How big is too big?

[Dickson]

Ok I just got turned down by another SP in Berlin. It happened to me a few times this past year in Vancouver. Thier issue is my size. I remember Eric refused to take it but she is pretty tiny. I have been doing this for years and I have had a few who commented on my size but all the SP do that right. They tell us guys it is the biggest they have ever seen just to make us feel good. Over the years I have had those that have to stop because they cannot take it any more. But that is not size related.

As I get older I do not think it is getting any bigger if anything it is getting smaller. Yet being turned down so much over the past year makes me wonder what is going on. Are SPs just decided that they have a restriction now. Billionaress just made the same comment recently.

I am curious if this is happening with more guys out there? Some one asked for specifics recently in one of the blogs. So I just measured and it is coming in at 8 inches long, but that I do not think is the problem, I think it is the girth which is 7 inches around. Is this unusual? I am nowhere near those guys in the porn movies. So I don't see it as a problem.

Like I say over the years did not appear to be a big problem but now it is showing up. Please tell me what is taking place out there or is it my sensitivity at being older.

 

[Dgodus]

Some seem to dig it some say you better play nice with that thing. Maybe I watch too much porn and think big is a literal babies arm holding an apple. No gf's ever complain. But when they're done with me they don't have to have any more sex the rest of the day. I dunno I generally walk around saying if you got some apple stuck in your teeth I'm your guy - figure everyones lying anyways. Still don't think I'll mention it beforehand hate sounding like a braggart.

 

[Alix Turner]

I find the best way to judge is..

... does it fit?



if it does not fit..

apply more or better lube, take an aspirin, and reattempt.​

All vaginae (I had no idea the plural of vagina was vaginae until spell check just corrected me there) are capable of adapting to accommodate childbirth so, I guess in theory anything bigger than that could be considered "too big" without further consideration... after that is has to do with arousal and willingness. I used to be rather terrified of having my vagina ruined if it were stretched at all, imagining that it was like an elastic band that would lose elasticity over time but honestly, muscle trumps elasticity and I've gotten over culturally imposed insecurities that kept me from exploring what I would or could enjoy.

"too big" can't be defined by a number of inches, it is defined by the individual and their sexuality


my 2cents

 

[Dickson]

Thanks Melina,

I appreciate your comments. I think I need to inform the SP before hand now. I think guys think that girls like big dicks (in my companies I am know as the big dick for other reasons) but well it is becoming clearer to me this is not the case. I grew up with it and I never knew. I thought I was average.

Funny but one of the past SP just messaged me how it was a problem for her but she did not want to spoil the moment so she did not say anytrhing. She grinned and took it like a trooper. Here I thought she did not like me but well it was just my size. My perspective of her has changed big time I might owe her a dinner for being so considerate. I feel bad as I did not give her a good review.

What shocks me is I have gone through over 30 years of pooning and although I thought I might be larger I had no idea it was a problem. I feel like I need to start emailing all my SPs to apologize. But thanks for telling me now.

Are there others out there who face the same problem and do not know like me?

 

[Dickson]

Some seem to dig it some say you better play nice with that thing. Maybe I watch too much porn and think big is a literal babies arm holding an apple. No gf's ever complain. But when they're done with me they don't have to have any more sex the rest of the day. I dunno I generally walk around saying if you got some apple stuck in your teeth I'm your guy - figure everyones lying anyways. Still don't think I'll mention it beforehand hate sounding like a braggart.

Thanks Dgodus it is nice to know I am not alone. Do you tell the SP before hand that you are larger than normal? Do they turn you down? Have some refused to see you.

I wonder now that the cat is out of the bag if SP will put me on the black list?

Yea maybe we can get a handy cap spot? Is that in bad taste. Sorry. I thought it was funny.

 

[Alix Turner]

hahaha

proudest apology of all time

"dear soandso

I wanted to send my sincere apology for any discomfort I may have cause you with my extremely large penis during the occasions where we engaged in intercourse. I do hope you will understand, I had no intention to cause injury and simply had no idea that statistically speaking my penis was likely one of the largest if not the largest you had ever experienced. I hope you are completely recovered from our time together, and hope to make it up to you in the future should you be willing to forgive me.. for my XL member

All the best
Dickson"


seriously though, check out The large penis support group it is real, a message board for well endowed fellows that probably have a lot of experience and stories to share about all sorts of large penis related matters

 

[Alix Turner]

The reason why woman can accommodate during childbirth is because the body releases a natural hormone which dislocates their hips so the baby can come down the birth canal and you can have a baby. Also after childbirth MOST woman have to get stitches after the baby comes out from tearing,

The only thing that having a baby and taking a big dick have in common is that they both use the same hole lol

Kisses Melina*

I guess what I wanted you to understand was that I assume we can all assume a man isnt carrying something with the dimensions of a baby in his pants, and after we have that acknowledged it becomes a matter of what a woman is aroused by and willing to attempt

 

[Dgodus]

Thanks Dgodus it is nice to know I am not alone. Do you tell the SP before hand that you are larger than normal? Do they turn you down? Have some refused to see you.

I wonder now that the cat is out of the bag if SP will put me on the black list?

Yea maybe we can get a handy cap spot? Is that in bad taste. Sorry. I thought it was funny.

I think if you gave that as a reason they'd actually make you park at the back of the lot out of jealousy and bitterness.

I don't forwarn, I'm still new and didn't think it was an issue (been told straight up 'no greek' but it's not my thing so I don't care). I doubt I will talk about t beforehand.

Basically I don't like deepthroat ( you can't move molars out of the way those always hit) and getting that "who do you think you are look" from old ladies when buying condoms when I was young were only drawbacks.

 

[Kali.Kaos]

I believe there is such a thing as too big. I don't know how all of you ladies are built, but I am very tight generally, so much so at times that I've had comments about it hurting the gentleman.

I am not opposed to a large cock but if I'm using lots of lube and i still end up torn and bleeding.. It's too big! I'm not saying a guy should be turned away due to size, but if you can't do fs, at least make the attempt or find another way to satisfy him.

It doesn't matter what people believe is the norm for women to be actually able to accommodate, we are all built differently and some of us don't stretch as far as others.. Regardless of how turned on we are.

 

[Dickson]

I think if you gave that as a reason they'd actually make you park at the back of the lot out of jealousy and bitterness.

I don't forwarn, I'm still new and didn't think it was an issue (been told straight up 'no greek' but it's not my thing so I don't care). I doubt I will talk about t beforehand.

Basically I don't like deepthroat ( you can't move molars out of the way those always hit) and getting that "who do you think you are look" from old ladies when buying condoms when I was young were only drawbacks.

Dgodus, you make me laugh. That is the point, guys think it is a good thing but as I am learning now, women are not only not turned on they are turned off. Talk about a misunderstanding. It sure make me appreciate Sandi Laine and Very Veronica who handled it with no problem matter of fact they had no problem with greek either. or so I thought. They are amazing Providers.

I alway fit the regular condoms they are tight but I only recently moved to the large ones.

 

[Dickson]

Alize you are too kind. I guess I owe you an apology as well. Sorry about that. My apology for my review I really had no idea. I thought you were just saying I was larger than normal and that you say that to all your clients.

Looks like I need to find a new way to play. I will make a point of telling new SP about the situation before hand. You are a real professional to let it play out the way it did. I hope you were not in a lot of discomfort.

You and Odette are wonderful thank you both for being so kind with me. I really had no idea. Maybe that is a reason I can not keep a girl friend for more than 6 months.

 

[Dickson]

Are ther service providers who enjoy men who are larger? Not good for my ego learning of all the SPs who do not like guys with large packages.

 

[DavidMR]

Perhaps SP ads on ERS and here could suggest a size limitation if they have one.

 

[Pillowtalk]

Are ther service providers who enjoy men who are larger? Not good for my ego learning of all the SPs who do not like guys with large packages.

From your comments, and others, I would have to say you may need to see mature sps over under 25s. VV, Sandi Laine you have seen and accomodated with gusto, cuteangie says no problem, and so on. If you are not fitting into regular or even Magnums, you have to know you are above average size lol. Advance warning to sps that Magnum XLs would be needed might be a good warning, but also, let's face it you have to be flexible enough (pun intended) to not require finish in FS, and to allow the ending to be hj or bj, if that is what is needed. Tabitha and possibly Jessikaxxx seem to be sps who can provide for your size.

 

[Dickson]

Thanks Pillowtalk. Funny but I love mature SPs. Being older the mature ones work for me. Sandi is amazing and so is Very Veronica. I think I will reconnect with Your Jordan. not sure about Tabitha or Jessikaxxx. I really think the Magnum XL are way to big for me. I do fit the regular condoms but they are very tight. Magnums do work better.

 

[myselftheother]

This is great! I've had the same problem with having a large cock that's not super long, about 7.5" but the same diameter as length which made more than a few cross-eyed and cross legged exgirlfriends and an ex-wife, which is another reason I prefer R&T's rather than fs sessions. I have met women who are intrigued by my girth, as a novelty or a challenge, and a few who also just said it's too big...to my chagrin.

I've found with lots of foreplay, oral on her, and getting things really slippery makes it all work out just fine....even with petite women, though I have to be very gentle. Condoms were horribly restrictive until the larger ones were more available, which also made being in the line-up at the cashier interesting holding a box of x-large Magnums...and a few raised eyebrows.

 

[jesuschrist]

Somehow I doubt size is really the issue for most women. Like someone else said, it's all about their willingness and lube, and going slow. But once she's excited enough, you can ramp it up.

I don't have a thickness problem like Dickson, though mine is above average thickness. The issue I've had is mine is extremely rigid. I've had complaints that it's the rigidity that hurts. I too have to go slow to start.

I really think that whatever the physical attribute of the guy, too long, too thick, too rigid, whatever, the number one factor in the decrease of pain / increase of enjoyment for the woman is what's going on in her head in terms of excitement and willingness, and lube. I think even with lube, a girl can feel pain if she doesn't have the willingness.

 

[Dickson]

This is great! I've had the same problem with having a large cock that's not super long, about 7.5" but the same diameter as length which made more than a few cross-eyed and cross legged exgirlfriends and an ex-wife, which is another reason I prefer R&T's rather than fs sessions. I have met women who are intrigued by my girth, as a novelty or a challenge, and a few who also just said it's too big...to my chagrin.

I've found with lots of foreplay, oral on her, and getting things really slippery makes it all work out just fine....even with petite women, though I have to be very gentle. Condoms were horribly restrictive until the larger ones were more available, which also made being in the line-up at the cashier interesting holding a box of x-large Magnums...and a few raised eyebrows.

myselftheother do you tell the SP before meeting her of the size issue? Have you been turned away?

 

[Dickson]

Somehow I doubt size is really the issue for most women. Like someone else said, it's all about their willingness and lube, and going slow. But once she's excited enough, you can ramp it up.

I don't have a thickness problem like Dickson, though mine is above average thickness. The issue I've had is mine is extremely rigid. I've had complaints that it's the rigidity that hurts. I too have to go slow to start.

I really think that whatever the physical attribute of the guy, too long, too thick, too rigid, whatever, the number one factor in the decrease of pain / increase of enjoyment for the woman is what's going on in her head in terms of excitement and willingness, and lube. I think even with lube, a girl can feel pain if she doesn't have the willingness.

Looks like I need to carry the lub with me. What brand jesuschrist do you find works the best? I am not that good looking to get her that excited. Now that I am older this maybe the reason I am getting more rejections than I did when I was younger. Thanks jesuschrist you might have solved my mystery. It is the willinness that is the issue. I just need to find ladies that are willing. That god for Perb.

 

[jesuschrist]

Looks like I need to carry the lub with me. What brand jesuschrist do you find works the best? I am not that good looking to get her that excited. Now that I am older this maybe the reason I am getting more rejections than I did when I was younger. Thanks jesuschrist you might have solved my mystery. It is the willinness that is the issue. I just need to find ladies that are willing. That god for Perb.

Yes thank God for Perb, hallelujah! And I am here on Perb to absolve you of your sins. LOL.

The best lubes are JO, usually found in sex shops. This is used by gay guys but of course anyone can use them. They have some for hetero couples too, but there is absolutely no difference except for packaging. It's one of the more expensive lubes there is. The key ingredient is that it is a silicone lube. Non-silicone lubes just do not slide as well and get sticky. Silicone lubes never get sticky and always slide perfectly. There are other brands of silicone lubes too that are less expensive and nearly as good, but the best formulation I have found is JO.