marrying a working girl

[Panda88Player]

I attended a friend's friend wedding past weekend and I recognized the bride as a girl who worked at an agency some time ago.

I fondly remember spending a few sessions with her myself and watching her getting married to a friend (of a friend) was somewhat of a weird feeling.

Not that I want to judge anyone for their life choices, but what do you guys and gals think about getting married to a working girl?

 

[badbadboy]

SP's are just like everyone else who love someone enough to marry them. I've met some very nice women who will exit one day and make one man very happy.

Only thing is and I have heard this a few times from SP who were in relationships. In the heat of the moment when arguing, never, ever use the past history against the SP or if the guy was a client for that matter. Once those words are spoken you can't take em back. Deal with the here and now and not someone's past history.

 

[badbadboy]

Hmmmm, this one's a toughie! I don't know about you, but I find it SO HARD to imagine that working girls are people just like everybody else - with parents, friends, lovers, spouses, children, hobbies, interests, and various career and educational backgrounds.

Maybe send us to a special island far, far away from the rest of society when we are no longer working in the sex industry?

Smart, sexy and a dry wit too :nod:

 

[gran_torino]

I would be fine with it. Committment is committment. I wouldnt be ok with an active sp but thats just me. I have a rule dont date someone who has been with less than 10 guys...which outside the sp world is actually hard to find.

 

[Crookedmember]

Hmmmm, this one's a toughie! I don't know about you, but I find it SO HARD to imagine that working girls are people just like everybody else - with parents, friends, lovers, spouses, children, hobbies, interests, and various career and educational backgrounds.

Maybe send us to a special island far, far away from the rest of society when we are no longer working in the sex industry?

I wouldn't have a problem with it. I've chatted with a few of the ladies here, and they seem nice, smart and funny.

So, marriage would work fine for me.

And frankly, I'd be relieved to no longer have to sleep with something that inflates and smells like PVC.

And is forever getting these goddamn hissing leaks.

 

[Drek]

Maybe send us to a special island far, far away from the rest of society when we are no longer working in the sex industry?

An island, you say? Hmm... pray tell where this island of sexy, independent, free-thinking women are. I'd like to visit!
:loco:

 

[clu]

Maybe send us to a special island far, far away from the rest of society when we are no longer working in the sex industry?

...and thus Themyscira was born...

 

[Helena D'Orville]

"Working girl" ? It seems to me that there are a lot of working girls and working women out there, doing various jobs. We are women working. Simple.

And what I find extremely interesting with this kind of question is that it tells a lot about the person who asks it.

If you ask this question, it seems that you have a problem with what a "working girl" does.

If you have a problem with what she does, why do you see her?

It's like hearing during a session "I hope you will find a good husband some day" (not even knowing if I'm married or not) or "I guess that you will stop doing this if you meet someone, right?" (again, assuming that I'm single and need to have a partner)

And to this kind of question, I usually answer: Sure, one day I hope that I will find a good husband and will have a good life just like you and your wife.

Oops. Silence.

We, women in this business, we don't come from another planet. We are human beings. We are all different. We all come in various shapes, colors, tastes, social and cultural backgrounds, education etc... And we learn from this job a lot about men, women, and society. And I'm grateful for doing this job that teaches me a lot about the human kind.

In this business, there are two kinds of people: the client and the provider. Just like in any other business.

Who the f-ck cares if a (former) provider or a (former) client gets married? Who the f-ck cares, if not someone who has a problem with the job we do?

If you have a slight little issue with what we do, don't see us. Period. It's pure logic. And respect.

Thanks.

 

[HornyGandalfREDUX]

I found the use of the term “working girl” rather quaint and a little troublesome. Almost all women work in some form, whether in paid employment, looking after young children, housework or whatever. And to call grown women “girls” is demeaning and paternalistic. If they are really “girls”, should they be working?

I have met some wonderful ladies in this business, that if how they presented themselves to me (as a client) was their authentic self, would make them wonderful partners... and I don’t mean for their sexual prowess. That would simply be the icing on the cake. I have met some wonderful, erudite, intelligent, compassionate, well-educated, independent ladies who considerable insight about the world around us, non-judgemental, and whether a deep understanding of how men tick, that would make them an incredible partner in a committed, loving relationship. I suspect some of them already were.
This doesn’t hold true for everyone I have met, but it is something I remain very open to.

The problem is the social stigma given to those in that line of business. That doesn’t mean they wouldn’t be a wonderful partner.

 

[ElsiDawson]

On the other so many I’ve met seem to have a super highly developed sense of empathy and instinct (and BS monitors). Combine that with an enlightened and real politik view about sex and that they see the world the way it is rather than some fantasy land. That’s a compelling combination.

I suppose one downside is you’d probably never get away with anything. Unless they let you.

The real question is why any of these smart sexy women would waste their time with us Pooners in the first place.

I'm just gonna sit here and sip my coffee and let all of that go straight to my head.

 

[EuroSZabina]

I would be fine with it. Committment is committment. I wouldnt be ok with an active sp but thats just me. I have a rule dont date someone who has been with less than 10 guys...which outside the sp world is actually hard to find.

I'm going to give you an example in here

You and I will meet in a Social gathering we hit it off, I work as a .....designer and another profession which brings in a nice income for retirement. Two years ago before you met me, I worked as an sp for a few years.
We have been dating now for a few years, we are actually living together bc we are so in love.
Then I tell you about my past.
Now what ????

Or I keep quiet bc people do judge. Love or no love they will judge and possible you will break up with me.
So most people will say nothing.

 

[87112]

I have so much baggage anyone will do. Just no druggies or criminals please.

 

[italian233]

I attended a friend's friend wedding past weekend and I recognized the bride as a girl who worked at an agency some time ago.

I fondly remember spending a few sessions with her myself and watching her getting married to a friend (of a friend) was somewhat of a weird feeling.

Not that I want to judge anyone for their life choices, but what do you guys and gals think about getting married to a working girl?

I get that it may have been an awkward feeling attending the wedding by chance. However one should be happy this lady has found someone. I've met some wonderful SP that I'd have no problem seeing them outside the client, SP relationship. Many of these ladies are in this industry for many different reasons and aren't any different than non SP.

 

[Helena D'Orville]

What is interesting here is that is that the issue is more about the money than the activity. What if a woman had a lot, lot of partners before she met you, but it was not her professional activity, just her personal dating life? She doesn't have to disclose this information - it's her life, her body - so at the end of the day, what is the difference? The money. I wrote a blog post about this. If you want to read it, here is the link: https://helenadorville.wordpress.com/2018/03/23/why-the-issue-some-people-have-with-sex-work-is-not-about-sex-but-is-about-money/

 

[take8easy]

I wouldn't mind, as long as she is ok with supporting my pooning addiction.

 

[Sphubby]

I get that it may have been an awkward feeling attending the wedding by chance. However one should be happy this lady has found someone. I've met some wonderful SP that I'd have no problem seeing them outside the client, SP relationship. Many of these ladies are in this industry for many different reasons and aren't any different than non SP.

So true, they are no different that any other lady out there except they know all the tricks to keep their man happy. Reminds me of a line from movie Taken. "But what I do have are a very particular set of skills, skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills the make me a nightmare for people like you" who want to last more than 10 minutes before shooting your load HAHAHA.

We often run into clients when out whether it be at a restaurant, bar, social function. I obviously am informed of her present occupation, it possibly would be different if she was no longer in the profession when we met and she never told me. Not sure how that would go for me, definitely more of a problem when I was younger.

She is friends with both past and present clients and I also know a few of them and have done social functions together. Our relationship is definitely not typical but it works so well for us. No lies, that's the key to every relationship. Hard to do if your SO isn't a SP and you enjoy the hobby.

Be happy for your friends friend, hopefully they have come to terms with her prior occupation but either way its not for us to say anything to anyone, its their private life and we must respect both of their privacy. This is the case for any SP you may see in public unless their is an prior understanding between you if it happens.

 

[Sphubby]

I wouldn't mind, as long as she is ok with supporting my pooning addiction.

Where do you think I get my pooning allowance from? :rockon:

 

[Crookedmember]

"A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she's a tramp." -Joan Rivers

 

[golferjohn]

I'd marry Tia Luxx and she could freely maintain whatever profession she chooses...

It's not the work, it's the woman

 

[take8easy]

"A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she's a tramp." -Joan Rivers

No questions asked? Seriously? I guess you, or Ms Rivers don't have a wife.

I get questioned on slightest things e.g. why is our bank 250 short every two weeks; why do you smell of women's perfume; why is there a blonde hair in your boxers; why do you ask for buzzer number when you pull in to our driveway; why the heck do you ask if I like Greek, why do you insist on calling me Tia Luxx, why do you keep threatening of bad mouthing me on PERB?

Oh trust me, men get questioned!!