After a few years of lurking here I'm starting to think I'm too shy

[sephiroth]

re: to the guy who masterbated a lot

I sometimes have a hard time getting an errection. If the sp can give you a good handjob to start things off it helps. I have found that if I'm semi hard though I can still do missionary. I think I get excited by the prospect of watching myself in the action. I have been able to doggie style a couple of times. I have to be super hard for cowgirl though. I find I stay harder if I'm the one doing the actions, it helps the blood flow.

 

[Rotcod]

I actually waited almost a year before I got the courage to do it. For what its worth, I actually lost my virginity to a sp. It was some massage parlor in the Fraser Valley and the experience was rather uneventful. It would take two more experiences (both relatively bad and unsafe), before I actually had a good experience.

For a while, I actually felt guilty and ashamed that I had paid for sex to pop my cherry. Until I got a real girlfriend that is. Thanks to the techniques that a certain sp taught me (you know who you are), I was able to make her VERY happy. Eventually though, I realized that other people have a LOT worse skeletons in their closets than I, and that made the guilt go away somewhat. Oh, and just like everyone else here, i try not to think of the money I spent (even though its not that much), but when I do I think of it as an investment in my health. After all, everyone needs to get a bit crazy, a bit rowdy, and even a bit kinky from time to time. Otherwise you end up like a lot of the US politicians and religious leaders, and you will find a way to let loose anyways.

 

[KojaxSuited]

lost it at 19

i lost my virginity when i was 19 at an AMP.. can't remember which one tho since i've been to so many since that day. i was kinda embarassed that i finally lost it at 19.. and to a SP no less. oh well.. not much you can do when you're a late bloomer.

 

[Pimmel]

i lost my virginity when i was 19 at an AMP.. can't remember which one tho since i've been to so many since that day. i was kinda embarassed that i finally lost it at 19.. and to a SP no less. oh well.. not much you can do when you're a late bloomer.

sounds like i'm in the same boat as a lot of perberts, surf for a year or two and go to an indie or amp. i'm also like a lot of you and busted my cherry at one too....anyone want to put up a poll?

 

[nube]

I loss my cherry years ago to a GF - I wish there was a board like this when that happened. I spent many frustrating years being shy. If perb existed I would have probably had more sex in my life.

But I joined perb last year and I just took my first plunge on Saturday . And I look forward to being an active participant in this hobby. To bad I waited so long - but I intend to make up for lost time.

So my advice, just do it, tell yourself you need to try it once. The worst that can happen is nothing and you lose a couple of $$$. Better than sitting back years from now Thinking I should have, but now I can't.

Like so many others have said, you can waste a ton of time and money just trying to get laid by a GF - not to mention the upkeep after the fact. With an sp, you KNOW you are going to get laid, you KNOW she isn't going to follow you home. And lastly, the knowledge and experience you'll gain will set you up later.

I know the original poster of this thread probably won't read this, but there are other lurkers out there, who like it did, are 'thinking about' it, building up courage. I am glad I lurked and read the reviews etc etc, got to know the sp's through discussions on this board. In the end I am so glad Saturday has come and went -- and my virginity is gone -- I had such a wonderful time, that even 2 days later I am feeling and experiencing the pleasure she gave me. Just like an adventure vacation, its when you get home that you recall various moments and realize WOW that WAS a wonderful time.

 

[Sir_frixalot]

I never saw an SP until I was over 40, never needed to, never really though about it. But being in a committed relationship with little/no sex (don't ask, sexual politics) a guy just needs to feel a woman. I started out, terrified, getting lap dances from street girls, fully clothed, hands up the shirt, on the hips, that was it. Change the underwear. If we had lap dance places in AB I probably would never have seen an SP... Fu<king Audrey Jensen and the Alberta puritans, we are protected from the evil of the lap dance.

Inevitably I found a girl who looked nice & felt a little too nice and I ended up naked and inside her. Saw her a few more times, but as it goes with street girls/addicts, she disappeared never to be seen again (by me). But the seal was broken.

I even try to be monogamous with SP's - but a new girl has that "I wonder" quality and fresh factor. ALL guys love this, we really can't resist it, and it can be addicting to bang a young new hottie every week or 2. The downside - you get de-sensitized to it - just like watching too much porn, after a while it just gets boring. That's bad. And paid sex is NOT the same, there are many things missing that a real mate can offer, like: no protection, real eye contact and body language, the feel of your sperm gushing into her and her reaction to it, falling asleep inside her, getting her at night and in the morning, the list goes on...

Baby-making-sex is the most intense pleasure the human mind is programmed to feel. They say that (rack (ocaine is 1000x that, be aware of the spell a female addict can cast on a young, horny, susceptible guy. "The sex is amazing" and "just try it once" are the lures, and under the circumstances it will surely become a habit (hottie+sex+drugs=megafun = gotta do again, and again...) SHe will be there when it happens, well, until the money runs out. Our overdeveloped monkey-brains simply cannot resist the concentrated chemical, it's only been widely available since the 90's. It's the modern day Siren's song...
(*any relation to Sirena is purely coincidental)

 

[coca_cola_bj]

Like many previous posters it took me over a year , a rub and tug may be a good way to start to help get over the nervousness. My first real session was at BBC and I was lucky enough to have a session with Katie (now retired). I was shy and nervous but she helped me overcome that within the first 10 minutes. She also told me about Perb which you already know about so you are way ahead of the game. Read some reviews done by some first timers and you will find and SP that is very friendly and well suited for a novice ... in Vancouver Tianna and Isabelle are two that I would recommend .. for Victoria there have been a few recommendations ... good luck with your research and first encounter ... look forward to your review.