time to lighten up

[Annalise Lane]

the westjet joke about Fort Mac got me thinking about what happened at work 3 weeks ago with my site superintendent, who is so up tight you could ring out his socks without twisting them.

Friday morning he comes into the job shack "this sucks", he says. I replied with "what sucks ?" He grumbles and goes back out to the site. About an hour later he comes back in and continues to whine and complain about everything. (the week leading up to Friday, he was playful and easy going)

My reply to him this time, "you might consider getting laid to relax"

He says to me, "his wife is out of the country"

I reply with, "try a hooker, I'll even pay"

WELL ----------------------------- he runs straight to the Project Manager and whines about my comment. To the point I get written up

ahaha dude needs more then a hooker I think !!

 

[Asianwomanlover]

Boy, getting written up for a comment like that? What an insanely politically correct world! Indeed, the dude needs to get a sense of humor. Methinks he should have followed your advice!

 

[Cock Throppled]

Why not report him for damaging morale with his complaining?

 

[magrum]

the westjet joke about Fort Mac got me thinking about what happened at work 3 weeks ago with my site superintendent, who is so up tight you could ring out his socks without twisting them.

Friday morning he comes into the job shack "this sucks", he says. I replied with "what sucks ?" He grumbles and goes back out to the site. About an hour later he comes back in and continues to whine and complain about everything. (the week leading up to Friday, he was playful and easy going)

My reply to him this time, "you might consider getting laid to relax"

He says to me, "his wife is out of the country"

I reply with, "try a hooker, I'll even pay"

WELL ----------------------------- he runs straight to the Project Manager and whines about my comment. To the point I get written up

ahaha dude needs more then a hooker I think !!

You should have been written up. Your comments are totally inappropriate in the workplace.


And you would know all about appropriate behavior right Hunsperger?

 

[CJ Tylers]

it's possible he actually didn't find the comment offensive... if someone said that to me at my workplace, I'd probably find it funny. However, if it was a woman saying it to me, I'd be obligated to report it immediately in order to protect my ass, as well as that of the companies. It's more about cutting off a potential sexual harassment law suite than anything else. You might've gotten a different response had he been a co worker, rather than your boss.

Then again, he might just have a stick up his butt.

 

[Tugela]

the westjet joke about Fort Mac got me thinking about what happened at work 3 weeks ago with my site superintendent, who is so up tight you could ring out his socks without twisting them.

Friday morning he comes into the job shack "this sucks", he says. I replied with "what sucks ?" He grumbles and goes back out to the site. About an hour later he comes back in and continues to whine and complain about everything. (the week leading up to Friday, he was playful and easy going)

My reply to him this time, "you might consider getting laid to relax"

He says to me, "his wife is out of the country"

I reply with, "try a hooker, I'll even pay"

WELL ----------------------------- he runs straight to the Project Manager and whines about my comment. To the point I get written up

ahaha dude needs more then a hooker I think !!

That is harrassment. You crossed the line.

 

[Big Dog Striker]

the westjet joke about Fort Mac got me thinking about what happened at work 3 weeks ago with my site superintendent, who is so up tight you could ring out his socks without twisting them.

Friday morning he comes into the job shack "this sucks", he says. I replied with "what sucks ?" He grumbles and goes back out to the site. About an hour later he comes back in and continues to whine and complain about everything. (the week leading up to Friday, he was playful and easy going)

My reply to him this time, "you might consider getting laid to relax"

He says to me, "his wife is out of the country"

I reply with, "try a hooker, I'll even pay"

WELL ----------------------------- he runs straight to the Project Manager and whines about my comment. To the point I get written up

ahaha dude needs more then a hooker I think !!

I hope he discovers what FUN means before its too late healthwise. The potential ER types. :nod:

 

[Tugela]

Well, reverse the gender of the supervisor and the OP, but have the exact same conversation. Would it still be OK?

 

[s.morath]

Ah yes… the inappropriate comment. I see there are some fairly standard opinions about it here too. I had to deal with this from time to time as a business owner. Ultimately, it is not something I would tolerate even for a second if it was truly meant to be harassment. but 90% of the time it is not harassment. When dealing with this kind of thing, the first thing I look at is the person making the complaint. I can usually determine if it really was harassment in about 5 minutes and if so, someone gets the boot out the door. But usually it is difficulties due to the culture. It’s difficult to balance a workplace that reflect disposition and temperament of the employees and “professionalism”. However most bosses don’t really see it that way and don’t realize that the work environment reflects what they find to be an acceptable working environment. Combine that with someone in a bad mood and someone overly sensitive or just a misunderstanding and you have this kind of thing.

My point here is that if this gets out of hand, if you can (nicely) communicate that this kind of banter is representative of the workplace and culture you may be able to make them see that the fact you considered that comment acceptable reflects the tone set and by your coworkers and allowed to continue by management. Then the problem is no longer yours. It’s a management issue. In this case, your superintendent is the management so he may get into an awkward position over this.

But really, just some understanding of the guys headspace and an honest apology will usually fix such things. However if the guy really is a prick, this guy getting his panties in a wad about this is just going to get him downsized sooner or later.

 

[Asianwomanlover]

Tugela, what Annalise did would not be considered harassment. Sexual harassment refers to persistent and unwanted sexual advances, typically in the workplace, where the consequences of refusing are potentially very disadvantageous to the victim (Wikipedia). This was a one-time joke from an employee toward her superintendent, her direct boss. She did not tell him to sleep with her, or aggressively pursue him. It may have been in bad taste, but did not actually constitute harassment. Lighten up!

 

[Annalise Lane]

Interesting how some views here are the same as my Project Manger and some opinions are that of mine, it was a comment meant to be funny and lighten up the tense behavior he was portraying. In hopes to show him how his behavior was. As for him 'site super' being my boss, he's not, I'm the engineering on site, he's the workers boss, together we make a team with different roles.

As for the sexual harassment --- a comment like this was not me advancing to him, therefore there was no pursuing on my part. (didn't give him my website address --- lol) If the comment came from a man, it would have been taken very differently then a woman.

 

[Annalise Lane]

Well, reverse the gender of the supervisor and the OP, but have the exact same conversation. Would it still be OK?

if someone said something similar to me, I would take it as it was delivered and read between the lines.

There is a different culture on a job site verses in an office. ~in my humble opinion~

 

[Monet]

who is "his wife"?

the westjet joke about Fort Mac got me thinking about what happened at work 3 weeks ago with my site superintendent, who is so up tight you could ring out his socks without twisting them.

Friday morning he comes into the job shack "this sucks", he says. I replied with "what sucks ?" He grumbles and goes back out to the site. About an hour later he comes back in and continues to whine and complain about everything. (the week leading up to Friday, he was playful and easy going)

My reply to him this time, "you might consider getting laid to relax"

He says to me, "his wife is out of the country"

I reply with, "try a hooker, I'll even pay"

WELL ----------------------------- he runs straight to the Project Manager and whines about my comment. To the point I get written up

ahaha dude needs more then a hooker I think !!

 

[AA_Train]

Where I work, we had respectful workplace training. It was mostly a bunch of bullcrap, but the one thing that was relevant was that it said every workplace has a different standard of what's appropriate and what's not. Some people are more sensitive than others, in some places decorum is a little more important.

Unless you conveyed that message with a particular tone that made it sound like you were serious, the guy needs to chill the fuck out. I've said, heard and been told much worse than that both seriously and jokingly. Some people just always got to be on the cross.

 

[Tugela]

if someone said something similar to me, I would take it as it was delivered and read between the lines.

There is a different culture on a job site verses in an office. ~in my humble opinion~

Well, good for you, but you know (or should know as an adult) that many people would find such a comment as personal and offensive. And as such you shouldn't be making them. Using the "being one of the boys" argument doesnt make it any more right or acceptable behaviour, as you have found out. He obviously didn't see it as a joke.

The only time it would be acceptable would be with someone who was a close enough friend where you can be sure that it would be taken as a joke.

And btw, (sexual)harrassment isn't necessarily making direct advances, it includes creating an atmosphere that is offensive and intended to cause discomfort to your target. The fact that you don't understand this and think that this is somehow the "culture" suggests to me that there is a serious need for sensitivity training at your workplace.

 

[Tugela]

Where I work, we had respectful workplace training. It was mostly a bunch of bullcrap, but the one thing that was relevant was that it said every workplace has a different standard of what's appropriate and what's not. Some people are more sensitive than others, in some places decorum is a little more important.

Unless you conveyed that message with a particular tone that made it sound like you were serious, the guy needs to chill the fuck out. I've said, heard and been told much worse than that both seriously and jokingly. Some people just always got to be on the cross.

I suspect that the "hiring hookers" part was the bit that went too far. She should have stopped after the first comment, but she carried on. That was when the line was crossed.

 

[sweetiepie1]

I think the quip about the hooker is funny. :clap2: That said, they might have just gone through a bout of accusations of sexual harassment or, if they just had training, the guys might have complained that they can't get away with sexual jokes so why should a woman? It does seem over the top to write you up for that comment. He could have just told you that they're all being very cautious and so it can't be allowed.

 

[luvsdaty]

If you say anything like that at a gov't job, they'll have you up on the carpet pretty quick.Then they'd send you to a 3 day sensativity coarse. Not to mention a letter of the incident in your file. It's all part of due dilligence & everybody covering there ass. If you had a problem with the guys attitude, it would have been better to tell him your problem with him & if it still continued, bring it to the bosses.
It's all part of covering your ass in todays pc world.Too bad really.

 

[sevenofnine]

I agree some people on this site need to lighten up.

And that is the problem with dealing with people or strangers, you never really know were there coming from, whether they have a spiritual background, or just a prude etc.

If something is given in terms of fun, that is the way it should be accepted,
or even critizism if its contructive. No one is so perfect.

But if some one is just on a rant and a tear, well then fuck them.

 

[future canadian]