What's the point of it all?

edmontonexplore

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Can anyone tell me why we all continue to exist day in and day out, when all there is to life is constant disappointment, pain and heartache? Does life ever cease to be a struggle? Is the only peace that which you find in death?
 

Curley

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edmontonexplore ... We mere mortals don't know what death brings ... even if you believe it just another cycle we all must go to ... we have a need to be with the living, the here and now, not to wish for the "next" step, being death.

Life has so many challenges and you're right, disappointments ... but also so many wonders and joys we can have through life!

If you are feeling depressed enough to put this thread on the board (noticed your "life's a bitch" comment) ... I would strongly suggest you contact a local help line ... if only to one on one shares your observations ...

We all need help every now and then ... please find help right away ...
 

rafterman

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ee, my friend you need to see one of the following; Paige @ Prestige, Layla @ Penthouse, Hayley @ Sinderellas.

Plan "B" Have a few tokes and listen to some tunes, watch a few Futurama episodes on DVD, make youself a grilled cheese sandwich with some pickles on the side.

Plan "C" Have a few tokes and see one of the following;.....

But seriously you have to take satisfaction in the small things and realize that whatever #@!! you are going through will pass. I know I tend to exaggerate things in my mind to bigger problems than they are but sometimes you just have to make a change in your life i.e. relationship, job etc. What is making you unhappy?

Anyhow here is some positive Karma ++++ for you.
 

Bueller

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We're all here for a reason, either to be a pawn or a player in the Great Game. We may only accomplish something we consider insignificant throughout our entire lives, yet the ripples of that action will effect everyone around us. Though few of us only amass to any sort of "greatness", they cannot accomplish that without the assistance of those around them. Society progresses through humanity: every can in the pyramid is as important as the other, but we can only read some of the labels.
 

Morrigan

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Man, just breathe. Don't take advice (no offense to those who gave it) unless you want to. Yeah, life sucks ass. You're telling me!! Look what I do for work! Ha! I have to deal with men getting off thinking they own me (not all are like that, but enough are to cause some really bad days). Yeah life sucks. But at the end of the day, its just me and my many animals, and I read a book, and take some time to reassess things. I do like my job, I just don't like the attitudes and demeanors of some of the people who come through my door. We all have the same pitfalls in life, and we all have the same strengths. Do what makes you feel good, no matter what anyone else says or thinks. Its YOUR life. If you wanna go gamble your paycheque away, fine. If you wanna settle down and have a family, fine. Whatever works for you works for you. Don't listen to anyone else (yes I am included in the 'anyone else' category) but your own heart. If you're sad, feel sad. In modern society its not okay to have a bad day. Everyone starts thinking you have depression, and your doctor wants to prescribe you a magic little pill to solve the problem. Feel what you're feeling; you're not mentally ill, you're not in need of therapy, and you sure as hell don't need a little pill to cure you.
 

KITT

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edmontonexplore said:
Can anyone tell me why we all continue to exist day in and day out, when all there is to life is constant disappointment, pain and heartache? Does life ever cease to be a struggle? Is the only peace that which you find in death?
Our reason is to procreate. What we want our reason to be is to be happy and make a difference. How do we incorporate the two?
If Life is so full of disappointment, pain and heartache, then whatever cycle you go thru to make this happen...BREAK it. You cannot answer the same problem the same way and expect a different outcome. So, if you keep having a hard time, it's time to try a new solution. A total life change. It's hard..I'm doing it now. It's REALLY HARD. But, I have a wonderful mentor who kicks my ass everyday....or I'd be in bed sulking and crying and thinking the same thing....LIFE SUX.
I have a point....she's 29. I've been told she's great, intelligent, and that she has made an incredible impact on other peoples lives. I'm starting to get to know her now. I have a reason. She's 9. and she's great, intelligent, and everyone (including me) thinks that she will one day do great things. I see it in her, and it makes my heart jump. Everyone says she's JUST LIKE ME!
Find yours.
 

Curley

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Morrigan ...

Morrigan said:
Yeah, life sucks ass. You're telling me!! Look what I do for work! Ha! I have to deal with men getting off thinking they own me (not all are like that, but enough are to cause some really bad days). Yeah life sucks.

If you're sad, feel sad. In modern society its not okay to have a bad day. Everyone starts thinking you have depression, and your doctor wants to prescribe you a magic little pill to solve the problem.
Morrigan ... Yes, I did cut up your message a bit ... but these are the highlights ... Feeling sad emotions for a short period of time is probably healthy in the long run, but for a long continuous time ... it's absolutely the worst!!!!!!!!!

Morrigan ... some advice ... get the hell out of this business now! Go back to school but stop being an SP! Yeah life does suck from time to time but the majority of the time and I don't mean 51% of the time ... it is just fantastic to be alive and experience all this world has to offer!!!!!!!!!!
 

Hit Man

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I'm always inclined to fall back on education when crises set in, and they do often. Pick up a copy of The Noonday Demon by Soloman (I think). It will help you understand why you are feeling the way you evidently do. It's a brutal read. The author has sufferred through some pretty significant bouts of depression and speaks from a position of experience. Having said that, if you're having thoughts of suicide GET HELP IMMEDIATELY. There are options and no matter how bad today is, tomorrow is an opportunity. Good luck. HM
 

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Very appropriate reply hitman!!
I used to volunteer at the distress centre, and the comments you made were bang on. This is a blatant last ditch cry for help.

Keep reaching out and talking to people edmontonexplore. Things are so focussed in that black hole...ride it through as awful as it is today, it WILL get better...really.
Best wishes for happier days and a BIG HUG!
RaeAnn
 

Morrigan

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Curley, I think that its safe to assume that most people who have read this thread have automatically come to the conclusion that the things EE had spoken of are a constant occurance. How do we know how long he's been feeling this way? He didn't say. I concur 100% that if things like this persist for longer than a couple weeks, then its indicitive of an underlying problem that needs to be addressed. But again, we don't know how long he's felt this way. As for me quitting work.... you're joking. I like my job, and had you have read my post, you would have read that. I was pointing out the fact that even the good things in life are tainted, and even the bad things in life have good. Its cyclic and ever-renewing. After all the PMs you have sent me and your comments in other threads, I have to wonder why you have a hard time getting me to see you're a "nice guy"?
 

edmontonexplore

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I want to thank everyone for their posts. I'd like to think I'm in a mid-life crisis in my thirties, but then how do I explain my teens and twenties? My thoughts are not new to me, just simply stronger than before. I appreciate everything that has been written and I will take all your comments to heart.
 

OilMan

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Buddy... I don't know your circumstances.... but I do know its easy to be drawn into a circle of negativity... and everybody handles it differently... but heres something positive to think about... a group of strangers, care enough to try and help... and I think thats a damn good commentary on life.

For me... I wake up everyday and find something to smile about... and thats not easy somedays... but it works for me.... hang in there buddy
 

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I've always found that if you're in a life rut, the best thing is to change your life...shake it up. It can be something as significant as changing jobs or the place you live. Or it can be something small like buying something new for yourself (maybe it be clothes or a new CD), or take off for a holiday somewhere new. Or somewhere in between the two extremes, such as taking up a new hobby or go to a class. The bigger the shake-up, the better. Meeting new friends, or dating someone new is always a big boost...although I know that can hard to obtain for some.
And of course, never rule out a visit with one of our finest SPs! :)

Good luck. Peace. Out.
 

daryl

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EE

Life can be hard, what I have learned to do is "Breathe" which allows me to feel, yes feel even if the feeling is hurt. For a long long time I did not feel anything just work and depression. It is when I started to feel something that I started to find other things.

So "Breathe" and make contact., go out for that beer with HF. Just make contact that what's all about.

The meaning of life for me is making contact, just those little things we do each day, they can be with the clerk in the store, a SP or anyone else that you want, make contact.

:)
 

Curley

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My apology to Morrigan ...

Please Morrigan ... have a nice day, my apologies for my rude comments and unjust airing of my concerns. I hope you will forgive me.
Curley
 

KITT

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EE, I'm with you

Maybe your right. Maybe there isn't a point...only heartache.
When things start to look brighter, there's and eclipse. You try to get up, and there's someone there to 'push' you back down to where THEY think you belong. You try to take an opportunity to make things better, and someone judges you without looking, reminds you of your stigma, and says 'take a hike, we don't want your kind 'round here'
I am thankfull for the very few friends I have, whom I have met here, cuz without their suport, I'd be scattered accross the Cadomin Caves mountain right now.
Be glad of one thing.......

you aren't me.
 

walrus

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Lovely KITTen

Lifes road forward has potholes, and you have found one. Worse, the world is dotted with assholes, and you have found one of those too. If I could wrap you up in my flippers, protect you from the world and take you away from the hurt I would, but life is too grand a gift to be protected from. Live it all. Focus on the wonders of your road ahead, take your friends with you and leave the assholes in the dust. None of us can travel the road alone.
You are one of the most valuable people that I have ever met in the whole world. Thanks for sharing a corner of your life with me, and if I could be anyone in the world other than me, I would be glad to be you. If I were you, I could be proud of myself, the trail of love that I leave and the wonderful daugher that is so like me. If only I were you.
Look in the mirror at the most wonderful person around.
 
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walrus

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Thank you KITT for looking in the mirror and seeing the great person that all of us here see. We all have down times. I am glad that you are safe and moving forward.
Vive la school girl!
 
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