I just went to the lamest party ever

[chiefwiggum]

It was a "singles" party put on by a dating group, held at a local tavern. Thought I'd try it just for fun, and to try something new.

At least 2-to-1 ratio men to women, only a handful of them attractive in any way, shape, or form. And these chicks were clearly attention freaks in the extreme - gleefully spent the evening jumping from guy to guy (those stupid enough to continually buy drinks/hit on them all night).

I bailed at midnight. I did meet some nice people, both male and female, and had a great time chatting it up with them. That alone made the night worthwhile.

It was also interesting and fun to see the wide variety of people/personalities/professions/personal stories that showed up at the party.

But what a waste if you were there trying to find a date....first and last time I'll ever make that mistake again.

Anyone else ever endure one of these pathetic pick-up gigs?

 

[chiefwiggum]

was it speed dating ?

Nope

Just a "let's all meet at ___", we'll reserve a section, etc.

Lame, just lame. I'm a pretty social guy, but it was just BAD.

Think I'll stick to pooning for the time being

 

[wolverine]

I've known some people who have attended local lavalife parties, and the consensus is that they are LAME, and that one could cut the desperation in the air with a knife.

 

[rickoshadows]

Nothing repels like desparation. I found, back in my younger days, that when I went out looking to meet someone, I usually ended up drunk and alone. However, when I was out with some buds just for the purpose of having a good time and enjoying each other's company, women would magically appear and want to be part of whatever we were up to. I never did figure out how to pull that off on purpose.

rickoshadows

 

[georgebushmoron]

Why bother attending such parties where there is no connection to be made because no cogent theme exists. For successful socials to meet people, there has to be a reason for the party - such as a common interest or a celebration of accomplishment, etc. If you want to meet other singles, take a course that you are interested in, or attend meetings that field your interest. If you're not an interesting person (ie: you have no interests), then you're not ever going to have much luck.

 

[Bruddha]

Think I'll stick to pooning for the time being

It is sad, but chiefwiggams experience in the singles world resonates with my own as of late. I do not attend these types of parties, but still find that many of the women I meet are playing games and are serious attention grabbers. It's like they are addicted to it, and feel empowered by their own sense of popularity. Perhaps it is a part of human nature, but it turns me off.

 

[yogi]

The singles parties I've been to were put on by a weekly paper that runs personal ads. Pretty lame too even with a 1-1 ratio. Most of the women faked indifference to not appear desparate ("My friend dragged me here, I'm not looking, didn't even know about the event, what's this event about anyway?") and the rest were having contests for who could con the most guys to buy them a drink.

I've had much better luck just living my life, enjoying my interests, & having them just appear. Japanese penpal websites have also delivered me some real treasures.

 

[LonelyGhost]

showing up at a 'singles' mixer already says 'LOSER' to 99% of the women out there ...

take a cooking class ... best place to meet women!

and here's something to remember: any female friend is worth her weight in gold when it comes to meeting other women ... she can strike up conversations, make introductions, and give the secret handshake that tells other women that you're worth jumping ...

and the better looking she is, the better looking the women you will meet as well!

the other good thing is that unless your female friend is a total head case, she will also steer you clear of other head-cases ...

 

[Maury Beniowski]

and here's something to remember: any female friend is worth her weight in gold when it comes to meeting other women ... she can strike up conversations, make introductions, and give the secret handshake that tells other women that you're worth jumping ...

I've always been a believer of this dictum, and have enjoyed great success adhering to it. Always go for two when seeking one.