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Thoughts on hobbyists in relationships & marriages?

druiddude432

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It always fascinated me how people in relationships or marriages seek out sps. I mean these folks make up for a large portions of an sps clientele. I guess I'm just too naive, young and haven't been stuck in relationships or marriages but would love to hear your thoughts?

I know that in marriages things get boring after awhile, after kids and work...

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nightswhisper

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Human race really isn't biologically programmed to be monogamous. Sex as a means of reproduction is an innate urge and very difficult to overcome and conquer. It's not a great thing for a dude when their wife decides when and if the guy will get any. After a while, resentment brews curiosity. Curiosity brews bravery.
 
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johnnydepth

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I have to agree people aren't biologically programmed to be monogamous. Relationships and marriage can become sexually inadequate or even barren. It doesn't mean the relationship isn't still solid; sex is only one small part of a relationship.
 

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I just happen to be one of the Perb community who is in a great relationship at home. Just not gettin any due to menopause. Yes I know estrogen in most cases can fix this but not in this case. (cancer a few years back)

A long time ago, ohhh around mid life crisis time. I came to realize that Love and Sex are two different things. They both can be enjoyed totally separately. Think about it this way..... you love your parents, and your kids.. BUT...

So I find it is totally legit to have sex without love... (Psst..... I love doing it!) and have love without sex.

I don't know about the rest of the world, but it this philosophy works for me.
 
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An SP I know sometimes talks with me about her clients. She tells me she has no respect for those men she sees that step out on their wives. She doesn't mind taking their money but views them with contempt.
 

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I just happen to be one of the Perb community who is in a great relationship at home. Just not gettin any due to menopause. Yes I know estrogen in most cases can fix this but not in this case. (cancer a few years back)

A long time ago, ohhh around mid life crisis time. I came to realize that Love and Sex are two different things. They both can be enjoyed totally separately. Think about it this way..... you love your parents, and your kids.. BUT...

So I find it is totally legit to have sex without love... (Psst..... I love doing it!) and have love without sex.

I don't know about the rest of the world, but it this philosophy works for me.
Damn, very well said!!
 

E.H.

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Isn't the ever evolving loss of innocence,a subscript to each of our,"Life Stories".
To move forward,we must continuously revise our perspectives & approaches to things.

Change,is one of lifes' few constants.
The further you're ahead on the change curve,the better you will manage change.
If your perspective of women & marriage is stuck in a 1950s' timewarp,then you will be eaten alive by women & marriage of year 2018.
Just as of the 1950 NHL Championship Teams,would be eaten alive by any NHL team in year 2018.

I have my share of trying discussions,with my 85 year old father,in enlightening him to the stark realities of today.

Engelbert Humperdink
 

Addison Cortez

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Tough to give one opinion on this matter, as there are many different things to consider.


Just don’t judge people, that’s a good place to start...
 

E.H.

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Just don’t judge people, that’s a good place to start...
Most certainly.

Over the last two years,I've had the pleasure of meeting & getting to know a woman,that has impressed me more than any other,for years.
What makes her the gem in the gravel heap,is her extraordinary honesty & uncommonly kindheartedness.
I have confided to her,the pay4play facet of my life and she appreciates my bid to match her honesty.
I may not be this womans' current choice of partner,but I glow with joy,like the Bhudda under the Bhodi Tree,for the gift of even knowing her.

Engelbert Humperdink
 
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It always fascinated me how people in relationships or marriages seek out sps. I mean these folks make up for a large portions of an sps clientele. I guess I'm just too naive, young and haven't been stuck in relationships or marriages but would love to hear your thoughts?

I know that in marriages things get boring after awhile, after kids and work...

Best,
If you're curious about how a pooner in a pseudo-monogamous LTR rationalizes his extramarital sexual encounters, read up on cognitive dissonance.

Then come back to PERB, I'm certain you'll find some examples of dissonance theory right here!
 

whistlerboi

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Marriage can end up in a long slow decline in intimacy which can as a result be very painful for the partner who hasn't agreed to the decline. There may be a unilateral decision to reduce intimacy by one partner. In this dying phase of a marriage or LTR it can make perfect sense for the affected partner to go outside. It may even end up being beneficial for the broken couple in the long term that there was some discreet relief taking place.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs
 

Cock Throppled

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An SP I know sometimes talks with me about her clients. She tells me she has no respect for those men she sees that step out on their wives. She doesn't mind taking their money but views them with contempt.
I wonder how she feels about how she's judged by many in our society?
 

E.H.

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I wonder how she feels about how she's judged by many in our society?
Probably like sex trade patrons,"There's no point in caring what the prissies & sissies think,because they're never going to have anything kind in store for you anyways.".

Engelbert Humperdink
 

Ms Erica Phoenix

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Marriage can end up in a long slow decline in intimacy which can as a result be very painful for the partner who hasn't agreed to the decline. There may be a unilateral decision to reduce intimacy by one partner. In this dying phase of a marriage or LTR it can make perfect sense for the affected partner to go outside. It may even end up being beneficial for the broken couple in the long term that there was some discreet relief taking place.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs
Can I just say how much I love this graphic?? Interesting to note that sex & intimacy are both in LOWER levels of the pyramid; without those lower levels firmly in place, a person cannot reach self actualization!
 

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An SP I know sometimes talks with me about her clients. She tells me she has no respect for those men she sees that step out on their wives. She doesn't mind taking their money but views them with contempt.
That's an interesting attitude to have. I'd imagine the majority of her clients are married. Obviously everyone is entitled to their opinion but this sort of attitude would cause a lot of SPs to become jaded I would think...
 

DangerousDan

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I guess I'm just too naive, young and haven't been stuck in relationships or marriages
I think you already answered your question... it's hard to put yourself in the shoes of other people. What I've learned in life is that sometimes you don't need to know the 'why' and just accept the 'is'. It's just a reality of life that people end up in these situations. Don't think that you are going to be unique if you go down that road. And try not to judge people because none of us has the full picture.

I know that in marriages things get boring after awhile, after kids and work...
I would bet that boredom isn't the top reason... I think the top reason is lack of intimacy and I'd say the second-most reason is resentment. I think a lot of women use sex to get what they want out of their partner and it becomes a control thing. Eventually I think that builds up resentment. I think there is a lot of truth in some old sayings like 'keep your man happy and he won't stray'.
 

E.H.

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Jadedness,is an initial consequence of losing innocence to reality.
What's important,is to not founder & fixate on jadedness.

The client lost his innocence of the realities of marriage and became jaded.
The provider lost her innocence of the realities of marriage and became jaded.

After a while,bitter truths must be digested.
A change of perspective & approach is needed,if you wish to move forward.
Wisdom is the beneficial dividend,of the loss of innocence/jadedness process.

Engelbert Humperdink
 

ddcanz

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An SP I know sometimes talks with me about her clients. She tells me she has no respect for those men she sees that step out on their wives. She doesn't mind taking their money but views them with contempt.
This SP can go fuck herself, then. She has no problem lining her pockets with a married dude's cash. Does she have the ovs to back it up with honest commentary to said clients? Call him a dirt to his face for "stepping out"? Of course not.
Judgement from a prostitute? Laughable!
 

E.H.

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This SP can go fuck herself, then.
Now there's no reason why this SP can go fuck herself.
Not when she can have herself more pricks,than a porcupine.

A womans' sexual power points,are her looks & choice.
A mans' sexual power points,are his looks & money.
Some exceptions are found in strong psychological attractions.
Everyone is dealt their proverbial hand in life,to be played to their best ability.

Life is not a Disney fairy tale,so much as a subconscious primate show of alpha,beta and omega players.
Monkey branching is an everyday expected thing.
The more innocence which gets traded to wisdom,the better you will cope.

Engelbert Humperdink
 

204fun

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At the end of the day it makes way more sense for an individual in a committed relationship to see an SP rather than trying to pickup on Tinder, Bumble, POF or any of the other dating sites where you are having to put YOUR information out there in order to find someone.

Instead you can go on Perb and find a top rated and reputable SP, set up an appointment, enjoy yourself and that's the end of that until the next time you decide to set something up. In my opinion there is a much smaller chance of complications arising out of this scenario than partaking with single civilian ladies.
 
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