Being Married in the industry

veronica blake

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I've actually wanted to talk about this for a while now but never found the time. Now that I am home in this covid 19 time I have lots more spare time at my finger tips.

If asked directly I do tell men my home situation. But up to this point I have kept being married on the DL. Ive had more then one woman tell me I will ruin my business if men know that I am not eligible beyond there 1/2 hour apt. That part of the allure is possibly one day winning me over and that they could have me to themselves. Now that I am 4 years in I realize that if me being in a loving committed relationship is a reason not to book me then that is not the type of client I am after. I remember my husband telling me back in the day when we were dating when I was around 22/23 years old, that I was the type of woman where one man could never satisfy me and I would always need multiple men through out my life. Little did I know if I was to fast forward a decade later Truer words have never been said. Does him saying this or me being an escort diminish what we have, or make him a lesser man. Absolutely not. I still love him just as much today as I did before a became a pro. If anything I feel I am a better wife, I cherish the times we do have together. I tour and am away from home just about as much as I am at home right now ( well pre covid days) It also makes me a better provider. I have lots of love to give in my heart, I also understand where allot of my married men are coming from as well. Dont get me wrong I have had some of the best sex I have ever had with my husband but I was listening to Russels Peters ( a comedian ) and he hit the nail on the head with this statement : When your married there are 3 positions , the "us" position to get started, the "her" position to get her off and if your lucky you get the third being the "you" position to get you off. I had to laugh so hard because its so true, even though Ive had crazy good sex with my husband, I do get stuck in a comfortable rut like every other married couple and you tend to lean on what works each and every time. Even though Veronica does slip out for him , he defiantly gets more wife sex, although my blow job skills are off the chart now, practice, practice, practice . I totally get why people that are in loving committed relationships still want a safe avenue to let there inner sexy freak out, or just changing it up a bit with a new person that makes new noses and does things slightly different from the same old same old.

I was really worried at first about letting men know im married and off the market like that. But truth be told allot of them dont care or are very happy that I am happy. Or even more to my surprise , they think its super kinky and fun. This career is the best thing ever , but in the same instant can chew you up and spit you out. If I didnt have a stable home environment I dont know if I could be firing on all cylinders for so long like I have , since starting this I have literally been touring away in Alberta 1-2 a times month for the last 4 years. He wants me to do this far away from home bc there is still such an unhealthy stigma towards this industry. I am so glad I am able to live this adventure with all these men that bring so much life and light into my life , dont get me wrong there are times ive being balling in my hotel room by myself wondering what the fuck am I doing. The saying it doesnt get easier, you just get better applies. I am so so so lucky to have my cake and eat it too.

I want to be the most authentic provider I can, and being married in a loving healthy relationship is a huge part of my personality. I really kept it bottled inside for at least a year if not two and it slowly started to slip out threw pillow talk with certain people. So many men have shame and guilt for being in a loving relationship but wanting more sexually. I get it, there are still tons of times the last thing I want to do is have sex at times when I'm home. Life can really get in the way. Not every woman is sexual and its such a HUGE part for men to be sexual. I personally have never believed in monogomy, when there are so many people out there, to confine yourself to just one forever and always..... yuck , no thanks, that is not the life I choose to live. Even before escorting I was in an open relationship with my husband. And let me tell you escorting is a 1000 times better then any civilian guy. I love when clients take the time to research me, I put myself out there in the most authentic way possible so they can make a decision that is best for them. I have spent at this point literally hundreds of hours marketing myself and putting myself out there exactly how I am, I attract the right sort of people that are interested in exactly what I have to offer. So yes I am one spoiled princess, but I have put in the effort, time and work. I would take a client that has done there research any day over a civilian man. I totally get why woman hate dating and always complain about the lack of desirable men. I feel so so so lucky that I am an escort and have clients, I would never ever go back to dating/fucking random men. The amount of respect I get from my clients is 10 fold compared to a silly/stupid civilians.

LOL ok I got a little off track there. As of the last 3 or so weeks I have slowly started mentioning my husband on my twitter and that I am married. This was a conscience decision I did not make lightly. This might not ruin my business but decrease my clientele as your always trying to cast the widest net possible to appeal to the "masses" . You want to appear like the ultimate available fantasy 24/7 ( I swear some men think we are sitting at our in calls playing with our pussys just waiting for a call to come threw) I have a very stable clientele now and allot of confidence in what I bring to the table, and like I said earlyier if this truly bothers men then Im sorry we were not meant to share intimate moments in time together. I have however found I am attracting exactly who I want/need to attract in my life. There is a certain type of clientele I am getting who are fitting in how I could only dream in my wildest dreams. That get and accept this type of polyamorous life style I lead.

Every one comes into this industry for different reasons, expectations, motivations and goals. There is a provider for any price point and skill level, you just need to research research research. Its funny I almost feel like I am "coming out" in a way. That being married in the sex industry is my dirty secrete I have to hold close. There is still so much stigma around sex workers and unfortunately for the bad. That they could not possibly be a stable human being and there is something inherently wrong with them. There is nothing more powerful then a woman that can harness that sexual energy and use it.

I have very clear goals and what I want from this industry in the end. I didn't have these thoughts when I first started but as a grew as a provider and got my feet underneath me, the more it became clear you can really get whatever you want from this industry. I have been flipping over rocks you could say for the last 4 years. I have fucked allot of men in that time, probably more then I would care to imagine... But threw it all I have always gone back to my husband, threw successes in this industry and some pretty devastating times as well. Like once and only once accidentally booking a tour on our anniversary, being newish and not getting any cancelation insurance for the hotel or airfare, realizing you have over $2000 sitting on your credit card for the hotel and flight .... yes I went away and karma did bite me in the ass for sure that day on our anniversary, it will be an apt I will never forget lol feel free to ask me about it in person if you like, it is funny after the fact.

As for the flipping over rocks, if you follow me at all or talk to me in person you know I am looking for a top 10 , dwindled down to a top 5ish over the next few years. All the men knowing my polyamorous life style and fitting into it. And what a better way then to collect men up threw escorting. Don't get me wrong I still am building a very stable career off of 15, hh and hour apts. These are helping me build my dreams in the country. But I will be sharing the best part of my life with my husband and the 5ish men I met threw escorting. The universe has a crazy way of making people meet that were supposed meet. I am open and willing to share so much more to those that are wanting it and fit into this life style. You cannot be afraid or ashamed to ask for what you really want. It will come about in some pretty unique ways if you let it.

Now more then ever I am so very happy/grateful that I am married and back at home during this covid, stay in your house, dont leave, moment in time. I realize for most I am just a fantasy, a good time, a get away from the stresses of life. 95% of the men I see have other priorities in this type of pandemic we are currently in, I am truly the last thing on there mind, although while in my condo during our session they constantly tell me of there un dying love for me and how they would do anything. So that leaves 5% , the top 5 will rise to the top, there are a very very small handful of men that are keeping those lusty promises they made in the heat of the moment. I am glad I don't have to reply on the empty promises of men right now in this troubling time. Now when its appropriate, I can go back to work relatively stress free and be that sex vixen of your dreams, be that for 15 minutes or two hours. It is truly a blessing to be a woman in the position to have her cake and eat it to!

xoxo Veronica Blake xoxo
 

haigum141

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Sounds like you found your dream job. Paid to have sex with thousands of men while you have a husband who is okay with that. Not many people can say the same! Enjoy it because we only get to live once and how you choose to spend your time on this earth and what you decide to focus on can only be decided by you.
 

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Great read Veronica!

Right or wrong, I assume certain things about most escorts. Most likely they are married or have an SO, they have a healthy social life, lots of other interests besides sex, and they only share what they want a client to hear. I'm happy to read how much you enjoy your work, and husband. Very refreshing to hear that Veronica!
 

SeekSteadyRegSP

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If asked directly I do tell men my home situation. But up to this point I have kept being married on the DL. Ive had more then one woman tell me I will ruin my business if men know that I am not eligible beyond there 1/2 hour apt. That part of the allure is possibly one day winning me over and that they could have me to themselves.

I can't even fathom going to an SP appointment with any belief or fantasy of winning-over the SP for my romantic self.

It's all about compartmentalizing, on both sides.


If you yearn to represent a wonderful element of the variety that is out there, to all clients, then fine... but I'd be learning something if you convinced me that there are significant numbers of men (whose oars are all in the water, and who are from, say, North American culture) about which you can read clearly that they yearn to win you over romantically.

Beyond that, your written effort here was completely impressive and I think it does a further job of drawing lines and helping to keep those who will see you compartmentalized so that each of you can get the very most from your hour together.

It does seem somewhat unique to imagine being in your position (but more for an odd double standard inspired by society all around us - that men are expected to be somehow dirtier than women - than for any sensible reason).

Like everyone else, though, you just compartmentalize and keep moving through life.


And considering all of the crazy drama that is so often tethered to the lives of working girls, just maybe it is a very big edge to have a structured support system there at home (instead of dysfunction or "daddy" ).

Good job, Veronica!
 
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zippy45

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honestly, who cares? do people think the are fucking a mom??
serioualy who gives a fuck
 

OneLuckyGuy

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Wow Veronica, what a great read. I've always wondered about what it would be like to be married to an SP and you've certainly shed some light on it from the female side. For me, there is never a chance I expect more from the lady I'm visiting other than an hour of carnal delight. If the SP is married it would make no difference at all. It's all about attitude. Good luck on pursuing/fulfilling your dream and hats off to your husband for understanding/accepting your hedonistic traits. I'm so glad you are in Vancouver Island. I will be definitely look you up when COVID-19 is over. Take care.
 

veronica blake

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My husband is a 100% allowed to see other woman. He has also paid a few of my escort friends back at home for a few dates. Dating a civilian can be complicated and messy , also I find most woman are intimidated by me once they find out who I am , and one he dated for 3 or 4 month became more and more passively aggressive towards me and the life style I choose to live with my husband, both at home and working life, to the point where she would follow my burlesque social media as well as get her kids to follow my instagram for burlesque and I eventually had to delete it.

So in all honesty I would much prefer him to pay for an escorts time once or twice a month where there are clear boundaries for both partys, also the amount of professionalism from an escort is 10 fold to a regular civilian woman. You honestly get more of what you desire then a big long dick around. Yes technically civilan woman's time is free, but the hassle attached to it is not necessarily worth it. ( from my humble experience with him dating)


But the more constructively busy I can keep my husband and "occupied" the more time I have to do what I want. So I am all for him getting it in! Although he is still the only bare dick I let in me and visa vera , so there is marriage "perks" you could say ...

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Now the question is: Are you ok if your husband has sex with other women (including paying for escorts)?
 

islander1-1

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Good read Veronica... Good on you, for being out front with this. I do know of at least 3 of my fave escorts have partners... One is married, and very secret about it. I just happened to trip over it. The other has a partner, and opened up to it with me after about 5 or 6 visits. I had asked about a MMF and she had a good suggestion... We have never looked back. The third refereed to it in mentioned it in conversation on a mutual interest subject we had.
 

Stamkos

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Great read Veronica, thank you for sharing.

I don’t think you need to worry about potentially losing clients given your newly declared status. I would venture that you will be on many new TDL’s given your obvious physical beauty along with the honesty and confidence you’ve exhibited with your share.

Take good care, be safe.
 

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As a client, I've always assumed the attractive woman I'm seeing has someone in her life. I've never needed to question her, she's never needed to question me.
 

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My husband is a 100% allowed to see other woman. He has also paid a few of my escort friends back at home for a few dates. Dating a civilian can be complicated and messy , also I find most woman are intimidated by me once they find out who I am , and one he dated for 3 or 4 month became more and more passively aggressive towards me and the life style I choose to live with my husband, both at home and working life, to the point where she would follow my burlesque social media as well as get her kids to follow my instagram for burlesque and I eventually had to delete it.

So in all honesty I would much prefer him to pay for an escorts time once or twice a month where there are clear boundaries for both partys, also the amount of professionalism from an escort is 10 fold to a regular civilian woman. You honestly get more of what you desire then a big long dick around. Yes technically civilan woman's time is free, but the hassle attached to it is not necessarily worth it. ( from my humble experience with him dating)


But the more constructively busy I can keep my husband and "occupied" the more time I have to do what I want. So I am all for him getting it in! Although he is still the only bare dick I let in me and visa vera , so there is marriage "perks" you could say ...

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Sounds like you guys are in a win-win situation. I totally agree with you on paying for escorts because of clear boundaries. Dating civilian women isn't really "free" in the sense that it requires more time and emotional investment, and it may have unwanted strings attached.

Thanks for sharing.
 

Foggy

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Thanks for sharing Veronica! I love to see things from the other side. While I have to admit that there’s an element of fantasy in thinking I might sweep an SP off her feet, that’s all it really is. A brief moment of fantasy. In my heart I know most of these women have partners whether male or female and sometimes even children. And that’s OK. I’m there for my hour of fantasy.

I appreciate a provider more though when I know that she has a happy stable life and she is doing this work because she WANTS to and not because she NEEDS to. I think it’s great that you’ve found your perfect job AND your perfect partner. Many would be envious.
 

perbal rain

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I definitely never had the fantasy of a provider being single and available to me, if anything I enjoy the opposite. I love it when a provider tells me they're in a committed relationship, and the fact that they're attached and secure enough in their relationship to engage in sexwork is a turn on for me. I never ask personal questions though, it's up to her if she feels like mentioning anything about her civy life.
 

florenceyi

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Fucking AMAZING post Veronica! I wanted to follow you on Twitter but I can't seem to find you - please add me!!!

I absolutely applaud you on your coming out here - what a courageous and valiantly bold statement. I know plenty of successful providers throughout my many years in the swer industry who hide their boyfriends/husbands from their clients and from their marketing and I know how much of a toll that can be anecdotally. Curtsy to you!!
 
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