothers'.
-Domineering aggression,userous expectations and bullshit emotional needs.Just what I really want,like a second hole in my ass.
-For whatever reason a woman may be romantically appealing,it will never be a permanent condition or unconditional.After the infatuation phase,it's all downhill.
-More than 50% of marriages fail.Not what I would consider a wise,emotional & financial investiture.
I like the girls at the supermarket,we share jokes,news & opinions.
I like the dentist lady,she does a good job & is a nice person.
I like the pet groomer lady, because she does a good job & mentors me with advice.
If a lady wants to spend time with me for enjoyment & shared interests,that's fine.
If a woman wants to coerce me with obsolescent gendertype-casts,then I'll laugh in her face with contemptuous spitefulness.
The Culture of Entitlement,will never further my interests.So don't expect me to further,the Culture of Entitlements' interests
"I was not put here,to live up to your expectations.
Neither were you put here,to live up to mine.
I don't owe no one,no obligation.
Nobody owes me,so everything is fine."
-Peter Tosh
Englebert Humperdink
You sound pretty messed up to me...like the type of guy that needs a woman in their life, whether she is good or bad...you just need company.
Thankfully, I am not like this...but I understand and know many guys like this...
Holly, I have no desire to find a life partner...that is what my original post was "trying" to say about me...
In fact, I told my friend, if I ever wanted a kid in my life, I would pay a woman to have it. He freaked out, and asked me "Does that sound normal to you?"
I stated, what is normal these days anyways?
Also, I enjoy having multiple partners and find it exciting seeing new sp's...In fact, since my youth, anytime I dreamed about women it was always having sex with lots and lots of them!
My life motto on women:
Dating = Drama
Marriage or common law = Baggage
SPs = Fun!
A lot of girls will consider you as a good catch despite of your height. I would like to suggest few things to you to help you to meet girls. Women like a confident guy with good sense of humor. Dress well. Be able to look and smile at any girls even though they might turn their heads away. Few will smile back, then go and talk to them. Participate in activities where girls hang out like yoga, volleyball leagues, volunteer works, etc. Get a really cute dog and go for a walk. There are many single ladies constantly looking for relationships in Vancouver! Good luck!
I could not agree more. Be yourself. Mind your own business. Let interpersonal relationships develop naturally without coercion, manipulation, or hidden agenda, instead of trying to squeeze or stretch them into the 'what most other people seem to be having' relationship mould.
Have realistic expectations and recognize that as people and circumstances change all the time, so will the interactions among people evolve.
Love at first sight is most likely lust at first sight (i.e., fondness of some physical traits rather than the abstract concept). I cannot say I truly understand or have felt the mystical emotion of love, but I do know love to me is neither possessive, nor controlling, nor exclusive. I mean, how can it be the all powerful love otherwise? Alas, 99.9% of the time this is not the love I witness in friends, families, and mainstream TV/movie/media/literature.
The question I would like to ask the folks here is: what is the motivation behind your wanting to date? I have attempted to analyse my own motivation on many, many occasions, and when I had gotten to the bottom--after removing the veils and dressings--it was always 'sex'. I guess that's probably not too surprising since our biological body has a genetic imperative to reproduce, but I feel I might be leading on a girl if sex is on my mind. Consequently, I opted out myself of the dating pool since I was a university student (and now I know that universities have a great selection of potential quality dates which I evidently completely missed out... lol)
Interesting thread. I have never had good luck with dating myself, and am childless aswell. I have no problem making $100K in my job (construction), but I work on the road and generally crazy hours. I could be on my way to the alter, but, I do not want kids and am very wary of the financial threat of me shacking up with just anyone or a marriage that may fail. I've had a woman who I found extremely attractive, but she drove me insane and had a substance abuse problem. I had a woman who treated me like gold, but was really just a gold-digger. I had a woman with a great job, similar goals in life, but somehow we just didn't work... no common interests, and she was very emotionally needy. I don't want to settle either. A major issue for me is lust, and I want a woman whom I'm attracted to. Nice body, no double chin, etc. The issue of supply and demand comes into play... Are there even that many attractive, single, professional women out there that don't have a heart full of poison ?
I would say virtually none...
I have about 20 guy friends that are married, and all of their wives are average to below average in looks...Personally, I wouldn't want to have sex with any of them really...let alone living with them and being married...
The funny part is, they seem very proud of their dull lives and seem to have this kind of pity bullshit for single people which cracks me up. I had to tell one of my friends that his wife "Is Disgusting", just to put the guy back on earth!
In my experience most women just want to become baby factories. All they want you for is your money so you might as well give it to a girl who is a least being honest about it and is giving you what you want in return. Unless you really want a relationship in which case the best idea would be to look for a woman in her late 30's or 40's who's already had her kicks and just wants to settle down too.
Well, the "baby factory" types really don't want to work. They just want to sit at home, send kids to school, and make a lousy dinner, play tennis with the girls, do errands during the day, and watch tv or go out at night...
This is why so many office working females are so bitchy and annoying...
How happy are those who are together? That's a good question. I know one who is married to a real looker, and by all indications and based on his past girlfriends, he doesn't wear the pants in the relationship. The other has a fairly equal relationship with his wife.
Some of these guys stick with their wives despite the fact they seem to argue all the time and their wives are fat and ugly because of the kids and the comfort level. Luckily I am not one of them.
Despite the fact I am 40 and have not been able to find a long term relationship, I am still a hopeless romantic and a believer in marriage and children. When the opportunity arises, I still take the chance and ask women out. It almost always ends in rejection, but you miss every shot you don't take. Until I find someone, I'll continue to see escorts, and am thankful this outlet is available to me.
Some of these guys stick with their wives despite the fact they seem to argue all the time and their wives are fat and ugly because of the kids and the comfort level. Luckily I am not one of them.
Despite the fact I am 40 and have not been able to find a long term relationship, I am still a hopeless romantic and a believer in marriage and children. When the opportunity arises, I still take the chance and ask women out. It almost always ends in rejection, but you miss every shot you don't take. Until I find someone, I'll continue to see escorts, and am thankful this outlet is available to me.
Poorboy, why do you think you struggle to get dates and the ladies shoot you down? Are you misreading them???
I still get looks, but not like 10 yrs ago when I worked out 1 to 2 hours day...
My problem is, I am just not interested in even asking them out...I would rather just find a SP... ;-)
Thank fucking god you have given up on dating.
Not that it would matter if you kept trying......No decent loving human being would want you.
i guess from a married mans perspective.
what the fuck is a single guy doing paying for it.
i wanted a family kids all that stuff, thats why i got married works or has worked for me.
i enjoy being a father, had a great weekend with the kids. to actually.
been married almost thirty years, long story but not having sex any more with my wife, sps well it works take cares of that.
also found you can be friends with your sp and have a relationship of sorts.
she is there physically for me and also a friend that i can talk to.
me i couldn;t just use a women just fuck her close the door and forget her.
its just not me.
but honestly. my sp keeps telling me to leave my wife a would be a great catch. lots of single women out there are looking at me with interest as well.
so i don't really get it why single and pay. there are lots of lonely women out there.
of course no one is perfect but have you looked in the mirror lately.
its nice just to hang out with some one on a long weekend come home to at night. know your house is full of people
know there are people to phone when im drunk and can't drive or whatever.
that being said, i would never get married again.
like i said no one is perfect there is alot you have to put up with in any relationship
but if your single what the fuck keep moving, have one for a back up just for booty calls and then play the field see what is out there
sad to say but there is always some lonely girl out there lonely and with low self esteem who will fuck you just to jeer up her shitty life.
lots and lots of guys have played on them.
so why pay.
any way, life is what you want what you make it.
i wanted a family been there done that.
i love women, not really ready to stop having sex despite what my wife has to say about it.
its not just about the sex. women are just fun and all gigglily and bounce and soft. fun to look at.
the big disadvantage of this hobby if you want more then just sex like supper or drinks it can cost you a fucking alot of money.
its cheap if you book half an hour session and just be done with it. but friendship companionship from an sp can cost you a forturne.
so if your single i dunno im just saying
what the fuck is a single guy doing paying for it.
i wanted a family kids all that stuff, thats why i got married works or has worked for me.
i enjoy being a father, had a great weekend with the kids. to actually.
been married almost thirty years, long story but not having sex any more with my wife, sps well it works take cares of that.
also found you can be friends with your sp and have a relationship of sorts.
she is there physically for me and also a friend that i can talk to.
me i couldn;t just use a women just fuck her close the door and forget her.
its just not me.
but honestly. my sp keeps telling me to leave my wife a would be a great catch. lots of single women out there are looking at me with interest as well.
so i don't really get it why single and pay. there are lots of lonely women out there.
of course no one is perfect but have you looked in the mirror lately.
its nice just to hang out with some one on a long weekend come home to at night. know your house is full of people
know there are people to phone when im drunk and can't drive or whatever.
that being said, i would never get married again.
like i said no one is perfect there is alot you have to put up with in any relationship
but if your single what the fuck keep moving, have one for a back up just for booty calls and then play the field see what is out there
sad to say but there is always some lonely girl out there lonely and with low self esteem who will fuck you just to jeer up her shitty life.
lots and lots of guys have played on them.
so why pay.
any way, life is what you want what you make it.
i wanted a family been there done that.
i love women, not really ready to stop having sex despite what my wife has to say about it.
its not just about the sex. women are just fun and all gigglily and bounce and soft. fun to look at.
the big disadvantage of this hobby if you want more then just sex like supper or drinks it can cost you a fucking alot of money.
its cheap if you book half an hour session and just be done with it. but friendship companionship from an sp can cost you a forturne.
so if your single i dunno im just saying
Oh, I'm sure he liked that!
I think the bit you are missing is that they married for the relationship, not to get some hot chick to bang on a daily basis. If that is your objective then it is probably not a good idea to get married since you are pretty much guarenteed to be miserable. The long term is all about the relationship, not about sex, and if you are going to succeed and be happy, you have to come to terms with that.
.40 years old and never had a long term relationship. This sounds like that movie, 40 year old virgin, except you are not a virgin.
