Maybe the ladies can answer this one for me

[letitrock]

This isnt related to me at all, I'm actually a little curious as I'm sure other males on here are as well.. I've heard alot of guys wonder about this and it sort of boggles my mind.

Why is it that women wear revealing clothing, yet they complain when they get checked out by guys?

I dont understand the logic here. Clearly if you dont want guys looking at you, stop showing off your cleavage or wearing dresses that are too tight? DUH!

Thoughts?

 

[letitrock]

Maybe they want to wear something that makes them feel sexy and good about themselves without being groped on the SkyTrain? I honestly don't know.

I wear tight things or revealing things if I'm going out but I know I'm going to be stared at. I don't complain about it. It's annoying when a guy thinks it's his right to grab at or follow you. But staring, well, that's no big deal.

Well personally I would NEVER invade a woman's personal space or physically try to make her feel uncomfortable.

However sometimes if a woman's body is just heavenly, I cant help but look

 

[Harmony-bc]

I love, love, love attention. Stare all you want


read all about Leos, and it was written about me (I am a leo)

Don't touch, but staring I like. It makes me feel like a rock star

 

[letitrock]

Which is appreciated. Personally I've stopped using any form of public transit due to hands on my thigh (when I'm standing) and tit grabs. And I'm not just even talking about slutty clothes, I'm talking about average fitting jeans and a skinny top.

I'm like Harmony, staring is nice. And it often leads to me approaching you just for a nice chat if I have the time.

WHAT?! Staring would lead to a nice chat?
Maybe there's something wrong with my stare, cause I've never been approached for staring lol

 

[Harmony-bc]

Nice looks with a sexy smile works for me.

Staring like a stalker doesn't.

Xoxo
Nina

Nice looks with a sexy smile makes me want to talk to you, (I probably won't though. I'm shy, lol)

Staring like a stalker makes me feel like a rock star I won't talk to you, but I appreciate anything that feeds my ego, hahaha

 

[letitrock]

There's your answer, letitrock.

"It's all about the ego."

haha, so that means the ones that get disgusted are too full of themselves?
Makes sense.. Sounds just like Vancouver to me

 

[mimi]

I have met beautiful women who complain about men staring at their half exposed breasts or the thighs exposed by the slit that flaps open in the breeze....I think they generally the types that believe in their own superiority and love to draw the attention, but, god forbid they should seem to enjoy it..

these are the same types,(think back to high school, we have all met one or two), who swear devoted friendship and in mid-sentence may abruptly walk away when someone more popular appears.

Look but don't touch is my motto...if you think that is easy for a woman, then you have not stood outside the Prius store on Davie while two young hunks in underwear hand out pamplets.

 

[bobby]

WHAT?! Staring would lead to a nice chat?
Maybe there's something wrong with my stare, cause I've never been approached for staring lol

when they catch you looking make sure you smile at her, then they know you like what you see and you're no looking at her thinking about how her head would look in your freezer

 

[bobby]

I have met beautiful women who complain about men staring at their half exposed breasts or the thighs exposed by the slit that flaps open in the breeze....I think they generally the types that believe in their own superiority and love to draw the attention, but, god forbid they should seem to enjoy it..

these are the same types,(think back to high school, we have all met one or two), who swear devoted friendship and in mid-sentence may abruptly walk away when someone more popular appears.

Look but don't touch is my motto...if you think that is easy for a woman, then you have not stood outside the Prius store on Davie while two young hunks in underwear hand out pamplets.

ha, there were 3 of them when i walked by last saturday not two

 

[mimi]

I wonder about this situation too...and there is no Anne Landers to ask. I am used to dealing with my own situations and when in the company of a man, I still instinctively take the lead. Then, upon reflection, I wonder if I should have let him take care of it for me. I do like to feel that my guy is bigger and stronger than me, I am just not used to that being a reality...

 

[Canaan]

I'd be quite happy with a woman taking such matters into her own hand and saying, no thanks she's with me. Always nice to hear.

Of course if she was uncomfortable doing so or things were staying sketchy I'd also happily jump in.

 

[InnocentBoy]

Some chicks are trying to attract their "type" however if the 95% that are not her type stare then they are pigs

 

[letitrock]

There is a difference between appropriate and inappropriate staring. We don't blame you for wanting to undress us with your eyes but most of us (except for Leos like harmony!!) prefer you to try to be discreet about it! And if we catch you, smile and look away, don't just keep staring as if we're a piece of meat.

If i'm dressed up, I know i'm going to get more looks but I can be in my pajamas with no make-up on getting a coffee at the local starbucks and get guys staring at me in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable. It's been that way since I was about 12 years old (when I suddenly got big breasts) and it's not something I get used to. I agree, though, that if a girl is wearing low-cut, short or tight clothing, it's a little ridiculous for her to complain about men staring!!

In regard to being touched by strangers, vancouver is especially bad for this...in fact the only other place in the world it's happened to me is in Italy but there it was my arms or hair. In vancouver i've had men pinch, grab or slap my butt, put their hand on my thigh and even grab my breasts. A lot of this has happened at nightclubs which is why you won't find me at one unless it's a friend's bday. I've also had it happen at the mall, on the bus and at the beach and once while I held my boyfriend's hand!!

I definitely dont blatantly stare, I've been caught looking before and I quickly look away.
I've just heard alot of girls complaining about it, I've read about it on different forums etc

I just dont get it. Its like wanting great gas mileage out of a car but you buy an SUV.
Women (not all) dont want to be checked out, but they show everything off..