Is it cheating when it is a sexless marriage?

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The usual marriage vows include a vow to forsake all others of the opposite sex (clearly then, banging one of the same sex would be ok.)
Legally, it is a justification for divorce if you are caught doing that.
Check out canlii.org for all sorts of sordid divorce stories involving cheating.

Marriages can be annulled if there they aren't consummated. But until that legal line is erased, then technically it is cheating.
Sure you can provide justification, such as no sex and she won't cook, but that probably won't fly.

Six pages of this stuff though.... really? Why can't there be a vote button to close the thread by acclamation?
 
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Every marriage suffers I'm sure. Sex stops being as appealing, to both parties. But so long as there is some effort there then it's something that can be fixed. You really gotta ask though, is sex 50% of why you got married? 25%? If the marriage is still good and happy without it being so frequent, maybe it's not as major a problem as previously thought.

And maybe 45 mins with a masseuse is all you need to reset your batteries and all is good to go again.
 

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I went for probably two yrs in my previous marriage without sex . However I was highly monogamous and had not discovered pooning. In the end I’m glad because it forced me out of a miserable existence .

I see some older perberts on here saying how they are making up for the youth that they never had but I can say that, that is just what they are telling themselves . Because after my divorce I had a rebirth and my whole life became about reverse engineering how to get laid like it was a video game . And I had a pretty descent sex life with a semi regular rotation of women . Now married again years later I realized that living life like that for 10 yrs or so probably brought on so,e sex addiction . About two yrs into my marriage even though my current wife is amazing and loves sex I just found I was white knuckling it . I cracked and tried my first sp. the rest was history .
have you considered talking to your wife about your feelings / going to a meeting?
 
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have you considered talking to your wife about your feelings / going to a meeting?
Yes it is cheating. Yes sex is important. Don't marry someone with different views on sex and love with you, or it will end badly. Be honest with your wants and desires, and if your partner isn't even in the same galaxy, shake hands and walk away. The important part here, as Charlie has pointed out, is being honest and open. Buying a puppy won't save a marriage, money won't save a marriage, having kids DEFINITELY won't save a marriage. Why is this so hard for some people to understand? Treat people like you want to be treated for Christ's sake....where's your parents? Where are hers? Look at your partner's parents sex lives and realize that is more than likely what you are in for. We are %50 nature and %50 nurture after all. My brother married a religious nut who has always thought sex was dirty and taboo, afraid and mistrusting of all men. Knowing her family, I suspect heavy molestation as a younger child Their marriage ended recently and the poor guy is heart broken. They have 3 children, and all of them are strange when it comes to talking about the opposite sex. I know my brother and it sure as hell isnt' coming from him. Anyway, as important as a healthy sex life is, and that's different for everyone, you still need to think with the right head fellas....sheesh.
 
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married guys still make the best clients though cuz y'all aren't gonna try and date us LOL

Are you saying NO sp's have any romantic interest in ANY of their clients? I know, I know, you're just joking, mostly lol, but really I think about this. IF an sp was interested in a "client", what are the chances she would be the one to initiate. I would think it's highly improbable. You miss %100 of the chances you don't take!!
 

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Wierdos lol!!! (more weird than me I mean)
"Duping delight" is a trademark trait of psychopathy. So it can potentially be much more concerning than just dealing with a weirdo.

Speaking from personal experience, if you're ever in an open relationship and your partner still lies just for the hell of it, don't just walk away, RUN...as fast as you possibly can!
 

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Are you saying NO sp's have any romantic interest in ANY of their clients? I know, I know, you're just joking, mostly lol, but really I think about this. IF an sp was interested in a "client", what are the chances she would be the one to initiate. I would think it's highly improbable. You miss %100 of the chances you don't take!!
I'm definitely into clients. I have told clients I am into them. They are still my clients. It's great. I think it's worth MORE to clients if I'm into them as well as them being into me--so why should they stop paying me? What do you think, we're gonna move in together and live happily ever after? Some dude is gonna leave his wife for me and I'm going to end up as a gold digger? Good grief hahaha. I'm good thanks
 
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I'm definitely into clients. I have told clients I am into them. They are still my clients. It's great. I think it's worth MORE to clients if I'm into them as well as them being into me--so why should they stop paying me? What do you think, we're gonna move in together and live happily ever after? Some dude is gonna leave his wife for me and I'm going to end up as a gold digger? Good grief hahaha. I'm good thanks

Are you sure you're not more into yourself? Let's go DEEP!!! Why so cynical??
 

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I went for probably two yrs in my previous marriage without sex . However I was highly monogamous and had not discovered pooning. In the end I’m glad because it forced me out of a miserable existence .

I see some older perberts on here saying how they are making up for the youth that they never had but I can say that, that is just what they are telling themselves . Because after my divorce I had a rebirth and my whole life became about reverse engineering how to get laid like it was a video game . And I had a pretty descent sex life with a semi regular rotation of women . Now married again years later I realized that living life like that for 10 yrs or so probably brought on so,e sex addiction . About two yrs into my marriage even though my current wife is amazing and loves sex I just found I was white knuckling it . I cracked and tried my first sp. the rest was history .
I don’t think I will ever marry again when I get a divorce. It will ultimately come to that i am sure. Having a steady rotation of girls or SPs will work best for me.
 

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I feel like a lot of you guys are polyamourous or solo poly (like me). Solo poly is when you live alone/your most important relationship is with yourself, but you have multiple external lovers/relationships. I absolutely love it, it gives me time to focus on making myself the best person, while also affording me comfort and closeness with my partners and lovers (some of whom are clients!) <3
 
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Might be worthwhile to have a talk with your wife? Due to medical reasons, we had very little sex for a few years. Had a discussion with her and she agreed that it wasn't fair to me to be deprived of sex (I described it as being in a sexually exclusive relationship without sex :p). She knew that I was not looking for another spouse, and gave me her blessings to see SPs. To be fair, she is relatively open-minded and joined me for sensual couples massages and BDSM sessions before the medical issue arose.
 
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