Hello fellow board members - male and female! I am a long time Hobbyist, recent board member and infreqent poster. I enjoy the dynamics (for the most part) of this board and feel like I have gotten to know some of you a little by reading posts, PM'ing a few members and seeing a few of the SP members.
I would like to offer an observation. Lately - there seem to be more and more threads that involve people getting pissed off with other people. While these threads tend to appeal to a certain lower common demoninator in all of us, I must confess to a growing feeling of sadness personally. All of us view the world through a framework of filters - inherited through the growing up process from the family network responsible for our maturity. When I was in my early 30's, I met an SP who became much more than a "paid-companion" who introduced me to a very simple yet profoundly significant fact and that is "NO ONE MAKES ME FEEL BAD THINGS"! I believe this to be a universal truth. When I am feeling angry, sad, depressed etc etc (all the "bad" emotions) it is all too easy to point my finger at someone else for "making me feel this way". The reality is, I have made a choice (conscious or un-conscious) to empower whatever the bad feeling is based on my life experiences to date. It has NOTHING to do with whoever or whatever I find it easy to point a finger at - it is very simply my choice!
I have found in later life that if I live my life completely judgement free, it is a VERY happy life. I am not a saint and have occasionally fallen back to the "he/she made me angry" mind-set but I am continuosly and concientiously trying to "evolve".
So - what's the point some of you may ask??? Simply - if you find yourself thinking that you have been "violated/embarassed/angered" by someone else, I respectfully ask that you take a few minutes, acknowledge the indisputable fact that you alone have chosed to feel the way you do and ask yourself WHY!!!! Is it worth it?
My humble ramblings.
I would like to offer an observation. Lately - there seem to be more and more threads that involve people getting pissed off with other people. While these threads tend to appeal to a certain lower common demoninator in all of us, I must confess to a growing feeling of sadness personally. All of us view the world through a framework of filters - inherited through the growing up process from the family network responsible for our maturity. When I was in my early 30's, I met an SP who became much more than a "paid-companion" who introduced me to a very simple yet profoundly significant fact and that is "NO ONE MAKES ME FEEL BAD THINGS"! I believe this to be a universal truth. When I am feeling angry, sad, depressed etc etc (all the "bad" emotions) it is all too easy to point my finger at someone else for "making me feel this way". The reality is, I have made a choice (conscious or un-conscious) to empower whatever the bad feeling is based on my life experiences to date. It has NOTHING to do with whoever or whatever I find it easy to point a finger at - it is very simply my choice!
I have found in later life that if I live my life completely judgement free, it is a VERY happy life. I am not a saint and have occasionally fallen back to the "he/she made me angry" mind-set but I am continuosly and concientiously trying to "evolve".
So - what's the point some of you may ask??? Simply - if you find yourself thinking that you have been "violated/embarassed/angered" by someone else, I respectfully ask that you take a few minutes, acknowledge the indisputable fact that you alone have chosed to feel the way you do and ask yourself WHY!!!! Is it worth it?
My humble ramblings.
