Ding ding ding....we MIGHT just have a winner!Maybe because we only have one round in the chamber typically that we tend to slow it down and truly savour the experience.
I have met many women that, never or seldomly ever, come with a client. They are very happy, and sometimes surprised, that someone makes the effort to take care of their needs. It takes patience, experience and a desire to want to make this happen. I look back at my younger days and realize that a woman's pleasure was, shall we say, not as front and center with me as it is today. Women came more as an accidental result of sheer endurance rather than finese and technique. lol. With us older guys, I think, the later is our trump card, and it is much much more reliable. lol.
Definitely, for me at least, it is about intimacy and connection. With great connection you can together really make amazing things happen!
All I know, and my ego enters here, is I like to leave a girl with a smile on her face and know that is not all about the chubby envelope on the dresser.
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Not too long ago I met a younger man who said after a 2 round romp "I find I just can't do it like i used to. I used to be able to cum 4 times in an hour!" I suggested, kindly, that perhaps it was maturity, & he was learning that maybe it wasn't JUST about his orgasms. Maybe, just maybe, it was about learning how to make HER orgasm first so that HIS would be even better. Usually, the guys over 40 have figured that out already...