the worst thing about this hobby,

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sevenofnine

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lets leave out the cost for the moment.
but its an addiction like booze gambling drugs.

its easy to forget to have a life.
even when you do have a life,
I have found im just sometimes going through the motions of a life,
waiting not really there, my body is there but my mind is planning or replaying an encounter.

hooked on sex or one particular women, waiting so I can see her or do it again.

im fortunate im getting older and the hunger has left me,
but left my life intact family grandchildren
friends, hobbies etc,

I think for years I was simply going through the motions of having a life.
getting older and a health problem or two.
like I said for what ever reason the hunger the big need to continue has left,
and like any addiction you don't really think of the consequences

and again, I have been lucky, I am intact

sometimes I think despite my best efforts to fuck up.

I have been very fortunate.

how many men on these boards seem so lonely to me, and angry, or just so sad.

wasted an entire life chasing hookers,

I think the biggest piece of advice I could give someone is,
remember to have a life,

have friends hobbies interests passions.
have a women you don't have to pay to see,
who will just have a coffee with you or a quiet supper,

make a baby or two with that women,
so you can chase your grandchildren around.

paying for sex isn't wrong.
life is not all neat and tidy.

its more about the feelings the emotions you generate or make
then any physical act,

nothing is really wrong, its the emotions the why that is wrong.
sometimes you just have to.

its more about loosing yourself in this hobby, forgetting there is a women with feelings and needs just like you across from you,

forgetting to make a life for yourself. to have a life.

I have been very fortunate indeed.
 
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jamasianman

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Agreed. Its nice to take a mini vacation in the arms of banging hot lady, but there's more to life than providers. Its good to have balance and friendships and hobbies and other stuff. Once you do this hobby too much you can lose yourself and start to see women as objects. You get fixated on services too much and see them not as people. I'm not speaking of my own experiences, but I see the toxicity and attitudes on the boards. Its always important to keep things in perspective and not get lost in the fantasy.
 

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It's like a chocolate easter bunny. It looks delicious on the outside, but once you take a bite you realize it's hollow and empty inside.
Not if you buy the solid one...hehe

Agreed. Its nice to take a mini vacation in the arms of banging hot lady, but there's more to life than providers. Its good to have balance and friendships and hobbies and other stuff. Once you do this hobby too much you can lose yourself and start to see women as objects. You get fixated on services too much and see them not as people. I'm not speaking of my own experiences, but I see the toxicity and attitudes on the boards. Its always important to keep things in perspective and not get lost in the fantasy.
But more on a serious note I have to agree with the above^
 

take8easy

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Someone's drunk or depressed.
^^^^^or both....

I wonder if pooning does that to you... or may be the lady with whom you make two three kids or may be its the grandchildren.....

Ok all the jokes aside and on a serious note... I started to roll my eyes after about five lines, not on what OP said but the way it was said in a loooooong preach-speech.

Pooning can be addictive. It's sort of like alcohol, you got to know your limit and play with in it. Just like any addict, most pooners are in denial. Luckily I am NOT addicted at all. It is totally under my control. Yes it is and I can quit just like that. I have already successfully managed to quit about twenty times. So NO i am not addicted to this hobby.
T8E
 

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Exactly. Nothing wrong paying for sex or a fantasy. The problem starts when you allow it to replace your real life. It's the cyber equivalent of believing your 300 FB friends...
I have FaceBook friends......and those two guys ....are fucking awesome!

I do have to be careful, particularly in the winter time when I'm very alone for weeks on end.
This place becomes more of a social outlet for me, .....it is those very lonely moments with the only other company is the wind, that I begin too look at some here as my contact with the outside world.
The reality is that this place is very real in some ways,with very genuine people in most cases.. but at the same time, providing fantasy based experiences.
I mean ..I can only talk to my horses and dogs so much.....and a girlfriend usually lasts only until December or so, when they get tired of the isolation, cold ,looking at a burning wood stove , and a man with leather hands.
I love this life......but it's awful hard on relationships.....Maybe someday I'll just retire on a beach someplace, and have a dark skinned goddess serve me a Margarita at ten A.M., smelling of coconut.....and with a trickle of suntan lotion still glistening between her ample breasts.....as she listens to some kids playing in the sand.
 

poonerboi

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I have FaceBook friends......and those two guys ....are fucking awesome!

I do have to be careful, particularly in the winter time when I'm very alone for weeks on end.
This place becomes more of a social outlet for me, .....it is those very lonely moments with the only other company is the wind, that I begin too look at some here as my contact with the outside world.
The reality is that this place is very real in some ways,with very genuine people in most cases.. but at the same time, providing fantasy based experiences.
I mean ..I can only talk to my horses and dogs so much.....and a girlfriend usually lasts only until December or so, when they get tired of the isolation, cold ,looking at a burning wood stove , and a man with leather hands.
I love this life......but it's awful hard on relationships.....Maybe someday I'll just retire on a beach someplace, and have a dark skinned goddess serve me a Margarita at ten A.M., smelling of coconut.....and with a trickle of suntan lotion still glistening between her ample breasts.....as she listens to some kids playing in the sand.
Nothing to do with the thread ,just thought I'd say nice to see you are OK,and to thankyou for all of your efforts with the fires. I have friends staying with me that were evacuated,and thanks to you and others like you,they have hope. So far their house is still standing.
 

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I notice an increasing number of pooners in Vancouver, particularly among men 35 and under who should be seeking relationships while baggage is still low for both men and women compared to a divorced person but are resorting to pooning. Maybe its the city and its high cost of living and the sometimes materialistic view of Vancouver women and their general expectations of what they want in a man or the easy access due to internet now a days but its becoming more common.

Men treat women like objects because of their pooning habits and women want a man who is tall, handsome and also their personal ATM machine.

And they ask why its hard to date in Vancouver haha.
 

Quarter Mile'r

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lets leave out the cost for the moment.
but its an addiction like booze gambling drugs.

its easy to forget to have a life.
even when you do have a life,
I have found im just sometimes going through the motions of a life,
waiting not really there, my body is there but my mind is planning or replaying an encounter.

hooked on sex or one particular women, waiting so I can see her or do it again.

im fortunate im getting older and the hunger has left me,
but left my life intact family grandchildren
friends, hobbies etc,

I think for years I was simply going through the motions of having a life.
getting older and a health problem or two.
like I said for what ever reason the hunger the big need to continue has left,
and like any addiction you don't really think of the consequences

and again, I have been lucky, I am intact

sometimes I think despite my best efforts to fuck up.

I have been very fortunate.

how many men on these boards seem so lonely to me, and angry, or just so sad.

wasted an entire life chasing hookers,

I think the biggest piece of advice I could give someone is,
remember to have a life,

have friends hobbies interests passions.
have a women you don't have to pay to see,
who will just have a coffee with you or a quiet supper,

make a baby or two with that women,
so you can chase your grandchildren around.

paying for sex isn't wrong.
life is not all neat and tidy.

its more about the feelings the emotions you generate or make
then any physical act,

nothing is really wrong, its the emotions the why that is wrong.
sometimes you just have to.

its more about loosing yourself in this hobby, forgetting there is a women with feelings and needs just like you across from you,

forgetting to make a life for yourself. to have a life.

I have been very fortunate indeed.
Wow am I ever glad I never put that much thought into the hobby of pooning. Jesus!!

To me it's like anything else in life. It is part of the whole thing, life that is.





.......................QM'r
 

westwoody

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Some people are more susceptible to addiction than others.

Be it alcohol, gambling, hard drugs or sex.
 

Lo-ki

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Check your closet..:)
Your born
You go to school
You work
You retire
You die

And you poon from work till you die
 

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*&^%
When you travel , you lose all interests in cultural sights and just want to test the " New" stuff.

Go to Russia, you want tall like Maria Sharapova
Go to Japan you want Yuma Asami
Go to Mexico you think of brothels and big butts

It drives you crazy when you poon.
 

take8easy

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I notice an increasing number of pooners in Vancouver, particularly among men 35 and under who should be seeking relationships while baggage is still low for both men and women compared to a divorced person but are resorting to pooning. Maybe its the city and its high cost of living and the sometimes materialistic view of Vancouver women and their general expectations of what they want in a man or the easy access due to internet now a days but its becoming more common.

Men treat women like objects because of their pooning habits and women want a man who is tall, handsome and also their personal ATM machine.

And they ask why its hard to date in Vancouver haha.
Speak for yourself mate.
 

take8easy

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Well in all seriousness T8E, can you successfully quit drinking 20 times? The answer is no. In the world of addiction, what you're referring to is a relapse. Sex addiction IS real. To many it's like gambling addiction; many people don't believe it's an addiction. There is almost zero discussion on what the root causes are.
I know yvr, thanks for clarifying to me something that I said myself. :) By the way, that was my way of saying that IT IS an addiction. lol. I thought you would get my point that if someone keeps on going back to old habits, it means that person is hooked. :) That's why I also said that denial is the number one sign and then I added that "I am not addicted at all, I can quit whenever I want to." I guess I was not clear enough.

This reminds me of my smoking habit. I smoked for about 16 years till one day I went cold turkey and I NEVER had the urge to smoke again. But wait a minute, it was not as easy as it seems. I quit and restarted (relapsed, as you put it) scores of times. :) But I kept trying and then finally one afternoon, I ran out of cigarettes, went to this Domo gas station on the corner of Nelson and Seymour, they did not have Rothmans, they did not have Players either and I thought, oh well, I will buy somewhere else. That was 22 years ago and I have not smoked yet.

My conclusion is that if you want to quit a habit, you have to REALLY want to quit. Just "I wish I could quit" does not work. The best way to do is to start hating it. I was getting sick of smoking, I started to hate the smell, the taste, the lies etc.

So, in simple words, yes like some other habits e.g. gambling, alcohol, smoking, there is an element of possible addiction in pooning. I admit, I am sort of addicted to it too. I tried to quit about a month and a half ago, stayed off it for about two weeks. I even stopped logging in here but then I relapsed. But yes, I do think I will quit one day and walk away with a smile on my face and taste of about one hundred vaginas on my mouth.

T8E
 
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golferjohn

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I know yvr, thanks for clarifying to me something that I said myself. :) By the way, that was my way of saying that IT IS an addiction. lol. I thought you would get my point that if someone keeps on going back to old habits, it means that person is hooked. :)
That's why I also said that denial is the number one sign and then I added that "I am not addicted at all, I can quit whenever I want to." I guess I was not clear enough.

So, in simple words, yes like some other habits e.g. gambling, alcohol, smoking, there is an element of possible addiction in pooning. I admit, I am sort of addicted to it too.

T8E
I got it (was funny too)
 

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Although 77%'s original post might come across as a little preachy, I see nothing wrong with someone reflecting and sharing their views, and caveats, with the broader community. Good for him. No one was forced to read the whole thing.

Personally, I don't see it as an addiction (any more than occasionally going on vacation is an addiction).

Pooning is way more important than cigarettes, drugs or booze. You don't actually NEED any of those things. However, sex, companionship and human interaction are fundamental human needs.

If you have a regular outlet for that, you're a lucky guy. If you don't, or need to augment it somehow, sometime, somewhere, then this hobby is a natural (and IMO safer) way to find that.

So, I've always seen it as a supplement, or augmentation rather than a crutch. Doesn't replace my normal life, but when I have a deficit there - which comes and goes in cycles (often lasting years) - this is a great way to augment it.

Rather than detract from my real life, and family and responsibilities, I find that the judicious use of this hobby actually "lubricates" rough spots and contributes to overall "net" happiness.

Without it, I suspect that many men would see their long-term relationships become unbearable and seek more drastic and risky measures.
Some good points there.
 

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I get the whole pay for sex thing especially for married men. There are many couples who stay together and remain good friends but there is no physical aspect to their relationship. One could easy say "then divorce and walk away" but it's not always that easy.
In my personal case I have been married 31 years....10 years ago my wife almost over night lost all drive and passion, we don't know if it was to do with menopause but 4 or 5 times we were intimate in 10 years...we are best of friends,we have a history ,we love being with each other in travel or just walks.....I had a choice back in december...find GF which would have probably caused a break up in the not to distant future or have a few meetings with a sp...I chose to do the later....and today it was the best thing I ever did...Tia fills every need I was missing plus a lot more....so its not an addiction with me but a choice....to me there is no worst thing about what I am doing....my wife and I are happier (no she does not know) and I am happier having a very good relationship with Tia.
 

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In my personal case I have been married 31 years....10 years ago my wife almost over night lost all drive and passion, we don't know if it was to do with menopause but 4 or 5 times we were intimate in 10 years...we are best of friends,we have a history ,we love being with each other in travel or just walks.....I had a choice back in december...find GF which would have probably caused a break up in the not to distant future or have a few meetings with a sp...I chose to do the later....and today it was the best thing I ever did...my regular sp fills every need I was missing plus a lot more....so its not an addiction with me but a choice....to me there is no worst thing about what I am doing....my wife and I are happier (no she does not know) and I am happier having a very good relationship with my regular sp.
Well good for you:clap2::clap2:

But you know it is ok to see other SPs as well and not be a secret.:tape::tape:
 

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I even stopped logging in here but then I relapsed. But yes, I do think I will quit one day and walk away with a smile on my face and taste of about one hundred vaginas on my mouth.

T8E
When I think of that its makes me want :puke:

Once the seed is planted...........

I feel naughty today.
 

take8easy

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In my personal case I have been married 31 years....10 years ago my wife almost over night lost all drive and passion, we don't know if it was to do with menopause but 4 or 5 times we were intimate in 10 years...we are best of friends,we have a history ,we love being with each other in travel or just walks.....I had a choice back in december...find GF which would have probably caused a break up in the not to distant future or have a few meetings with a sp...I chose to do the later....and today it was the best thing I ever did...Tia fills every need I was missing plus a lot more....so its not an addiction with me but a choice....to me there is no worst thing about what I am doing....my wife and I are happier (no she does not know) and I am happier having a very good relationship with Tia.
My story is pretty similar to yours. I have always had a high sex drive and wife was so so when it came to sex. I don't want to have an affair, break up and ruin everything that I worked so hard for. In a way this is like eating out secretly because wife is a bad cook. (Anyone watched Everybody Loves Raymond?). :)

Only side effect (apart from spending enough to buy a decent Honda) is that now whenever I see a woman on the street, the first thought that crosses my mind is, "Could she be an escort? Or, I wonder what she would look like in lingerie opening the door for me!". If I said that loud in open, it would be taken as a derogatory comment, but I am sure you understand that I say that in most respectful way.

T8E
 
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