Where is the line between trust and stupidity? It seems the more I believe that people will treat me with the same respect and level of trust that I give them, the more I get screwed over.
Here's the deal: I had a client Friday night. He planned for the hour and mentioned that he might want to extend if round one was good. I quoted him the donation for both 1 hr and 2. The first hour was fantastic. The chemistry was right and the enjoyment was mutual, so he decided to stay for round two. I excused myself, went to the washroom to freshen up and asked him to add the appropriate amount to the existing donation. Now, I never count, or even look at the donation in front of a client. I think it's rude and disrespectful. Sometimes I forget entirely, and don't ask for it until the end - which I know I shouldn't do, but like I said, I tend to believe that people are honest and will treat me with the same respect that I treat them. (This is why I've been ripped off on more than one occasion.) When I returned, he excused himself to the washroom, and told me he added more to the donation. While he was in the washroom, I checked the amount and found it appropriate. He stayed close to 3 hours, almost an hour passed what the donation covered. I didn't mind as I usually go overtime anyway. I didn't look at the donation until the next afternoon, and when I did, I found it was short by 1 brown. I did a search, thinking maybe the fan blew it away, or it fell. No brown. I'm still shaking my head and asking if he would really take one back, leaving less than what I had quoted him for the 2 hours. Who would do that? We had an amazing time, he was a nice man and yet he ripped me off. I don't get it.
Now, I have his cell phone number and could call him, but (unbelievably), I won't. He is married, and I won't push those limits of confidentiality. But he reads this board, and knows now that just because I didn't call, doesn't mean it went by without being noticed, or that it was acceptable.
Having said that, I would like to ask all of you lovely pooners out there your opinion on something. According to many reviews, there are more and more sessions going overtime without being paid for. I'm not saying it's wrong, I let it happen all the time, and unless I have obligations after, I usually encourage going over time. But it seems many men believe that if the SP is having a good time and enjoying it as much as the client, that the extra time she gives you doesn't need to be paid for. Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but don't you want the SP, at the very least, to pretend she's enjoying herself and getting into it as much as you are? No one likes a cold SP, and the more receptive she is , the better. By this theory, it seems the better an SP is at her job, the less she is being compensated, with mentions of even getting the sessions for free. And I can't forget to mention my favorite comment from more than one client "You should be paying me."
In my quest to meet and exceed my clients expectations (sorry, too many seminars), I would like to know what the general opinion is on this. Is it up to the SP to ask for more money if the session goes overtime? Would it bother you if she did? Do any of you offer to pay more? Do you think you should have to pay more?