First timer with questions.

Hey all! So, my situation: I'm from up north and I'm going to be in town in a few weeks. I'm a younger looking 40, in a long term open relationship, and my sugar daddy has given me an allowance to keep me from getting too lonely. I'm eager to explore and meet some of the talented professionals in the city, but since my window is limited and I probably won't have time to reschedule a backup I'd like on short notice, I'd like to make sure my first experience is as guaranteed a success as such things can be.

I'm looking to pre-book, with deposit, a couple of hours in a warm, cozy incall space on a Sunday with someone very natural, almost more best friend than girlfriend, who can laugh and chat while being intimate for the first half (L/DFK, DATY, BBBJ, 69, HJ, digits, bodysliding, cuddling), but gets fiesty and aggressive in the second half (CFS, MPOS, MSOG, CIM, SW). (Outcalls) aren't off the table but not my first choice. I have a broad palette rather than general tastes when it comes to body types, but major bonuses are being short, (420 Friendly incalls) and smoking a bowl together, unshaven legs and everything else if they've grown in past the prickly point (I like the crunchy granola natural type, what can I say?), tonguebath (Is that what c@t means?), (Nüru), oral fixations and extra messy/squirting. I'm also transfemme non-binary, so while I can play and pass as a straight male quite satisfactorily, I'm really looking for someone interested in, or at least open to, indulging my genderqueerness.

I would love some recommendations from you all! And, to any experts reading this, what do you think of my profile? I know I went overboard, but as a newcomer to the scene I want to put my best foot forward until I can get some references.

Last part, I'm trying to learn how to spot the red flags and outright scams on LL. Correct me if I have this right:

Unverified: might be real but don't bother unless you're willing to toftt and don't pay a deposit.

$200 or less: If not an outright scam there is something else going on. Tgtbt or wot.

Only contact is OF: Major red flag, don't message without a confirmed review.

Party offered: Doesn't mean weed so I don't want any of that noise.

And what's the best way to image search now? I'm totally unfamiliar with using AI or any of that, I remember Web 2.0 and tineye.

Final final question: Those OF collab ads, I'm certain most of them are scams but are any of those legit? Not sure if I'd throw my 'name' in the 'hat' either way, just curious. We live in crazy times.

Thanks so much for reading this brick wall even if you don't have any help or recommendations!

JustmeGeoff said:

[[...]] my suggestion is that you do you your own research outside of here.
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But again, I encourage you to do your diligence and research properly as best as possible before texting or calling. And remember multiple texts with questions will only make the sp less enthusiastic to seeing you.

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Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do. Not just find some leads on honest providers, but making sure I know enough to be respectful but succinct with any questions not in the ad. Also, smooth out any time-wasting nerves by getting used to using the lingo. Actually finding someone quickly if ever who's everything I would like is not something I expect.

And any general tips on how you do your own checking would be really appreciated, beyond just 'Google image and phone in private browser.'

JustmeGeoff said:

All I can say is this old adage “Cheap isn’t good and good isn’t cheap” and what that financial boundary is, that’s up to you personally.

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I'm not comfortable discussing my budget in public for obvious reasons, but I will say I'm not looking to take a risk on a deal. I know quality costs, especially for newcomers, and I'd rather not take a long shot on someone who could be just an ad nobody's met in person.

I appreciate the help though, and the info on the OF listings, thanks.

The Return of George said:

Also be aware that there are different levels of risk. Some ladies say they are "party friendly" this means they are open to much more serious substances than pot.

There are also other risks to be factored in. Some ladies openly advertise (and not so openly provide) what many would consider to be unsafe practices. No, I am not referring to BBBJ. Rules of the board prohibit me from being more explicit.

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Sorry, that's what I meant. No judgement on those who want that, but I want to steer far clear of anything that doesn't come in a legal cigarette. I don't even drink. And yeah, I get what you're referring to and that is definitely more risk than I'm looking for.

When you say DMs you mean other board members, right? I've gotten the impression that it's rude to contact a provider, even with questions, unless you're prepared to make a booking within a few minutes.

Thanks for the help. And no offense taken, I'm here to learn so that I don't mess it up, offend anyone, or waste anyone's professional time.

The Return of George said:

Yes. DM's to other board members. There are some things discussed privately that cannot be posted publicly.

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Well if anyone wants to DM me with advice on anything, consider this post an open invitation. If I have any about a review I'll send one. And I'll stop replying to things outside of this thread. Hope that keeps me in the green from here out, heh.