SP/Pooner Relationship

[Stained Finger]

I have been seeing the same SP for a couple of years now and I think we have a pretty good relationship. Recently she has mentioned that she would like to see me outside the SP/Pooner relationship. I believe that she is sincere in her offer. I have not given her any indication in the past that I would be interested in a "normal" relationship. What am I to expect here? SP's, I would be interested in your point of view and please be blunt even if you think it will sound condescending.

sf

 

[skipper1]

Mr Lonelyhearts says if you're talking about this relationship strictly from a personal perspective, only the two of you should decide that. Outside opinions aren't going to matter in that respect because we just don't know the two of you.

But if you're asking strictly from an objective perspective (ie, the odds based on what we may have noticed about that kind of thing in general) then my own word is I'd tend to stay away, but take that lightly at the same time because it's OBJECTIVE.

If I were you I would mostly tackle this on a personal level. Only you two know how you are together. If you honestly don't know one way or the other then you better give it plenty more time. You can't lose by doing that.

 

[Stained Finger]

Thank you for your thoughts Skipper.

 

[dinobot]

If she's a good person and you like her personality, perhaps you can try to look past her occupation. SP's afterall are people too and deserve to have genuine relationships with decent people. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[Cowboygg]

I was in a simular relationship but it soon failed.When you do get real feelings its hard to look the other way when she is leaving your bed to get into someone elses.Just remember how you two met.And think would she be ok if you were doing 10 other girls a week too?

Also just my opinion,if you two decide to try it I hope it works out,good luck.

 

[Avery]

Stained Finger (what a handle! ), this topic has been discussed many times before in the Lounge and General Discussion. There's no consensus at all, however it appears there have been more failures than successes. It's certainly risky, but in the end, it's your call.

However, if she asks you for a loan, don't walk; run!!

 

[Euro_SZabina]

I have been seeing the same SP for a couple of years now and I think we have a pretty good relationship. Recently she has mentioned that she would like to see me outside the SP/Pooner relationship. I believe that she is sincere in her offer. I have not given her any indication in the past that I would be interested in a "normal" relationship. What am I to expect here? SP's, I would be interested in your point of view and please be blunt even if you think it will sound condescending.

sf

It's only up to you and her.
We don't know you and we don't know her. So, why don't you use your head and heart and go with that.
I am not trying to be a meany in here, but how would we know your situation. That's really not much you details you said.

 

[Sixpak]

No mention of whether she would continue working or get out of the business to be with you. If she keeps working then a lot depends on how you accept this.
reading between the lines it seems that she is more interested in this than you are .. but I may be mistaken.
If you are married and want to stay that way, then you may be worried that the lady might become too serious. So many scenarios!!!! We could write many different endings to this scenario.

 

[Stained Finger]

Thanks for the comments. Complex matter. It looks as if I am going to have to take things slow and see how it goes. Live and learn I guess. I have no problem with her occupation, but that might change. There seems to be a lot more negative things that could happen as opposed to good. We'll see what happens.

 

[jyackie]

Thanks for the comments. Complex matter. It looks as if I am going to have to take things slow and see how it goes. Live and learn I guess. I have no problem with her occupation, but that might change. There seems to be a lot more negative things that could happen as opposed to good. We'll see what happens.

You may believe that you have no problems with her occupation right now because things are still light hearted. If and when the relationship becomes more serious, will you still feel the same way about her occupation?

Sure there are many negatives things that could happen but thats with everything in life. There must be one or two of these kinds of relationships that are "successful". I think those are the people you should be talking to because they made it work not the poor saps that broke up with their SP girlfriends.

 

[ladyluck]

I was in a relationship with an ex pooner for almost 6yrs.
We didn't end due to the job, but our bickering at each other. I still love him dearly and I know his feelings are the same. We are the greatest of friends, and I'm sure we will remain that way for a very long time. I don't regret a moment of having met him or having him in my life.
You have to follow what your heart is telling you. You can't expect her to quit either.
There can't be any jealousy.
I realize it has been mentioned that if she met you this way then she might fall for another. Well I never fell for another, I thought of him often while working. This is my work , he knew it I knew it. It worked well.
Avery you dirty dog you, run if she asks for a loan j/k.
If you plan on pursuing it then you have to make sure you aren't the jealous type and can except what she does and when she comes home to you and wants to be with you, it's cause of her feelings for you.
I wish you well whatever you do decide to do. I hate when people say it never works. Cause I'm an example of it having worked.
I have to add I was in relationships that were disasters even when I wasn't in this biz. Relationships are give and take. You both have to feel some sort of chemistry and go with it.
Good luck,,,,Just my 2 cents.

 

[Mchatte]

Skipper and Avery have very valid points. Avery's comment about your handle "Stained Finger" is also valid!

M

P.S. You're not the "other" Nikki are you?

 

[Guardian Angel]

Give it a try

My feelings are if you truly enjoy each other, give it a try. It is no different IMO than meeting someone in any other way.

You know what she does, she knows you have been poonng.
So that part is out of the way. The rest is up to two adults to develop things togetherlike any other wanted raltionship.

Good Luck.

G.A.

 

[Avery]

...You're not the "other" Nikki are you?

The infamous Nikki Orange Fingers? I hope not!