You people make me sick
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I feel sorry for you pissed of wife. Knowing your partner cheats on you sucks big time. Perhaps something good will come out of this. Maybe you can use this as an opportunity to work things out with your husband. If you no longer want him, you can certainly use this discovery as your reason for filing a divorce.
IMHO, marriage only works when both the husband and wife want it to work. Childrend should not be used as an excuse not to file a divorce. A good parent is a good parent, regardless of civil status. Staying married will not make a bad parent good and a good mother/father will not necessarily become a bad parent just because they opted to become single again.
IMHO, marriage only works when both the husband and wife want it to work. Childrend should not be used as an excuse not to file a divorce. A good parent is a good parent, regardless of civil status. Staying married will not make a bad parent good and a good mother/father will not necessarily become a bad parent just because they opted to become single again.
I was being nice.......
She mentioned that when confronted he told her that he wanted a blow job, and then went on to say she wouldn't give him one due to hygiene and the fact he didn't reciprocate for her. Obviously there were many problems in this relationship.
She also mentioned that money was going from the bank account that he justified as going out with the guys, but seemed like too much for how much time he was out. I would guess he would take $60 at a time until he had enough for a session.
But I was more standing up for the hobby, and the SP's....hoping I could get her to see that it's not just a bunch of dirty cheating husbands fucking a bunch of dirty homewrecking whores.
Once she's gotten over her hurt from discovering her husbands betrayal, maybe she won't be quite so judgemental towards you ladies and the hobbyists.
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She said she's taking him to the cleaners, not has already taken him. Which I take to mean she's gone to a divorce lawyer and will be using his pooning to get as much as she can.
Yikes!!!
I agree wholeheartedly with Mr.Reluctant.
Contrary to what this lady believes, many men mention the wife at some point, if not immediatly.
In answer to your question, yes I do think about the families. But I have an objective and I'm not forcing people through the door. This industry remain's wether I'm here or not. I do empathize with you. You speak for many woman and men who are unhappy, for a miriad of reason's, and feel stuck in a marriage. However, we are not the problem.
You need to look inside yourself and your marriage to find the the solution
And don't be sickened by this. It's sex. It is a buisness and a buisness transaction. Were not making men fall in love. We are providing a service.
And don't feel sorry for me.I am single and emotionally healthy, was seeking employment and walah! Seen a win win situation here
lmao
Studio's keep it out of our backyard's and off the street's, out of our children's eye. Cuz ya know what? I don't want my children seeing it either.
Run and warn the sister's if you feel you are giving back to humanity, but I will say this.
In a small way, maybe this, like other thing's, are wake up call's for people.
For instance, you could just keep doing what your doing and get what you alway's got ( like finding evidence your hubbies gettin some, after having complained for many year's, hoping he'd change, and never really getting the pussy lickin you hoped for )
Or ....change do something different
and achieve a result that you want. No one told you you had to settle
.........and maybe you'll get a different result
I agree wholeheartedly with Mr.Reluctant.
Contrary to what this lady believes, many men mention the wife at some point, if not immediatly.
In answer to your question, yes I do think about the families. But I have an objective and I'm not forcing people through the door. This industry remain's wether I'm here or not. I do empathize with you. You speak for many woman and men who are unhappy, for a miriad of reason's, and feel stuck in a marriage. However, we are not the problem.
You need to look inside yourself and your marriage to find the the solution
And don't be sickened by this. It's sex. It is a buisness and a buisness transaction. Were not making men fall in love. We are providing a service.
And don't feel sorry for me.I am single and emotionally healthy, was seeking employment and walah! Seen a win win situation here
lmao Studio's keep it out of our backyard's and off the street's, out of our children's eye. Cuz ya know what? I don't want my children seeing it either.
Run and warn the sister's if you feel you are giving back to humanity, but I will say this.
In a small way, maybe this, like other thing's, are wake up call's for people.
For instance, you could just keep doing what your doing and get what you alway's got ( like finding evidence your hubbies gettin some, after having complained for many year's, hoping he'd change, and never really getting the pussy lickin you hoped for )
Or ....change do something different
and achieve a result that you want. No one told you you had to settle
.........and maybe you'll get a different result
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I'm not gonna get around to reading the rest of the thread but a couple of things are clear:
1) Dude needs to learn how to wipe his phone/pc history
2) Sounds like this couple was on the fast track to success already
3) This one is super cynical - what couple has ever been completely faithful? Would you rather your partner be unfaithful with a professional than, say, someone they work with?
That's all I've got. Enjoy.
1) Dude needs to learn how to wipe his phone/pc history
2) Sounds like this couple was on the fast track to success already
3) This one is super cynical - what couple has ever been completely faithful? Would you rather your partner be unfaithful with a professional than, say, someone they work with?
That's all I've got. Enjoy.
While I don't disagree with you that divorce can be hard on children, I still think that it is the manner by which couples conducted themselves throughout the separation/divorce process that makes everything very stressful for the children. Because usually either the husband or wife was extremely hurt, divorce tends to be pretty messy and it is that messiness that's painful for the children. Most people underestimate children's capacity for love and understanding. If children are given reassurance that the divorce was not caused by them and that they continue to feel the love and support of their original parents, they will be fine. If I am not mistaken, there are even studies that show children from divorced parents can be just as normal as any other children.
You gonna lay there and tell me you actually believe that crap? You think the only reason this guy sees an sp is because he's such a total loser that his wife of who knows how many years refuses to blow him? How long have you been married Dood? I guarantee you this guy doesn't eat her pussy because he can hardly stand to be in the same room with her. She takes no responsibility for any part of it, blames him, blames the SPs, etc. I suggested she try and make nice with my toung firmly in my cheek because I know without asking that she has never initiated a BJ in her life. If she ever performed one it would be as a FAVOR to him and she would keep score of how many favors she was owed. Yes dood you're a great lover and any woman should be grateful for your attentions but not all men are blessed and this guy clearly isn't. All the same, if a woman wants more from her not too brilliant husband it's usually up to her to find creative ways to make that happen. If she wants more attention from hubby it's clear to me that she wont get it by being a bitch. That's what got her into her predicament in the first place now isn't it? You want a different result, take a different approach.
As for a level playing field, there isn't one and never will be which is why things are the way they are. Grow up
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When will society get it that men see SPs as an attempt to get some sex without destroying their marriage. If the only option was to have an affair, the divorce rate would be a lot higher than it is now. affair = emotional involvment = divorce. The reasons why men find it necessary to find sex outside the marriage are as many and varied as the men who do it. Married women would do themselves a favor to see SPs as a great alternative to an affair.
Heh....if the situation were reversed, I can pretty much guarentee that most men would have trouble making that distinction. It's easy for the person cheating to separate those things, not quite so easy for the spouse being cheated on. I don't think that being male or female makes a difference in that regard.
Not really. She is describing him as ex because the deal is done. Perhaps the legal stuff has to be dealt with still, but he is definitely "ex" for all practical purposes.
Have you ever thought of because....
It could have been the hygiene issue with her also, that's why he would not eat her pussy - especially for women, if the hygiene is not there, it could smell like a dead fish...
In addition, I don't think this dud was that stupid, he was already planning on leaving her - with all the signs such as: letting her find out his phone and leaving the internet with all the sites he had visitted, then make himself smell bad and fat, not willing to reciprocate oral on her, etc..., maybe there are bigger problems in their relationship than the OP had led us to believe...
OR..
it could be some TROLL here trying to get us all wound up before the holiday...
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would you call your spouse an ex after you had an arguement with him/her??? don't you think that maybe they can work it out in this relationship?
For some reason my Troll alert is flashing...this just sounds like someone new is on here to get their troll dick stroked. If this is real, buddy needs to get a lawyer, but I really doubt that this is the case.
I agree it's a fun case to discuss, but the OP should not have done so at the expense of the ladies...thats LOWI agree but it's a fun case study
Wow, exciting weekend here on Perb, I have to add my own two cents, as many of you know from reading my previous posts I am a married man, I would actuallly even call myself happily married...imagine that, but here is the reality of that, If my wife was to have sex with me two to three times a week ( is that alot? ) and actually take part in the activity by reciprocating during the activity I would never have indulged myself in this hobby.
I am clean, Shower every Day, with Bodywash ( Yes DOOD, you are not he only one ), I am not in prefect shape, but I am in way better shape then when we met and married, I trim the nether region, but get very little ( if any ) attention. Sometimes it takes 20-30 Minutes of soft sensuous back rubbing to even get 10 mintues of sex... I am quite often left to jerk off and satisfy myself.
To "PISSED OFF WIFE", I think that many times we fail to see the forest for the trees, did you ever offer to shave him, maybe even suggested a shared shower, what guy would resist that? Were you vocal in what you wanted, did you help him help you? I am not condoning his actions, or mine, we are both cheaters and maybe deserve what we get, but men are sexual in nature and need that connection with their mate, if they don't get it, well then they will go elsewhere.
He could have found a woman and had an affair, possible fallen in love with her and left you, but he didn't he went and saw a professional, worked out his angst and continued to come home to you, reread your post and ask yourself, WHY DID HE!, you are bitter and probably not all that. Not sure that any of what I have just said made any sense, but my point is that maybe you should take a long look inthe mirror before you "Take his Ass to the cleaners..."
I am clean, Shower every Day, with Bodywash ( Yes DOOD, you are not he only one ), I am not in prefect shape, but I am in way better shape then when we met and married, I trim the nether region, but get very little ( if any ) attention. Sometimes it takes 20-30 Minutes of soft sensuous back rubbing to even get 10 mintues of sex... I am quite often left to jerk off and satisfy myself.
To "PISSED OFF WIFE", I think that many times we fail to see the forest for the trees, did you ever offer to shave him, maybe even suggested a shared shower, what guy would resist that? Were you vocal in what you wanted, did you help him help you? I am not condoning his actions, or mine, we are both cheaters and maybe deserve what we get, but men are sexual in nature and need that connection with their mate, if they don't get it, well then they will go elsewhere.
He could have found a woman and had an affair, possible fallen in love with her and left you, but he didn't he went and saw a professional, worked out his angst and continued to come home to you, reread your post and ask yourself, WHY DID HE!, you are bitter and probably not all that. Not sure that any of what I have just said made any sense, but my point is that maybe you should take a long look inthe mirror before you "Take his Ass to the cleaners..."
FWIW, I was in this exact situation about 3 years ago. (ie I got caught seeing SP's). Now that this has happened, there are basically three options.
1. To get divorced. For this you have to think about the effect on children and whether or not you really want to destroy what might otherwise be a decent relationship. My experience is that over time, couples generally become less sexual and gravitate towards being friends. No always, but it's a very common path.
2. You can stay married and try and deal with this problem. I know "pissed off wife" feels that it's only his fault, my wife thinks the same. Hell she even made me seek counselling and when she also came her focus was on blaming me, while the Psychologist basically said based on the facts our situation is almost a business relationship. (ie no intimacy at all) still at the end of the day all my wife heard was want she believed going into this exercise.
3,. You can stay married and let this pass. This may mean that if the underlying issues aren't addressed, you may find yourself dealing with this again in the future. Because what is likely to happen is he'll take a break of some kind, hard to say how long, then he'll slowly venture into this activity again, only he'll focus on covering his tracks better.
On the bigger picture, I wonder if marriage itself is natural. Over the years I've come to believe that it is basically forced upon us by society due to Christian believes and the benefits it has to children.
But it seems to me that it's unrealist to expect any other individual to forefill all the needs someone needs/wants from the opposite sex.
So let's say when you choose to marry someone they fill 75% of what you want from women in general. What generally happens I believe, is that over time this number drops..once it's dropped below a certain level, the guy starts trying to fill the void. Same thing applies to woman. The hard part to accept, is that it's nothing personal against the spouse.
Now this doesn't have to happen, and in couples who communicate it might not happen, but for those who are going down the path of divorce this is likely what's happening.
Anyway, FWIW, that's pretty much my take on the whole thing.
The one other point is that this pissed off wife should consider reading this thread. There's a lot of insightful posts that she may find useful and it beats being self righteous going on a rant and then walking away. That's not particularly a good way to deal with anything.
1. To get divorced. For this you have to think about the effect on children and whether or not you really want to destroy what might otherwise be a decent relationship. My experience is that over time, couples generally become less sexual and gravitate towards being friends. No always, but it's a very common path.
2. You can stay married and try and deal with this problem. I know "pissed off wife" feels that it's only his fault, my wife thinks the same. Hell she even made me seek counselling and when she also came her focus was on blaming me, while the Psychologist basically said based on the facts our situation is almost a business relationship. (ie no intimacy at all) still at the end of the day all my wife heard was want she believed going into this exercise.
3,. You can stay married and let this pass. This may mean that if the underlying issues aren't addressed, you may find yourself dealing with this again in the future. Because what is likely to happen is he'll take a break of some kind, hard to say how long, then he'll slowly venture into this activity again, only he'll focus on covering his tracks better.
On the bigger picture, I wonder if marriage itself is natural. Over the years I've come to believe that it is basically forced upon us by society due to Christian believes and the benefits it has to children.
But it seems to me that it's unrealist to expect any other individual to forefill all the needs someone needs/wants from the opposite sex.
So let's say when you choose to marry someone they fill 75% of what you want from women in general. What generally happens I believe, is that over time this number drops..once it's dropped below a certain level, the guy starts trying to fill the void. Same thing applies to woman. The hard part to accept, is that it's nothing personal against the spouse.
Now this doesn't have to happen, and in couples who communicate it might not happen, but for those who are going down the path of divorce this is likely what's happening.
Anyway, FWIW, that's pretty much my take on the whole thing.
The one other point is that this pissed off wife should consider reading this thread. There's a lot of insightful posts that she may find useful and it beats being self righteous going on a rant and then walking away. That's not particularly a good way to deal with anything.
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