Getting to know an SP before meeting them

[AznPleasure]

I'm just curious what people think about getting to know an SP before you book a session with them. I know some charge for a meet and greet but what about for something over email?

I'm not intending to waste anyone's time, but I'd like to know about their own desires and what makes them purr, so to speak. I guess to give you an idea of where I'm coming from, I'm planning on booking a session with a Domme and wanted something that would work for both parties involved.

Now, tell me if I'm just crazy here, but I'd like to know what everyone else thinks.
I'd love to hear from some of the women here as well!

 

[vancity_cowboy]

i always exchange at least a couple of emails with a lady before i visit her. many don't advertise their full range of services and i like to find out what the full range is before i invest any time or money in seeing them

sometimes the lady gets real chatty in email and we talk a lot more than one or two. i think it helps some of them to get a feel for the prospective client as well

 

[Pillowtalk]

I think dommes, of all people, need and want to know what you are looking for. Their goal is to make that happen (within all reason of course). Also a lot of sps try to use their ads and websites to give you a really good idea of what they are looking for. You should spend some time on all the sections of a website, especially etiquette etc. Again, it will help you focus on what you are asking about.

It is possible to overthink this, and it is possible to leave an impression that you are into email fantasy fulfillment, not actual appts, so you have to control the urge to start up an online only relationship with dozens of emails, or getting frantic if she cannot reply within minutes of you clicking send. 3 emails max, and/or call her if she has that option, and then either commit to a time or move on.

 

[newatit]

Actually having much the same issues. I do like to know a lady well before spending a lot of time with her, as when you get there and start the session, it can become awkward to find out there is an incompatiblity. Rather sort it out ahead of time. But then, too, with a more mature and truly outward person, you find out they are over most of their hickups about things, and you get on with the full business.
AT the moment have been corresponding copiously with one of our fine PERB ladies, and sorting out a whole bunch of things. Now we need another meeting to get the brass tacks nailed into the rug.

 

[Guardian Angel]

Over the years some good verbal dialog via e-mail has stirred up what eventually became a great session and friendship with a few ladies.

I am all for Private Message foreplay.

G.A.

 

[Very Veronica]

In my experience, the ones who ask lots of questions are the least likely to book & kinda fucked up err discerning other ladies love to spend their time writing long emails or chatting on the phone. Amateurs! Lol. If you're not sure book a social hour or half. This is the world of pay to play not a dating site.

 

[PlayfulAlex]

In my experience, the ones who ask lots of questions are the least likely to book & kinda fucked up err discerning

Do you find yourself pleasantly surprised when a caller has read your ad and your website, looked at your pictures, read some reviews about you, and they're just calling to coordinate your schedules and book a visit?! You're probably saying to yourself, "Now was that so difficult?!"

 

[shedevil]

I'm just curious what people think about getting to know an SP before you book a session with them. I know some charge for a meet and greet but what about for something over email?

I do prefer a proper introduction, not a life story, or a playboy article outlining your encouter before it happens. Nor do I want personal information. I don't care for overly long correspondences either, an email shouldn't be a novel. If a person were to send me something like that, I would decline. I draw the line at 2 or 3 emails if there isn't a hint of an appointment being booked. I also get my impression by spelling and grammar. If you can't take the time to present yourself properly, why would I bother?

Being a "tire-kicker" is another thing all together. I can see when a person is just jerking me and when a person is actually legit. This is usually one line emails, many of the questions being asked are on my website. I usually just send back my website address and nothing else. Of course, my impression of that person has dropped off and I will decline.

I think dommes, of all people, need and want to know what you are looking for. Their goal is to make that happen (within all reason of course).

It is possible to overthink this, and it is possible to leave an impression that you are into email fantasy fulfillment, not actual appts, so you have to control the urge to start up an online only relationship with dozens of emails, or getting frantic if she cannot reply within minutes of you clicking send. 3 emails max, and/or call her if she has that option, and then either commit to a time or move on.

I spend more time with subs than I do with a regular client because they are more work and I need to have a very good understanding of what they want and don't want. I don't need anyone going overboard because I do believe in things being "built up too much". When that happens I feel that I won't meet the expectation and I doubt that any other person would. I decline. However, because of the nature of the service I'm providing and that I deal with a lot of newbies it is sort of impossible to weed out tire-kickers from a first email unless the email is beyond absurd.

SD

 

[luvsdaty]

Nope,other than wanting to know her restrictions i'm not really interested in anything else.

 

[Dgodus]

A somewhat related question.

I prefer not to send alot of emails (and really dislike talking on a phone). So if I sent up an email saying this is what I'm like and what works for me to feel at ease (so I can properly enjoy myself) and simply asked "does your persona mesh with my personality?". How many are going to be honest and say "don't think it'll work out" as opposed to just lieing and saying yes (cause it would be me losing out here, not the sp) and yes I do go over websites.

 

[violetblake]

A somewhat related question.

I prefer not to send alot of emails (and really dislike talking on a phone). So if I sent up an email saying this is what I'm like and what works for me to feel at ease (so I can properly enjoy myself) and simply asked "does your persona mesh with my personality?". How many are going to be honest and say "don't think it'll work out" as opposed to just lieing and saying yes (cause it would be me losing out here, not the sp) and yes I do go over websites.

There's been a few times I've corresponded with someone a bit through email and realized I'm just not what they're looking for, so I informed them of that and at the very least tried to refer them to another SP if I knew of anyone that is what they're looking for. I want my clients to be totally satisfied, and I don't want to waste their time and money on something that is not what they want.

 

[newatit]

I kind of suspect that this getting to know you in advance results from some nervous reaction as well as a fear of wasting a great deal of money. Every one would like to know that things will work our on arrival.

So email and phone calls are one way, but it is true that many guys will call and talk and just not get comfortable enough with the operation to make a date. And hence the time is a waste for the SP. I think one call or one email is enough. I can usually read or hear between the lines, and you get an immediate sense of this being for you or not.

When a guy calls, that first few seconds are pretty critical to the decision the guy is trying to make, hence a cheery and well rounded out greeting is important.

 

[*emmanuelle]

In my experience, the ones who ask lots of questions are the least likely to book

This has been exactly my experience too.

 

[satinguy]

I agree with some of the girls here who have experienced the time wasters who want to talk and email but never plan to book.

Great point Ingrid,

I think it depends on the lady in question. Some ladies have great websites and ads that leave little to question but sometimes there is no website or an ad may not answer the question.

One Lady i spent time with had a contact form on her website and it specifically asked to tell a little about yourself. I gladly filled it out and had some email correpsondence prior to meeting and it was a great experience. We kind of felt like we knew each other and it certainly made me more comfortable and in my opinion made the session a little more erotic and sensual.

Other times it was a little less formal with a quick introduction and and time confirmed and that was it. I am respectful of the Ladies time so i can certainly relate to the Ladies who choose to keep correspondence to a minumum. Others enjoy getting to know the person so choose your companion accordingly is my advice.

 

[Ms. Yoko Anna]

I'd love to know about my guest before meeting.
If it is a special occasion, such as a birthday, recently broke-up with girl friend, Asian fetish, etc....
Then, I can add something to make them feel special.

I don't mind to be asked many questions, but if they start asking me questions that can be answered from my website, I tend to reply short and dry....

Slightly off the topic, (and I'm sorry if this bothers anyone) I tend to spend less time replying to emails if the email does not folllow general grammar/punctuation rules..... Yes, English is my second language and people may think I should not be meticulous about it as I don't write "the perfect" letter. But when people spell "you" as in "u", "know" as in "no" or, "I" as in "i",when the first letter of the sentence is not capitalized, I may reply with one or two sentences. I wonder if this trend of incorrect spelling bothers other ladies.

 

[kenchorney]

But when people spell "you" as in "u", "know" as in "no" or, "I" as in "i",when the first letter of the sentence is not capitalized, I may reply with one or two sentences. I wonder if this trend of incorrect spelling bothers other ladies.

Could not agree more. When I see an ad that has things like sexxii or boyyzz or hAs ThE TiTle LiKe ThIs I would never consider booking an appointment.

 

[AznPleasure]

Wow, lots of great responses everyone!

Yeah, I always make sure to fully read a SP's website and definitely don't want to waste anyone's time.
I really appreciate the ladies replying as well, to give us all their point of view.

 

[bcneil]

Could not agree more. When I see an ad that has things like sexxii or boyyzz or hAs ThE TiTle LiKe ThIs I would never consider booking an appointment.

No kidding. What about when the phone number is.....

7SEveNeight12THReeFoUr5SiXSEven

 

[wilde]

In my experience, the ones who ask lots of questions are the least likely to book & kinda fucked up err discerning other ladies love to spend their time writing long emails or chatting on the phone. Amateurs! Lol. If you're not sure book a social hour or half. This is the world of pay to play not a dating site.

Those are also the kind most likely to be jerking off to the sound of your voice.

 

[luvsdaty]

Very true. I've had that before. When I first started in this business 6 yrs ago, I had a few people who wanted to engage in conversation and of course I thought well I will indulge if this means one more client, by the end I heard one guy orgasm and then he ended the conversation by saying, 'thank you'. Of course 6 yrs later one is much much wiser and instinctive.
Being from Britain and being here in Canada I am all to aware that many call just to hear the 'English accent', more so I do not entertain long drawn out conversations. Call, introduce yourself, get to the point, and let's move on.

Say governor please Just a sec, let me get my hand lotion first:eyebrows: