It's pretty simple, walk away. It's no different than a bar asking you for your own personal information. Why should you be asked to give away such information ? I went for lunch today at the diner in my building, they didn't ask for references to see how I ate or if I paid the bill.
If a woman asks you for references...do the whole industry a favour and say no thanks and walk.
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Well if you have issues with how it works, I suggest you get out of the business and go back to serving tables.
I think you made it on a "Do Not See Ever" list for many SPs.
Here are the excerpts from a Bad Date Sheet from a harm reduction agency in Calgary. Yes, it's street based so their trade has the reputation for being more violent. But one study of Vancouver agencies and independents, that included about 60 respondents, said that 2/3rds of them did not encounter violence. It means that one third did. I personally think that's too large a number.
A big reason why many escorts, unlike street workers, do not face such situations? References, reputation, and reviews.
In the US, a lot of escorts demand your full name and employment information - and get it. Always. Just, you know, a comment about how thing work...
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Shhift: Bad Date Sheet – November 2008, Shift:
Date: October 2008
Description of the event: Date picked up worker at the TNC at 5am. They had sex. After services the date did not want to pay. The date pulled out a long knife and threatened the worker.
Description of the Vehicle: A 1985 maroon Aero Star mini van with grey lining.
Description of the Date: A clean shaven white man, approximate age was 31years old. The date had blond short hair. The man was 5’9 to 5’10 feet tall. The date was wearing a white hat, blue jeans, and a hooded sweatshirt.
Date: September 15th, 2008
Description of the event: Date picked up worker on 15th avenue and Centre street. Worker was given money for service. Date then grabbed worker in violent way, worker jumped out. Worker took off and date kept driving by looking for her.
Description of the Vehicle: Blue, older car. Clean inside.
Description of the Date: Indian, Clean Shaven, Bug-eyed, 35-40 years of age, 6’1, 220lb
approx.
Date: July 2008 REPEAT OFFENDER!!!!!
Description of the event: Date picked up worker in the 9th avenue and Inglewood. The date picked up a worker and drove her to an industrial area. The date beat, strangled, and raped the worker. The date drove the worker back to 9th ave. The man gave the worker crack as she left the vehicle. The date told the worker that “All hookers are scum and deserve to die”.
Description of the Vehicle: A beige 4 door truck with tinted windows.
Description of the Date: A black man his late 40’s.
Date: May, 24th 2008
Description of the event: Date picked up worker on 14th ave and 1st street. Date paid, and grabbed worker by the throat and started strangling worker. He put the seat back where the worker was sitting, and got on top of her. He told her he was going to kill her. Date started punching worker in the back of the head, worker managed to get the door open, he grabbed the
workers purse and now has her identification and belongings. Worker started running and he drove and cut her off, so worker ran the other way and he drove up and got out of the truck, grabbed workers cell phone and tore it in half, the date then got in the truck and drove away.
Description of the Vehicle: Very clean green truck.
Description of the Date: A black man in his late twenties, The date Weighed 240 pounds, and
was approximately 5’10 to 6 feet tall.
Date: April or May
Description of event: Date picked up worker; he took the worker to his house. The date then beat the worker with a hammer.
Description of the date: An older, bald man with glasses.
Description of the Vehicle: 2004 Chrysler Sebring, green or gray in color.
Date: May 19th Repeat offender!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Extremely dangerous
Description of the event: A couple of years ago a date picked up a worker and held a knife to her throat while he raped her. The workers said that the man was charged with several counts of abuse, confinement, and sexual assault in the past. The man was apparently arrested and served jail time. The worker saw the date on May 19th, driving around Centre Street and 15th avenue. It appeared that the man was looking for a date.
Description of the Date: A Chinese man with a large birthmark covering most of his forehead.
Description of the Vehicle: A 2007 4 door Toyota Corolla. The date typically drives newer models of nice cars.
