Pooner's Guilt or SP Jealousy???

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WallyJames

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As I am new to the hobby and haven't been participating long enough to be anyone's long term regular, I was just wondering if any of the members with tenure have felt either guilt or jealousy in regards to regulars or being a regular?
By this i mean have any pooners ever felt guilty for seeing multiple Sp's when you have your regular ladies and in the revers, have any of the Sp's ever felt jealousy or get upset when you regulars see other sp's ?
Or is this to much "feelings talk" and Wally should shut up and mind his own GD business :)
 
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Jethro Bodine

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It is a reasonable question.

The simple answer is NO! That is what this hobby is supposed to be all about. NSA fun.
That's not to say you cannot develop friendships with SP's or even care for them as friends. But at the end of the day it should begin when you walk in the door and end when you walk out.
Any expectations on either side beyond that is not what this hobby is supposed to be about.

That's my .02,
Cheers
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Jethro Bodine said:
It is a reasonable question.

The simple answer is NO! That is what this hobby is supposed to be all about. NSA fun.
That's not to say you cannot develop friendships with SP's or even care for them as friends. But at the end of the day it should begin when you walk in the door and end when you walk out.
Any expectations on either side beyond that is not what this hobby is supposed to be about.

That's my .02,
Cheers
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Couldn't have said it better myself.....
Of course there might be an aspect of friendship, or you may care about how their "real " life is going.
There are a few ladies here, that I genuinely care about how their personal lives are....they have difficulties, as we all do.
I'd like to think that caring is shared in return.....I remember one instance, when I stated that " I'm going through a tough time right now, with an anniversary from my past"
One very special young lady, lined up the dates, from a very horrific battle in Afgahnistan ,.....as she already knew I served.
She took the time, and asked.....she offered to be there for me to talk....I will never forget the gesture of friendship, and caring.
I unloaded a little emotionally on her, and it helped, as she just listened, and understood, and she recognized I needed that ,at the time. She listened to all the graphic details, what REALLY happened that was sanitized by the government, and the reporters....and never judged.
We both knew we were walking a fine line , and developing a friendship....and I will admit, I started to get a little possessive for a time over her......which could have escalated into something unhealthy, given both our situations.
Having said that.....we are still very good friends, and I know if I ever needed to pull myself out of that deep dark vortex...I believe I could call on her again,.....as she could do the same in return to me, if she was down, or needed a loyal friend.
I believe we both know where the line is....and we both dance very close to it at times.
 
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johnnydepth

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I think it is human nature to form attachments to some people and not others. Have to be careful in this hobby that an attraction doesn't become an obsession (i.e. Stocking), and that goes both ways for clients and escorts. When I was young I had a few regulars but I quickly realized this is a hobby and variety is a good thing. For most of my pooning career I have been selecting women for one of two reasons; they have an exotic or different look than most women I would be able to date ( think ethnicity, lots of tattoos, cosplay, suicide girls, etc) or two, they will do things most women I date won't.
I can date a hot lady any time I want. It's much harder to find a blue haired suicide girl willing to fuck you with a strapless strap-on. Just saying....
 
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johnnydepth said:
I think it is human nature to form attachments to some people and not others. Have to be careful in this hobby that an attraction doesn't become an obsession (i.e. Stocking), and that goes both ways for clients and escorts. When I was young I had a few regulars but I quickly realized this is a hobby and variety is a good thing. For most of my pooning career I have been selecting women for one of two reasons; they have an exotic or different look than most women I would be able to date ( think ethnicity, lots of tattoos, cosplay, suicide girls, etc) or two, they will do things most women I date won't.
I can date a hot lady any time I want. It's much harder to find a blue haired suicide girl willing to fuck you with a strapless strap-on. Just saying....
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straplessstrap on???? do tell!! :laugh: (blue wig is only $60 and on my shopping list!!)

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It's a fine line, as sybian says. I enjoy a good balancing act
 
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thodisipagal

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WallyJames said:
As I am new to the hobby and haven't been participating long enough to be anyone's long term regular, I was just wondering if any of the members with tenure have felt either guilt or jealousy in regards to regulars or being a regular?
By this i mean have any pooners ever felt guilty for seeing multiple Sp's when you have your regular ladies and in the revers, have any of the Sp's ever felt jealousy or get upset when you regulars see other sp's ?
Or is this to much "feelings talk" and Wally should shut up and mind his own GD business :)
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I haven't felt guilty of seeing other ladies, but I have found myself feeling guilty of not telling the truth when I was asked by regulars if I've been seeing others.

Also, I've been teased by a few regulars if I've been cheating on them when I see them after some gap.
 
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I can date a hot lady any time I want. It's much harder to find a blue haired suicide girl willing to fuck you with a strapless strap-on. Just saying....[/QUOTE]

I think i just found what i want engraved on my tomb stone.
 
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MrBrown

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I don't know what constitutes "regular" given the $$ involved in this hobby but my guess is that most of us find themselves somewhere in between repeating with a provider they feel comfortable with and trying something new for variety sake.
For a provider to develop (or set) and expectation of some form of loyalty there has to be very strong chemistry, higher than average frequency, and possibly a favorable rate as well.
 
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This is a very good question. What frequency constitute a regular. Maybe some ladies can chime in and let us know. Is it weekly, bi-weekly, monthly, bi-monthly or quarterly. For someone to go back to see the same lady a second or third or fourth time, there must be some chemistry between them. (or so one may think) Remember, the ladies who are good at this are professionals. They're dream makers and they have to be able to compartmentalize in order to be in this business. As a result, I don't think there's much jealousy from the ladies of the guys. More like the other way around.

One of the most interesting dynamic of this hobby is the clients are in full control. They're the ones who decide who they want to see and the frequency. I quite often thought what happens when a lady really like a client and wants to see him. Does she initiate the appointment? or is it a no no. I don't know. It's never happened to me so, again, maybe some ladies can shine a light on this.

Sure, some will tell you that this hobby is all in good fun and these are NSA encounters. But we're all human and we have feelings. (Sometimes difficult to control.) When I first started, I fell for one of the first ladies I met. I had to stop seeing her because I found myself wanting to cross the line. I think someone here gave the advice that if you really like someone, you shouldn't see her more than once a month. That's actually very good advice. (too late for me. LOL) I try to have 2-3 ladies I see "regularly" plus a few random ones here and there. I do that in order to keep my sanity. Don't put all your eggs in one basket so to speak. I'm very open and honest to all my regulars as to who I see and when I see them. I believe any relationship (yes, I consider my encounters with my ladies relationships.) has to be built on honesty. Otherwise, you're just wasting time and screwing with other people's feelings... and that's not nice.

Once in a while, you'll hear of a client and an SP becoming a couple. It does happen, I suppose. (People find love under all sorts of circumstances.) The sex trade is complicated as it conjure up feelings that are not found in "normal" relationships. For those who crossed the line and found happiness, I say good on you. You beat the odds. But for most of the time, it's just another fantasy. It doesn't happen.
 
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Jessica Rain

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I give SP references all the time, so for me - I have no problem with my regulars seeing other ladies. I enjoy hearing about the fun they had and it is nice to know that other women are treating my great clients with a good time.

However, I can say that some women do get jealous. Or maybe jealous is not the right word. Maybe territorial is a better word.

Just a couple of months ago, I contacted an SP that was used as a reference. Conversation at first was great. I asked if I can confirm a client with her, she said sure and then when I told her the client, she went to radio silence. When I spoke with the client, he told me that she got mad at him for wanting to see another escort. She refused to give the reference, which just let me know he was a good client so I got my confirmation. However, I was really thrown back because I have not experienced that before.

So I guess in some ways, some women can have some negative feelings about it, but I don't think they should. We are escorts, we don't get to call dibs. LOL
 
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Confident ladies have nothing to worry about.
Some ladies have introduced me to their friends.
That said, if I told a lady I was seeing her and nobody else, I would keep my word.
 
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ludovico123

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I had a regular that I would see on a weekly basis.
We did overnights fairly often for a substantially reduced rate.
I took her out to dinner and other date like stuff too.
She got jealous after reading a review that I had written about another service provider.
She confronted me like she had caught me actually cheating on her.
It caught me off guard because we had never discussed me being exclusive to her and she was regularly posting ads and seeing other clients.
We kind of worked through it, but it was never the same after that.
She left the industry shortly after.
I miss her.
She was my ATF.
 
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ludovico123 said:
I had a regular that I would see on a weekly basis.
We did overnights fairly often for a substantially reduced rate.
I took her out to dinner and other date like stuff too.
She got jealous after reading a review that I had written about another service provider.
She confronted me like she had caught me actually cheating on her.
It caught me off guard because we had never discussed me being exclusive to her and she was regularly posting ads and seeing other clients.
We kind of worked through it, but it was never the same after that.
She left the industry shortly after.
I miss her.
She was my ATF.
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It's easy to say that our experiences are just business transactions with NSA, but mix in a bit of human nature and unexpectedly there can be perils on both sides of the equation.
 
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Miss Hunter said:
But when it comes to SPs fighting over clients, another domme I know described it as "fighting over sand in the desert"
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That.... pretty much sums it up.
 
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steverino

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I take a different view on the issue. I think because it is a business transaction that ladies might be not so much jealous but concerned if they see that a regular is posting reviews or seeing other escorts. It represents a potential loss of business. It is often the case in business that the first sign that someone is going leave being a customer is that they start using competitors for part of their needs of that service. Granted in this and other industries customers often use different providers (don't go to just one restaurant) it is still a potential threat if you see a regular customer give a great review to a competitor.

If they get into a rage over the issue that is a problem, but seeing a potential loss in income is something to be concerned about and I can see why it might cause some level of angst.
 
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