I agree with Abby, bringing in a SP for a third is a very good and I'd say best way to go for positive results but no guarantees. Hiring one doesn't mess with friendships and/or co workers. However, as a swinger and been in swinger relationships this is very high risk high reward. You can meet a 3rd (m or f or couple) and y'all can spend a whole weekend together just screwing :biggrin1:. Plus y'all know the rules of the game. Bringing in a civie is so much more riskier and in my experience the most uneven results. A quality SP is a professional who knows her role and gives a great service. In the swinger lifestyle experienced couples generally understand the "score". Newbies always have growing pains that older folks just don't want to deal with anymore.
I'm newer to this forum but lurked for a while but experienced on other sites. As for couples posting on any hobby site. Im guessing there isn't enough of a demand. You'll get people popping up with a quick question of who to see, then never hear from them again. No review or update. Maybe it was just a one time thing for them or just pop in to grab some info every now and again. However, there are a lot of folks who grab info from here not just couples and don't contribute back. :noidea:
As for the whole taboo thing, it's just part of how judgemental people are. Get a group of women together and one mention of a taboo thing like anal and all the self righteous judgey ladies will start off. They will be like ill ladies who do that are so nasty. And others who do anal will just pile on or say nothing cause they don't want to be judged or ragged on. That's shitty, my ex was in that spot. She was too afraid to speak up but be damned as one of her friends
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who loves anal jumps in and talks down about women who do it. Also sex in general still taboo to talk about in many cultures even in this day in age. In the US for years, SP's get a bad rap from church leaders and politicians then guess who gets caught with one. Hypocrites!!!
There are 3 way finder apps and was even a person (don't know if they're still around) who specialized in matching this need. Apps are just like dating sites, lots of lookers and the few hot ones get bombarded with messages. They are very up and down. One month there is an ok amount of traction and another its a ghost town. Flakes and creeps of course. Dudes always sending unwanted dick pics. Like read the ad it's just for a 3rd lady but "well if she sees my big cock (stolen from some porn star) she'll fall in love and beg for me". Blah blah blah :frusty:. Also you'd be surprised how many people chicken out the singles and the couples. Especially after all the back and forth, scheduling, even paying for a hotel. No matter how hot the single or couple is, some will just feel the nerves and bail. I feel bad for SPs when clients cancel on them, they go through this also and more so. Hiring a SP, best bet. :first:
