The etiquette of discontinuing saying hello

[LoadShooter]

Is there a rule of thumb of when someone should stop saying hello to someone?

There are many people throughout the city you have met once and don't know that well, or a former co-worker that you recognize, or someone you have simply said hi to before that you knew, but never had any real conversation with. With some of these people there might be a greeting to start with after you have first met them and see them around town, but after awhile it stops.

I've noticed some people can be quite avoiding about saying hi to someone, and I'll admit that I've even been that way about it myself. It is kind of an awkward subject to discuss, but that's why I was interested in people's opinions on this.

 

[UhOh]

One "hello" followed by two "hey" followed by rocking you head as if to say "whats up" without actually saying it

 

[poonerboi]

I generally just give a slight nod in passing.

 

[jgg]

How hard is it to say hello? If I’m out walking or running on a path I’ll often smile and say good morning or hello.

 

[VanessainVictoria]

How hard is it to say hello? If I’m out walking or running on a path I’ll often smile and say good morning or hello.

I find people to be much friendlier in the morning. Good morning!

 

[sybian]

I find when it comes to women, I recognize them from behind....or rather ...their behind first.
With anyone else, I will smile and nod, in an unspoken way ,saying.....I recognize you, and acknowledge your presence on this earth....I may get to know you at a later, more convenient time.
When meeting them later at a social function, there is a common familiarity, that we will strike up.
This is normal in a small town setting, we know a little about each other already from other people, and there is a curiosity that needs to be satisfied.

 

[jgg]

I find people to be much friendlier in the morning. Good morning!

Good morning Vanessa, nice day in Victoria? Effing cold out in the boonies.

 

[sevenofnine]

in my job I meet thousands of people
Walmart greeters are like that,
im not really a morning person,

so when some one says have a good morning,
I kind of mumble a reply, have a good morning somewhere else.
or fuck off already

I kind of think my employment days are numbered

 

[VanessainVictoria]

Good morning Vanessa, nice day in Victoria? Effing cold out in the boonies.

Very nice day in Victoria, jgg. I have my Cowichan on and its sunny out. Love a nice fall morning.

 

[rlock]

in my job I meet thousands of people
Walmart greeters are like that,
im not really a morning person,

so when some one says have a good morning,
I kind of mumble a reply, have a good morning somewhere else.
or fuck off already

I kind of think my employment days are numbered

Reminds me of that scene in We Were Soldiers:

"Good morning, Sergeant."

"How do you know what kind of goddamn morning it is?!"

All that action and this was still the best scene in the whole film. :biggrin1:

 

[Jethro Bodine]

I'm old fashioned and a little civility never hurt anyone.
Many days I walk to my office and when approaching someone, if they make eye contact, will say "good morning/good day" as I pass.
IMHO it never hurts to be friendly.
But I come from a time when we called our friend's parents Mr or Mrs Jones, not Al or Donna. Adults we didn't know were Sir or Ma'am. We were taught to NEVER hit a girl. It was always Ladies First. You held doors open and stood up to let a woman or elderly person sit.

Cheers
J

 

[sybian]

S

I'm old fashioned and a little civility never hurt anyone.
Many days I walk to my office and when approaching someone, if they make eye contact, will say "good morning/good day" as I pass.
IMHO it never hurts to be friendly.
But I come from a time when we called our friend's parents Mr or Mrs Jones, not Al or Donna. Adults we didn't know were Sir or Ma'am. We were taught to NEVER hit a girl. It was always Ladies First. You held doors open and stood up to let a woman or elderly person sit.

Cheers
J

.....and when you lipped off your parents, it wasn't a question if you may get a cuff on the back of your head.....the question was..... if you might lose consciousness.

You and I are cut from the same cloth Jethro.

 

[jgg]

I may be older than either Jethro or sybian. When I got the strap at school, I got it twice at home. Maybe that's why BDSM doesn't appeal at all. I had enough in my early days.

 

[summerbreeze]

Is there a rule of thumb of when someone should stop saying hello to someone?

There are many people throughout the city you have met once and don't know that well, or a former co-worker that you recognize, or someone you have simply said hi to before that you knew, but never had any real conversation with. With some of these people there might be a greeting to start with after you have first met them and see them around town, but after awhile it stops.

I've noticed some people can be quite avoiding about saying hi to someone, and I'll admit that I've even been that way about it myself. It is kind of an awkward subject to discuss, but that's why I was interested in people's opinions on this.

just be yourself, some people are extroverted and will reach out with a friendly greeting at the drop of a hat, others more reserved

its a big world with lots of different folks, why not just do what makes you comfortable and not worry about etiquette, not an etiquette issue

its a personality issue

 

[poonerboi]

in my job I meet thousands of people
Walmart greeters are like that,
im not really a morning person,

so when some one says have a good morning,
I kind of mumble a reply, have a good morning somewhere else.
or fuck off already

I kind of think my employment days are numbered

Just tell them "sorry I've already made other plans"

 

[johnsmit]

I was generally an introvert.
But I say hello with those that make eye contact in a social situation..not necessarily just anyone on the street.
Any passing acquaintance I will give a nod and lip a hello.

These days I say good morning to the bus drivers in Vancouver.

 

[Sexy Lina Melone]

Condo life and elevators are that situation where you need to acknowledge your neighbours. I don’t really want to be too friendly with them, so I use my big smile, eye contact and perhaps a nod.
Walking in a mall or on the street, I like smiling to catch people smiling back. Not in a creepy way but just in a being a happy woman enjoying life kind of way..

Smile and the world smiles back!!

 

[Jethro Bodine]

Hey Lina,

 

[badbadboy]

Usually when walking a dog, people are more inclined to return the 'hello'.

If it's someone I've known and they decline to return the hello, that's fine. It's a simple friendly gesture that seems to be in decline in Vancouver.

If you go to smaller rural communities, you will find they are quicker with a smile and a hello. It usually takes a few days for your 'Vancouver' face to soften to local standards.

There was a time when Granville Street was an active walking street with families going for a stroll. It was common place for strangers to greet each other as they passed. I was pretty young at the time and I grew up with those customs.

 

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