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Monogamy with an sp

greenlantern

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While we are on the topic about a deeper connection with sps here is another point to ponder. If you had sp for a girlfriend would you f*** anyone else if you are in love with her? I know the answer for those of you who still see sps outside of committed relationships but what about those of you who wouldn't see anyone else if you had a girlfriend?
When I'm in a committed relationship, I don't stray but I don't know how I would feel about that if my girlfriend was an sp.
Ladies, would you expect your boyfriend or husband to stay faithful despite your job?
 

jrmaginty

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First, if you were in a relationship with an sp, I would have to believe that you are open minded enough to realize what she does for a living. In my personal view, as long as she truly liked what she was doing, I would have no problem remaining monogamous. After all, it's for the most part just sex. There is so much more to love or a committed relationship than sex, you have to take all of it into account. You also must remember that you are the one that she will be coming home to.
To me, there really isn't a lot of difference if neither party was an sp and one of you was involved in the swinging lifestyle.
 

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If I was in a relationship with an SP I would not screw around on her just because of her job. First, it must be remembered that this is her job and you KNOW this going into the relationship. If you can't handle that fact then you shouldn't be entering into the relationship. You can not use the fact it is a requirement of her job (although some SPs in relationships do not do fs) or at least somewhat of a requirement, to justify your screwing around. If fs or no fs is an issue, then like any other deal breaker type of decision, it should be discussed prior to entering into a relationship. If you DO want to see others still, then keep seeing her and the others but do not enter into a "relationship" and use her as a "freebie". That's my story and I'm stickin to it, lol.
 
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Cerebellum

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Well I have a really good story. My recent girlfriend was an SP who I met at an agency. She is out of the business now and things are going well. One thing that even kept me in the realationship for the first bit was the fact that we were/are completley and brutally honest with each other.
But to answer your question, did (have) I screwed around on her? No. Have I thought about it? Hey, I'm a guy.

If you want to hear more let me know.
 

spaceghost

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julia said:
I am going places.
A girl with a plan... do tell?

julia said:
I'm not ready to put up with all the emotional blackmail that comes with dating someone who knows what I do.
I LOVE a women confident enough to open up on such matters. What sort of emotional blackmail have you experienced and/or are you refering to?

Thanks Julia, I appreciate your candor.
 

Cerebellum

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Okay, I am going to try and be as specific and unspecific as I can (how's that for twisted). Anyways, I don't want to give my age away but I am told I look 25-26 although I am a few years older than that. I have a serious case of the "grass is always greener"issue, whether it comes to cars or women or whatever. I have had some hard lessons in life but learn from them. I don't want to sound conceited or anything but I have no problems getting girls. Going to a bar and picking up a girl is quite easy for me and I have had a few SP's ask me why would a guy like me visit them? The answer is so I don't have to deal with the emotional crap that comes with "picking up" a girl (and I like variety). I actually started seeing SP's when I was married and discretion was very important (you ain't getting discretion at a bar). So long story short I'm quite freshly divorced and have been in and out of a few short relationships (don't EVER date a co-worker), I start doing some research on visiting an SP just for some (honestly) intimacy (not just sex), but intimacy on my terms (I really go for the GFE's). Anyways after I mull it over for a couple weeks I decide what the heck and book an appointment I go to the agency and meet the SP (for an hour appointment) and ended up staying just over 3 hours (on her time). There was a connection for sure but I didn't think to much of it at the time(afterwards she said she was quite attracted to me from the start). During our long conversation I had mentioned my e-mail address (no biggie, not like it's a phone number) and the next day I received an e-mail with an invite for a date. I figured what the heck, I am single for once ( I had been asked to go for beer with SP's on a few occasions but the marriage sort of nixed that idea). Long story short we went on more dates, hung out more. Now during the early part of our dating she still "worked" and I was able to accept it sort of. Didn't like it but accepted it because I understood her reasons for having to do it. I promised myself I would never ask her or tell her what to do but as we got more serious she quit on her own fruition. Things are quite good now, although she is a little emotionally dependant, but she is honest (which is first and foremost in my mind. It's what attracted me to her), kind, loving and of course very beautiful. As I have stated thing sareally good and I probably couldn't ask for more, but I am getting the urge to sample another forbidden fruit. Does that make me bad?

So there you go. There is no BS here and I hope I don't get judged by anyone.
Questions may or may not be answered :) now pass cooler of Kokanee's over....
 

SPinVic

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buff692

That was asked tongue in cheek:p I know they exist, along with the Easter Bunny and Santa Claus!:eek:
 

SPinVic

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Hmmmmm interesting buff692

You have a big long "ear" and you would give me a "present"?

:D
 

BS Detector

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Julia, You are so right about the emotional blackmail. A guy going out with an SP can not be using that against her in an argument or something. Bottom line is that it comes down to respect. Not all guys you see are jerks. Some of us are genuinely nice guys (possibly looking for love in all the wrong places maybe???). Anyway...if you're looking for a warm body
PICK ME...PICK ME! I'm to old for athletic sex now (swinging from chandeliers etc.) but if you're looking for passionate lovemaking...
 
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