Girls are fucked

[wet_suit_one]

One certainly senses a measure of misogyny in the words used here doesn't one?

And yet, I'm not entirely unsympathetic to the male voices on here. I've had that girlfriend. I wasn't doing a danged thing (heck I didn't even post on PERB or see SP's at that time). A woman like that is a pain in the butt.

I think the world would be a better place (well maybe not), if people just accepted the fact that monogamy is not in our nature. Then again, flying pigs might be an improvement too....

 

[kimargan]

I'm gonna hit the dolja, yall are too much, and now my feelings hurt, I'm a gonna go smoke till I no longer understand human emotions.

On a side note I just found out one of my best friends from high-school wasn't allowed to talk to me for the last 2 years cause his girlfriend didn't like me, he finaly got fed up with her calling him over and over again demanding to know where he was, and controlling who he could talk to, where he could go. I was like My girl made the first push at trying that, and I walked, I remeber the last time we hung out, we were playing tackle football at our old high-school with a bunch of buddies from our old rugby team, she was told this on the tuesday before the saturday we played, aswell as when he left to come to the feild. Within' the first 15 minutes of our game she called him 37 times, and dropped 2 text messages, and she knew where he was, and what he was doing as well as all 15 other players in the game she was the manager of said rugby team, and if you're anyone with 1/2 a brain you wouldn't expect your boyfriend to pick up his phone in the middle of a tackle football game with no pads. He called me on the 23rd and was like you wanna go ruin some sushi resturant and fill me in on the last 2 years of your life, I just dumped my girl so I'm allowed to talk to you agian, whats funny is I just found out why she doesn't like me, and it's because apperently while drinking with a friend of ours, I commented that she calls to much, I said something along the lines of more than twice in a minute is excessive if he couldn't pick up the phone at 12:01 and 13 seconds, what makes you think he'll be free at 12:01 and 21 seconds. I don't even know how to divide 37 into 15 save for the fact that it's more than 2 calls a minute.

Well played nightshift, well played,

Wet suit one, I can understand where you're coming from we tryed to get back together but I did last year e-free, no internet sites like facebook, myspace, msn messanger, icq, no cell phone, the only way to reach me last year was if you called my home phone and I was home. So far since late october, when I came back online, I feel cell-phones are a complete invasion of privacy and often ruin what could be a good time spent with friends, first day she called me once normal and all a little chit chat, second day 15 times, third and final day 61 times. And it's because I like those alexander keiths comericials stick to my credo of if I'm gonna talk to somebody at the pub, they should accualy be at the pub. If I'm tryin' to spend time with someone I'm not gonna be rude and pick up the phone and have a 20 minute chat with my girlfriend, even if it's just 4 buddies in a garage smokin' weed, I feel it's extremly rude to basicly ignore someone who you're supposed to be enjoying the company of, and anwser your cell phone.

and ouch anna that realy hurt, right down to the heart.

 

[HubbaHubba]

You make a lot of good points kimargan. We do spend way too much time with people on the other end of cell phones (texting, messeging etc) and not enough time focusing on those we are with. Reading what you said made me think about some of my own habbits. Happy New Year!

 

[kimargan]

Take yourself a picture while I'm standin' at the mall, and I swear it's goin' down I'm just reppin' for my town, all fucked up off ceasers--goose, and man I'm fadded off the brown, and I'm easily influenced by the ni**a's I'm around.

I ain't never graduated, I ain't got no fancy gown, but the girls in my class that were smart enough to pass, be pickin' up my money when I throw it on the ground.

People need to understand that we as men at least are wired to spread our seed, it's not that we don't want to be monogamus it's just well we aren't made to do that, it goes against our nature as "god"(and I use that term loosly because I don't belive in him) inteded us to be.

 

[Bartdude]

Adrianna has a good point... She's probably seen red flags in other areas of your relationship that make her doubt your fidelity.

I would guess she is an insecure young woman who likes you more than she should at this point in your relationship. She has reasons to not trust you, or men in general, or she is afraid that she doesnt have what it takes to keep you interested.

Have some compassion and try to understand her.. She's suffering.

Xoxo
Nina

With all due respect, I think you're being way too sympathetic with the girl. She was way out of line.

If a guy acted like that, most people would be crying "psycho" and urging the girl to get out before he beats her, etc.

 

[Bartdude]

The thing is, she's a woman, not a man.
Yes, she's behaving like a psycho. Instead of him turning his back on her, seeking to understand might help. I'm not suggesting that he continue seeing her.. quite on the contrary.. I think she is out of touch with reality and he should stay away from her.. but in extricating himself from the situation, he could use a bit of compassion in his approach, and try to understand what women are about and why they can get crazy like this. It doesn't help anyone for him to freak out too.

In the future he can try to understand that the women he's having sex with WILL have expectations of fidelity.... and when he is doing things that create red flags, he should expect problems.
I would suggest he should be extremely clear about how casual he expects the relationship to be, and be honest in his relationships.

xoxo
Nina

Then the question becomes - what possibly justified her suspicion of infidelity? Nothing, as far as I can see.

 

[kimargan]

well done bartdude, the last commentary between you and nina was what I needed to hear, I was a little bit on the cold side on this one. But my reasoning is, before I went e-free for a year I had a girlfriend that would call all the time, literaly if she hadn't talked to me in the hour she'd call to talk. And being 18 and a chump I literaly fell for everything, never cheated told her where I was at all times, this was particularly bad because I worked from 6pm to 2am, and she would call me, at 8am-9am-10am and so forth forward, realy problematic when 8am is your bed time. After a year of the crazy psyco-pathic possesiveness I snaped, I deleted my myspace, and facebook, tossed my phone in the river, and went e-free for a year, she stalked me because I was ignoring her, then she showed up with 2 "large" friends to jump me, funny thing was she took an offesive linemen and a linebacker from my football team, they didn't do anything. I still have restraining orders on that fuckin' psyco, on top of that my buddies girlfriend was like that from the 10th grade till when he dumped her before christmas, I dunno I freak out when I start to head down that road, I just needed to hear a woman say she steped across the line, all girls will toe the line take little jabs to test you but I felt this one went to far.

 

[guystone]

get a vasectomy and have at them all... Wear a condom too!