TO BC Boy - re: feelings for an SP

SeekSteadyRegSP

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BCBOY said:
Damnit, I Have Feelings for an SP

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and I can't understand why.

she ain't hotter than other SPs
she isn't better in bed than any other SPs

yet I can't stop thinking bout her. its driving me crazy

Firstly I sure hope that the other thread being closed had nothing to do with the actual first topic there, and that I'm not in violation of anything.

I just wanted to say to this person that I think that a central factor is simply the amount of your time and interest you have invested in this SP. Even though we sit here and trade SP stories as if they were poker hands, with many different ones being the highlights, there is still a whole lot to be said for enhancing a personal familiarity (on any level, really) with ONE person (yes, even an SP) than to keep tossing all 5 cards back and wanting an entirely new hand.

Another point, is that any SP who has seen you 4 or 5 times will naturally let her guard down a bit more, where it concerns her personal safety. Just that alone, along with her natural will for experimenting business-wise with daring herself to be the active partner even though she might be more passive in her personal non-business relationships, can really make an SP seem special.

These women have to skate fairly near to the edge in terms of making someone feel sooooooooo special, and they do so with very few elements protecting their immediate safety. How can you help but to be drawn to them (at least the ones who are drug-free anyway)?

On top of that, most women share initial sexual encounters with men who are in a constant state of sexual-negotiation (I.E. "how far can I get with you tonight after I took you out on the town?" etc.). These negotiations are quite tiresome for most any female over the age of 14. In the arena of prostitution, the negotiations are generally monetary and at a certain point a woman gets to feel the relief that is a "sure thing" already packaged and on the way. She doesn't have the "tense", "braced" feeling of someone who might do best to resist a while longer. She lets herself seem to give-in (for the money)... and that too makes her seeeeeeeeeeem more refreshing than the typical real-life *dates* we might know.

In general terms, I suspect that the actual pursuit of anything beyond paid sexual encounters isn't going to go very well... but I would advise you to later consider how much less it was about how ideal she might/could/would have been for you, relationship-wise, and how much more it was about your own natural interest and will to keep giving and giving to your familiarity with the same female target.

That yearn for continuing to build upon something with one female... will be a great asset to you before long.
 

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SeekSteadyRegSP said:
Firstly I sure hope that the other thread being closed had nothing to do with the actual first topic there, and that I'm not in violation of anything...
It was beat to fuckin' death dude. Give it a rest.

ps: there is an option to PM a person on this board. PM stands for 'private message'. ;)
 

afterplay

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FuZzYknUckLeS said:
It was beat to fuckin' death dude. Give it a rest.
I disagree. There were still some decent insights comin' in when it started to degenerate into a bunch of retarded sniping and oneupmanship. I think I'd've preferred to see the mods clean out the tripe and leave the thread open.
 

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afterplay said:
I disagree. There were still some decent insights comin' in when it started to degenerate into a bunch of retarded sniping and oneupmanship.
If you enjoy the subject so much, simply do a search and you can get all the insight you can handle from the forty-somethin' other threads that have been done on the subject. ;)
afterplay said:
I think I'd've preferred to see the mods clean out the tripe and leave the thread open.
mmmmmm.....triiiiiiiiipe......

 

rollerboy

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stryker said:
I'd like to know how BCboy makes out with his infatuation,hope he lets us know:cool:
Unless Dexter created her in his laboratory, most likely..."She kicked him in the nuts and called him faggot."

WHAPP!!! Yeah, that is enough for one carcass, it's plenty tender. Don't you have an appointment with a different sort of stick, Fuzzy? The wife must be getting tired of your excuses.
 

BC_Boy

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familarity? maybe or maybe not?

After my first session with her, I already felt attracted to her and compelled to see her again even though the sex wasn't any different.

In contrast, some SPs that I've seen multiple times I have had no attraction to though they were awesome girls.
 

slow__hand

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BC_Boy said:
familarity? maybe or maybe not?

After my first session with her, I already felt attracted to her and compelled to see her again even though the sex wasn't any different.

In contrast, some SPs that I've seen multiple times I have had no attraction to though they were awesome girls.

While I do appreciate the challenge before you, and the value of the opinion of others here....Either do it or don't...enough talk. Fish or cut bait

my2cents
 

BC_Boy

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slow__hand said:
While I do appreciate the challenge before you, and the value of the opinion of others here....Either do it or don't...enough talk. Fish or cut bait

my2cents
I'll be doing it when I see her in Mid May (not enough $$ now for a visit).....and she is not independant so I can't just see her for free.

no worries......I'm not the type to dwell on this type of scenario for months before taking action.....
 

slow__hand

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BC_Boy said:
I'll be doing it when I see her in Mid May (not enough $$ now for a visit).....and she is not independant so I can't just see her for free.

no worries......I'm not the type to dwell on this type of scenario for months before taking action.....
IMHO i couldn't wait that long if I thought it might be a go, but we're all different...good luck
 

funnguy694u

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BCBoy,it is only true love if she swollows :p !!!! If she dont,then it is only you with these feelings and you are just beeting your big head against the wall...I think we have all experianced wut you are going threw,BUT you have to remember someing at all times with them....YOU ARE PAYING THEM TO BE THAT WAY SILLY !!! Some ladies are better at repeat business becuz of there ora....As long as you are still paying for it,there is now fricking chance she feels the same for you.....GOOD LUCK<YOU SILLY GOOSE !!!!
 

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TJ in the 'Peg said:
Fuzzy, if this thread is pissing you off so much why the hell are you here? Ignore it and move on and piss in someone else's cornflakes.
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You're right. Obviously people like this bullshit drama and I'm in the minority. Carry on.
 

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There have been gentleman that I've meet threw this line of work and wished I had kept their contact information so I could ask them out on a ' REAL ' date but alas I don't keep that kind of information.

It's hard to connect with someone in this line of work ... we are paid to be the ' girl friend ' but every now and then it happens.. with no rhyme or reason it just happens.

BCboy I wish you all the success in asking her out on a ' REAL ' date !!

The deal breaker for me would be ... " you have to quit " which I'm not about to.

Dating in the civlian world is even harder ... how the hell does the conversation come up.

Me: " btw: I'm a hooker, sure hope your okay with me sharing my girlie parts"
Dude: " no problem honey I dont mind "


Yeah like that is possible.
 

BC_Boy

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Annalise Lane said:
There have been gentleman that I've meet threw this line of work and wished I had kept their contact information so I could ask them out on a ' REAL ' date but alas I don't keep that kind of information.

It's hard to connect with someone in this line of work ... we are paid to be the ' girl friend ' but every now and then it happens.. with no rhyme or reason it just happens.

BCboy I wish you all the success in asking her out on a ' REAL ' date !!

The deal breaker for me would be ... " you have to quit " which I'm not about to.

Dating in the civlian world is even harder ... how the hell does the conversation come up.

Me: " btw: I'm a hooker, sure hope your okay with me sharing my girlie parts"
Dude: " no problem honey I dont mind "


Yeah like that is possible.
to be honest, I wouldn't mind at all. I recognize the difference between work and pleasure.

I mean, if I dated a chef, I can't be like "you can only cook for me".
 

afterplay

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dronebe said:
Just last Friday I talked with an old friend SP who telling me she was trying to figure out how to dump a 7 year client. He had talked to her of love, cut her donations, was coming over for hours and preventing business opportunities, and now she realized he was not a friend but a detraction. So before you think that one of these girls is going to get attached to you, realize she has to eat too, and if you cut into her lifestyle, it is not going to be happy.
Which is why BC_Boy is doing the right thing by laying it out on the table. If she likes him enough to let him play for free, great. If she's feels she's doing something for her business by offering him deeply discounted rates, great. If she wants to keep it business, good for her. Your SP friend has come to the decision that she's being taken advantage of, so good on BC_Boy for being forthcoming about his intentions. I guess it should be obvious that we'd all like unlimited free time with our ATFs but leeching to get it is at least unethical.
 

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afterplay said:
Which is why BC_Boy is doing the right thing by laying it out on the table. If she likes him enough to let him play for free, great. If she's feels she's doing something for her business by offering him deeply discounted rates, great. If she wants to keep it business, good for her. Your SP friend has come to the decision that she's being taken advantage of, so good on BC_Boy for being forthcoming about his intentions. I guess it should be obvious that we'd all like unlimited free time with our ATFs but leeching to get it is at least unethical.
I'll be definately straight forward what my feelings for her are like, and that it is not a ploy to get free action.

ps. she did offer my a discount before, but I choose to pay full price because a.) i wanna take care of her, and b.) I don't believe in discounts if you are getting exactly what you want.
 

BC_Boy

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Anita's Massage said:
You know what? I really like you!;)

With an attitude like this your chaces of winning her over are pretty good!:)
Thanks for the compliment, and thanxs to all that have offered advice.

I'll let you all know what happens when I see her in a couple weeks

Peace Out.
 

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BC_Boy said:
to be honest, I wouldn't mind at all. I recognize the difference between work and pleasure.

I mean, if I dated a chef, I can't be like "you can only cook for me".

You say this now.......give us an update after you've been together for awhile
 

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BC_Boy said:
I'll be doing it when I see her in Mid May (not enough $$ now for a visit).....and she is not independant so I can't just see her for free.
Call me shallow but if you have to "save" til mid May to see her, your chances (monetary wise) are slim to none.
 

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wilde said:
Call me shallow but if you have to "save" til mid May to see her, your chances (monetary wise) are slim to none.
Mark Twain went on a speaking tour in his seventies to pay his debts and avoid bankrupcy---from all accounts he had a very happy wife and family. My friend.maybe it is you who should do some reading.
 
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