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What does an SP think when a pooner bears his personal life?

georgebushmoron

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On a related thread, now closed, an interesting question almost posed:

What does an SP think when a pooner takes up her services and starts to divulge his personal life, such as marriage problems, kids, etc.?

I personally find it somewhat pathetic that a pooner spends time with someone he pays money to have sex with to also spill out his personal problems or make excuses for seeing her (such as, "my wife ain't interested in sex anymore", yada yada blah). Obviously you are going to get a sympathetic ear, but not for the reasons you would hope... which makes it all the more pathetic.

Anyhow, wondering what the SPs think of this. I've always wondered about the extraordinary patience you SPs have had to exercise to deal with a myriad of guys' hangups and other personal minutae (no pun intended, some are truly "small").
 

pooner144

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I think you're absolutly right GBM. A person isn't the smartest to pay for sex and then bear his soul to an SP. besides.... goint to see a counselor is cheaper don'cha think? unloading all your issues can really kill a mood,

On the other hand, looking at it from a business perspective, what business is an SP really in? Is it only to provide sex? I don't think so. I think most guys visit an SP because of how the SP makes them feel. That feeling might be "damn, she's hot, and I got to screw her" or, "finally, a woman who actually listens to me, and is willing to do (sexually) what I want" If the SP really cares or not doesn't really matter, (although we'd like to think so) and that's exactly the point. It's all how we perceive it, or choose to percieve it that matters.

An SP is also easy to pour our personal feelings out on, because they're in our life only when WE want them to be. however often we visit them, or however many we see is irrleveant. We always seem to be able to find someone standing on the sidelines waiting to satisfy that itch we all have. ...and that itch is most often sex, or communicated through sex, but often I think it's so much more.

Now of course there's an exception to every rule. Then there's the guys who just like to get their rocks off and enjoy the journey of variety from one girl to the next. even still, she's on the sidelines willing and waiting to scratch our itch.... for a small fee of course. :)
 

Very Veronica

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You've got to go with the flow in this job. Escorting is not for the easily offended.

Most clients shell out for therapy of the physical kind, some for emotional reasons, many touch on what's not happening at home and every now and then, i'm shown the wallet photo of the wife & kids.

A session with an sp should allow a client(s) to open up in whatever capacity they choose and not feel judged however i personally feel that a constructive sexy therapy session would not be complete without some provocation.
 

shedevil

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Good topic, it does happen.

georgebushmoron said:
On a related thread, now closed, an interesting question almost posed:

What does an SP think when a pooner takes up her services and starts to divulge his personal life, such as marriage problems, kids, etc.?

I personally find it somewhat pathetic that a pooner spends time with someone he pays money to have sex with to also spill out his personal problems or make excuses for seeing her (such as, "my wife ain't interested in sex anymore", yada yada blah). Obviously you are going to get a sympathetic ear, but not for the reasons you would hope... which makes it all the more pathetic.

Anyhow, wondering what the SPs think of this. I've always wondered about the extraordinary patience you SPs have had to exercise to deal with a myriad of guys' hangups and other personal minutae (no pun intended, some are truly "small").





I would rather talk about his personal life than mine. To be honest, a lot of people do. I welcome it, because it shows me that they are comfortable. I am impartial and objective, some people just want the ear. I don't repeat it either.

I don't think that it is pathetic, but who else would really listen?
Most men aren't going to share this with other men.

I don't mind, but as long as it doesn't turn into a therapy session. This does happen and I am sure that other SP's can relate.
You are a part shrink when it comes to the job. I rarely have someone just come in and go without sharing something.

I just draw the line at ''industry gossip''. Some people genuinely have bad experiences, and want to share them.

Fine, but I don't want to spend all of my time talking about it.

For me, if I start talking as friends it is very hard to turn on the switch and become what they came to see. Right?

I do all of the talking after the session and I get down to business first. Some people are new and are nervous. They require that type of coddling (dare I say?)


I learned a term from another source. The term is "psychic vampire"

Meaning, that someone is dumping their baggage on you and draining your energy. This is a fine line and I hate it when someone does this to me. Be it personal or business. A good example is making the entire session about it and then continuing it as a form of support.


Make sense?
 

shapeshifter

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Sp's probably feel the same way I do when an SP starts dumpin her fucking woes in my lap, she's behind in her rent, her ex is an asshole, she lost custody of her 2 rugrats, her dog is at vet and she needs 900 bones to get him out,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

I don't give a rats ass! I am shelling out $$$$ because i dont want to hear the same shit i listen to at home, leaky pipes, dog at vet, wife pissed at what the kids did earlier, wife dented the car,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, I am paying for fantasy and SEX! not more of the fuckin reality that i get at home every day! :mad:
 

curmudgeon

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I'm under the impression that "pooners unloading their personal problems" while with a SP is actually pretty common.

Besides the obvious "getting some action", there are alot of guys that also want to unload their personal problems somewhere. And if the source of those problems is family or work, and unloading there could result in unwanted repercussions, there needs to be another safe outlet. I imagine SPs become a frequent outlet for those personal problems because its unlikely for any of it to boomerang back.
 

DeaAphrodite

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georgebushmoron said:
What does an SP think when a pooner takes up her services and starts to divulge his personal life, such as marriage problems, kids, etc.?

Anyhow, wondering what the SPs think of this. I've always wondered about the extraordinary patience you SPs have had to exercise to deal with a myriad of guys' hangups and other personal minutae (no pun intended, some are truly "small").
Going out on a limb here, but it seems to me that for some clients, the 'sex' part of the appointment is secondary. What they are craving is loving human touch, connection, intimacy. Compassion. I try my best to give each individual what they need when they come to me. Sometimes it is a wild jungle cat in heat, sometimes it is a release and a non-judgemental ear to listen. For these people, one of the most valuable things I can give them is insight into how a woman thinks about things. For several of my clients, I have helped them to figure out what they are looking for in a relationship, or helped them to re-appreciate the woman they have at home. Not the wisest business move, perhaps, but it's not ALL about the money.

There is something about this job that makes me feel really good - it is spreading happiness. That takes a lot of different forms. I like making people feel good. Today that might be about stroking a cock, tomorrow it might be stroking a soul.

Having said all that, it is embarassing to have a client whining about how bad it is at home, when he clearly takes no responsibility for his situation.
 

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DeaAphrodite said:
Going out on a limb here, but it seems to me that for some clients, the 'sex' part of the appointment is secondary. What they are craving is loving human touch, connection, intimacy. Compassion. I try my best to give each individual what they need when they come to me. Sometimes it is a wild jungle cat in heat, sometimes it is a release and a non-judgemental ear to listen. For these people, one of the most valuable things I can give them is insight into how a woman thinks about things. For several of my clients, I have helped them to figure out what they are looking for in a relationship, or helped them to re-appreciate the woman they have at home. Not the wisest business move, perhaps, but it's not ALL about the money.

There is something about this job that makes me feel really good - it is spreading happiness. That takes a lot of different forms. I like making people feel good. Today that might be about stroking a cock, tomorrow it might be stroking a soul.

Having said all that, it is embarassing to have a client whining about how bad it is at home, when he clearly takes no responsibility for his situation.
Well said Dea. I agree with you 100%- its not just for the sex that people go to see an SP.
 

badboy642

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right on !

DeaAphrodite said:
Going out on a limb here, but it seems to me that for some clients, the 'sex' part of the appointment is secondary. What they are craving is loving human touch, connection, intimacy. Compassion. I try my best to give each individual what they need when they come to me. Sometimes it is a wild jungle cat in heat, sometimes it is a release and a non-judgemental ear to listen. For these people, one of the most valuable things I can give them is insight into how a woman thinks about things. For several of my clients, I have helped them to figure out what they are looking for in a relationship, or helped them to re-appreciate the woman they have at home. Not the wisest business move, perhaps, but it's not ALL about the money.

There is something about this job that makes me feel really good - it is spreading happiness. That takes a lot of different forms. I like making people feel good. Today that might be about stroking a cock, tomorrow it might be stroking a soul.

Having said all that, it is embarassing to have a client whining about how bad it is at home, when he clearly takes no responsibility for his situation.
you move to Vancouver.. you got a regular...
.. right on, Babe'..

my ex told me one day her first two clients were in and out of the apt. inside of 20 minutes.. they paid for the hour;
I was in total disbelief! - "well", she said, "some guys just want to get laid."

different strokes.......:rolleyes:
 

MissingOne

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georgebushmoron said:
What does an SP think when a pooner bears his personal life?
Seems to me we all must bear our personal lives, gracefully or not.

Not all of us choose to bare our personal lives in the company of SPs.


I'm trying to resist being a spelling Nazi, I really am.
 

LonelyGhost

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georgebushmoron said:
I personally find it somewhat pathetic that a pooner spends time with someone he pays money to have sex with to also spill out his personal problems or make excuses for seeing her (such as, "my wife ain't interested in sex anymore", yada yada blah). Obviously you are going to get a sympathetic ear, but not for the reasons you would hope... which makes it all the more pathetic.
geez george, what crawled up your ass this morning?

how i spend the time i paid for is no one's business at all! sure, fucking is always great, but some of us (probably just me) are NOT in a relationship and being with an escort is the closest to intimacy we get ... in fact, my pshrink gave two thumbs up to seeing escorts for the very reason that any intimacy is better than no intimacy!

and any good escort is there to meet her client's needs, and if that includes some cuddling and intimate sharing then she's doing a great job in my books!

BTW, i have had way more ladies share their intimate lives with me, than vice-versa! us 'pathetic pooners' are not the only ones who need a little intimacy in our lives.

is this the problem your partner is having George? Can't get a cuddle and cry in at home, so she's getting it at work? then we're not the problem, George!
 

DeaAphrodite

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badboy642 said:
you move to Vancouver.. you got a regular...
.. right on, Babe'..
It's tempting. Very tempting. Winnipeg not so much. Sorry. :)
 

JustAGuy

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LonelyGhost said:
... sure, fucking is always great, but some of us (probably just me) are NOT in a relationship and being with an escort is the closest to intimacy we get ...
Not just you, LG. The intimacy, the actual physical touching with another human being is every bit as important as the sex to me. I guess for the ones who are cheating on their partners (deliberately provoking the legions who will rush in to say they are NOT cheating on their partner when they see an SP!! ;)) those aren't important considerations. For me, they are paramount.
 

magician

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I agree with Lonely Ghost on this one. Sometimes when I see SP's, I just wanted a female companion to spend some time with. Just because I book a multiple hour session does not imply I will shag until my legs are weak and get my money worth. I would never go to an SP only because I feel horny. Heck, I might as well watch porn and masterbate sine it is a much more cost effective solution. I had seen some very hot SP's in my days but if there is a lack of emotional stimulation, I just won't repeat.

To me, GFE does not imples only to the menu offerings, but there is a psychological aspect as well. If an SP's want to talk to me about something in her personal life, I am all ears and makes me feel good. Likewise, I would expect them to listen if I want to share my personal matters with her since that's part of my definition of GFE. I understand being discreet is very important in the escorting business, but sometimes I still like to ask personal questions about SP since it makes me feel more emotionally attached to that person. It's just a bit difficult for me to have an intimate relationship with someone I know nothing about aside from the "working" name. I once watched a documentary on TV about geiza, and their role in society is to relieve mental stress for businessmen. They have to be educated in literabure and music, and very versed in business environment. The only difference between escorts and geiza is they don't provide sex.
 

DeaAphrodite

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ladies...?

Don't any of the other ladies have anything to say about this topic? I am interested to hear.
 

DeaAphrodite

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massagelady said:
Last time I checked I was a lady...;)

Yes, I asked for other ladies, as in 'other ladies who haven't replied yet'.

Last time I checked, there were more than 3 or 4 ladies on the board. :)
 

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georgebushmoron said:
What does an SP think when a pooner bears his personal life?
Um, every pooner bears his personal life!

Who else, exactly, do you think jumps through his daily hoops for him?

Every pooner bears his personal life just as does every guy on Skytrain and every old lady on Robson.

One would hope to God that SP's never give so much as a second thought to men they see at the gas station bearing their personal lives or men they sell sexual companionship to doing the same thing.

Here's an idea, why don't you go stand at the gas station and offer to pay somebody's $75 gas charge so he doesn't have so much to bear?

Or why not wax poetically about how a metropolitan city can bear a hockey team that is folding up the tent?
 

Hollybaby

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I don't think it's pathetic at all. I suppose if all you want is sex, then it might seem outrageous to spend hundreds of dollars to talk to someone.

But most of my clients want more than sex, they want a connection too. Besides, intelligent conversation is a huge turn on!

I'm always comfortable when a client talks about his personal life. I understand that some men see escorts just for variety's sake, but some are trying to fill a void, and it's often more than sexual.