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Poseidon

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This topic is to expand on 2cums thread. How do you sps become or stay emotionally detached from your clients after having intimate sessions with them. Conversely how do you pooners stay emotionally detached after an intimate session with an sp. Now, I know it’s easy for the sessions that don’t go so well. But for the sessions where you clicked right away and the experience was very intimate and believable, how do you emotionally detach yourselves from such a wonderful experience?
 
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oberon1999

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Poseidon said:
conversely how do you pooners stay emotionally detached after an intimate session with an sp.
My answer should not be any surprise now ... I don't ... hey live by the sword, die by the sword....

Now having said that, I'm not out stalking every escort I've ever seen, so relax ladies.... Somewhere between falling totally in love with every woman you have sex with, be they professional or not and denying all emotional attachment there is a happy balance. I am sure that balance point varies person to person.... me well its edged over towards the more I have sex with someone the more I care about them... it's me can't change it not sure I want too :)

oberon
 

Poseidon

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Victoria Lee wrote:

when I leave I'll be honest I hope I give them something to think about during there next meeting with "Palmala Handerson".... if I have done that...then I have done a good job!
"Palmala Handerson"- is this a creative name for masturbation?

And you definitely do do a good job at being at GFE. But VL there must be a client who you were atttracted to and were hooked on so how do you de-tach yourself from this client?
 
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spaceghost

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Victoria-Lee said:
I realize what my "job" is and I don't cross the line. I think if it ever came to that, i would not see the client and explain why.
In short Poseidon... don't fall in love with your sp's. Tis a recipe for disaster.... or at least for a lot of pain.

Remember... the sp is competely aware that she is being hired to provide a service. When it 'clicks', what is happening is exactly as Victoria-Lee says, the sp is giving "someone what they need...be it sex or intimacy". While you might think otherwise... she is not clouded in the same way. There is no need for emotional detachment afterwards, because it wasn't there to begin with. The really good sp's are masters at creating that 'illusion' of intimacy if they sense that is what you are looking for.

Never delude yourself otherwise.
 

Poseidon

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Thanks spaceghost,

But I realized that a long time ago. Your words of wisdom will be noted. Is this why you are not in the hobby. I suspect this, as I don't see 1 review of an sp from you. You are either a retired pooner, a spectator or an inactive pooner. Sorry to expose you to the public, but I'm curious?
 

spaceghost

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No worries...

Poseidon said:
Sorry to expose you to the public, but I'm curious?
No worries... I expose myself in public all the time!

Bwhahahaha (sorry Hipster)

Saffire said:
Happy belated B-Day Visaman! :)

Saffire

(Spaceghost, you didn't get offered any 'specials' because you are 97. Nobody wanted to give you a heart attack) :p
You see Poseidon? The sp's are all afraid of me. Except Victoria-Lee, of course... she wants me to go for coffee with her so she can take advantage of the senior's rate.

I'd have offered to take Gina-Lee for coffee while she was in Vancouver... but she was too busy issuing warnings.
 

oberon1999

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Re: it does help that i'm butt ugly

franklyhuge said:
but then, the occasional 'beauty and the beast' kind of intimacy still happens ...
LMAO,, ok I'm repeating myself a lot today but hey -- I asked for the body of a Greek god, I got the body of a god damn Greek :))

Just when I was worried about getting to serious, thanks FH.

oberon
 

Poseidon

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Hey FH

Thanks for being frank

franklyhuge wrote:
for example, i saw an sp recently who was so over the top on compliments (should have been suspicious that she was paying me compliments anyway) that I finally had to ask her: are you asking me out for a date? I got an emphatic NO FUCKING WAY!!!!!!!!!
Ouch, that must have hurt the ego. But I agree, that's a very good way to find out how an sp feels about you.
 

SPinVic

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Poseidon said:
. And SpinVic and other sps, I don’t know how you ladies do it? How do you become emotionally detached from your clients after each intimate session? It must be a hard thing to do. It must be like taking drugs, kind of a High and Low. Maybe this topic should be in another thread. [/B]
The thing is I don't detach at all. Either at the time or later. My view in life is to enjoy what is happening at the moment and look forward to life's surprises. Relationships come in many forms. Some last a lifetime and some last a very sort time. I value all of them for what they are.
 

Poseidon

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That's a good outlook SPinVic, many pooners probably appreciates what you just shared.

And thanks for sharing your feelings
 

Poseidon

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Wow Adventure,

Your relationship must be really open in allowing her to be an SP at the same time that she is your GF. I can only imagine the many emotional roller coaster rides that you go through when she sees a client. Jealousy, concern for her safety with a client etc...etc..

I hope everything works out for both of you in the end.
 

spaceghost

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Now... Imagine the reverse!

Poseidon said:
Your relationship must be really open in allowing her to be an SP at the same time that she is your GF. I can only imagine the many emotional roller coaster rides that you go through
Imagine the reverse... your GF has a secret life that involves escorting and what happens when it is revealled to you.

It's all about trust. They only way a relationship like Adventure's survives is by being really open with each other.

SG
Casting Shadows
 

Licker

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In nearly all instances, SPs see a lot more clients than the number of SPs any client sees. It is thus more likely that the client will become emotionally attached, sometimes overly so. But I know from a few experiences that sometimes the mutual connection is real, highly charged, long term, and fulfilling. But it can, and usually should, remain confined to a business relationship, and there will be great disappointment when it ends. There is often much love in such relationships, but they can go disastrously wrong when one partner falls "in love". It is nice to know that some of these fine ladies who spread their love around so generously eventually fall in love with men who appreciate them. I hope that happens to my ATF someday, even though it will probably end our relationship.
 
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spaceghost

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Visaman said:
I just saw "Pretty Woman... Richard gere's not that hot now, so was Julia Robert's in it just for the money?
Fortunately for Richard Gere... Julia Roberts simply read the lines from the script and didn't ad-lib...

So... Ya... I think she was in it just for the money.

?????
 

Saffire

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I don't know if this will help or not, but try this perspective.....

For eight years, I worked in every department of a complex that contained a hotel, a restaurant and a bar. Over those eight years, I got to know so many people and would truly enjoy seeing them in my section at the restaurant or on the reservation list at the hotel. And there were even a few that I would get a little more than tipsy with at the bar after work. These regulars would get those little extras that regulars get and that's why they kept coming back to see me. It' called good customer service. Did I fake it? No. But I didn't make it personal either.

I have not seen or spoken to one of those people since I moved, yet when I think of them, I smile and say a silent "thanks" for making my job something I wanted to do instead of something I had to do.

Saffire
 

Saffire

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Visaman said:
I fully understand your point Saffire, but there is a difference in doing a little back slapping in a bar, than doing a little backsiding in bed :)
I don't want to come off as cold, because I most definitely am not, but why is it different?
 

SPinVic

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I totally agree Visaman....I find a connection each and every time I am with someone. The connection will of course be different each time, some deeper than others, but a connection all the same. I personally can not detach myself as this would go against my nature and what a boring job it would become....and I love my job.
 

bigdman

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Poseidon said:
Wow Adventure,

Your relationship must be really open in allowing her to be an SP at the same time that she is your GF. I can only imagine the many emotional roller coaster rides that you go through when she sees a client. Jealousy, concern for her safety with a client etc...etc..

I hope everything works out for both of you in the end.

I agree with you, Poseidon.

I would try not to fall with the SP no matter how much I like her and respect her beauty.....

People might consider I am very narrow minded or selfish, but I just can't let my girl friend seeing different clients all the time...
Maybe I am being conservative or old-fashion thinking...; however, I know, there are many guys or girls who are quite open-minded about this matter and some of them don't even mind. :eek:
 

Poseidon

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Thanks Adventurer for spilling your guts out to the perberts. It takes a lot of guts to do that and I think we appreciate you sharing your life experiences and your honesty. Quick question, do you poon the same time this sp is your GF or have you stopped pooning. And if you do still poon how does she feel about that?