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This subject has been discussed ad infinitum since the days of the old "news group".... alt.sex.prostitution.....

If ya like the chick - ask her out and take the chance.....
 

chuck1561

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I wonder

if Trudi would want a date :p
 
I agree with Gina, even if you decied to Date there will allways be that how you met each other hanging over your heads.
Be assured that when you fight, the guy will say hey your just a hooker, and the girl will say hey how do I know your not out there spending money on other girls.
Either way I don't think that If you met in a cleint/SP setting that you should try to take it any furthur then that. I am sure there will be some of you who will try to prove me wrong but I personally think that no matter how much you like each other that it won't work in the long run, it will end up being more stress in your life just like Gina said.:cool:
 

hitrack

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This is a lesson you need to learn for yourself.
 
The Top three reason I don't Date while working:
1.) If the guy chooses to accept what I do then dose he really care about me ?? if someone dose not get jelous that I am with other men why is he really with me?? money maybe?
2.) If I really like someone and decied to quit working or cut back on my hours to spend time with him will I ever reach my goals that first got me to be in the biz. allthough we may enjoy our job we all know that money is the reason we got into this line of work. Money is needed to reach our goals and where else will we make money like this?
3.) Relashionships are hard in the first place, I do not need to fight over my job and what I do. So I will wait untill I am done with this biz and have reached my goals then look for that perfect someone.

Everyone this is just what I think, If you think that it will work for you then go ahead and try to make it work. I wish you all the best and hope that everyone finds thier match. For now I am happy being single!! ;)
 

spaceghost

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Privateplaymate said:
The Top three reason I don't Date while working:

1.) If the guy chooses to accept what I do then does he really care about me ?? If someone does not get jealous that I am with other men why is he really with me??
You know... this topic has been covered quite a bit by the Perberts in the past.

But every time a topic is posted, you can get little gems of thoughts that making reading them worthwhile.

Playmate... you are the first sp to express this thought... and it is a valid thought.

Question for you now...

If you would reasonably expect your man to get jealous if you are still working and have difficulty accepting a relationship with you while you were still working... would you tell your s/o about your working past after you left the biz and started up a relationship?

Would you reasonably expect an 'rational' man to have a great deal of difficulty accepting your ability to have sex with anyone, anytime without any emotional attachment (thereby forever questioning the validity of any intimate bonding actually occuring with him)? As a result... would you feel it best not to ever tell him about what you did?

I would be interested to hear your thoughts.
 
SpaceGhost,

I would not tell a guy that I am casually dateing about my past, but if it started to get somewhat serious then I would feel that I should and would. I would explain the reasons for being in the biz and find out if he can accept my past.
I turly belive in honesty in a relationship and that would be a really big lie to hide and would be quite damageing if it was ever found out after bieng in a serious relationship for some time. So I would tell him before it got to that point.
If the relashionship is getting serious then I will have to lay out who I really am and if a guy could not accept my past then he is not really for me.
As far as not being able to have any intmate bonding with him I think that he will know that I can just by the way we are together. Just because I can do what I do without any emotional attachment dose not mean I can not have a normal relationship.
The biz is much diffrent then a personal relationship, both client and sp know what they are there for. Allthough you can build a friendship and some kind of attachment with your regular clients you still know that it is a buisness relationship not a personal one.
I hope that my rambling has got my point across. Thanks for reading.
 

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I believe the biggest problem is the word" TRUST" from both side!

In a way Sp and client relationship is too business like ,can we trust each other without the transaction?

After a friendship has been built between a Sp and a client.If they really decide to go further, can they lay out everything on the table or open up completely without the business part?

There are too many factors involved. If we all try to figure it rationally ,the answer is no! But if that is your destiny,what can you do about it?

Just my 2 cents
 

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YOU CAN"T DO THAT

Privateplaymate said:
Be assured that when you fight, the guy will say hey your just a hooker, and the girl will say hey how do I know your not out there spending money on other girls.
You just simply can not throw the past in each other's face during an argument...EVER...Regardless of what you worked at in the past, how you met, where you met etc. etc. etc. If you have an argument about an issue. stick to the issue. You start throwing stuff in a person's face and that's how blowups start. I see absolutely no reason why a relationship can not happen if two people click. The person's job in itself should have NO bearing as to the possibility of a realtionship being successful. Issues attatched TO the job however may but thoses issues come from within, not from the job itself.
 

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Gina Lee said:
A very BAD IDEA .....unless you want more stress in your life.
With all due respect Gina, Just can not see why it HAS to be that way. If two people really fall for each other, respect each other and see each other as individual people rather than as extensions of their jobs, and can communicate HONESTLY with each other, I just can not see how they can let a job get in the way of possible happiness. Maybe I'm just to much a romantic and not realistic.
 

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Privateplaymate said:
The Top three reason I don't Date while working:
1.) if someone dose not get jelous that I am with other men why is he really with me?? money maybe?
You are making a BIG assumption here Privateplaymate. Just because a guy accepts your JOB doesn't mean he is not jealous about you being with other guys. He accepts it because of what he thinks about you and he sees you as a PERSON and not as an extension of your job. Look at all the girls in the biz to get them thru school. Are you saying they are one 'knd' of person while in the biz and then totally different people two months later when they set up their law practise or their brain surgury practise? I hope not because it is still the same person. It's the JOB that changed overnight. This is not to say people NEVER change btw (b4 some accuses me of saying somethng I didn't again). Maybe the guy that wants to go out with her LATER is the one after her money?!
 

Lolita

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Here's something to ponder: As a male, could you ever be comfortable with an SP girlfriend when she came home and shrugged off sex with you because she had the snot fucked out of her by a well-endowed guy earlier that day?
 
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rigiddoctor

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a wise woman once said 'O' 'O' 'O' my god

I thought most SPs try to keep their orgasms for their SOs...
Jude said that some of her best orgasms came from her clients, as they were the only sexual relationships where she could completely 'let go' of inhibitions.

Ladies, is this the case?

Some are honest enough to say they're in the hobby for the money, but surely there are some horny broads out there...
 

Lolita

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Foxy,

1) yes, it's hypothetical

2) based on personal experience very little can grow in a relationship with an SP

3) for the most part, in relationships where the SO knew of the business their partner were in, confidence issues arose and slight role-playing of the pimping variety, albeit very subtle. Since this occupation is not socially acceptable, SOs rarely know.
 

countryguy

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The closest I have taken an sp out on a date is to a lingere shop. We had a great time, especially ticking off the staff. She changed into a couple of costumes and I would stick my head in the booth. The staff would say no you can't do that. And we got some good laughs over the different sex toys. She bought a couple of customes. There was nothing extra.

But on a real date? I would be very reluctant. In fact I would only consider it if the sp happened to mention it first.

In this situation if anyone finds themselves being asked out on a date then the one who has been asked better wonder if there are mutual feelings about each other. And if there is not, then a date would be bad move.
 

Oberon

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Grendleaxe said:
Would a male be comfortable with a girlfriend that came home and shrugged off sex because:........
The man makes sense, read his post .. :)

Life if it was easy everyone would be doing it..

Oberon
 
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