What are the ins and outs of on line dateing sites

I have not been on here much in that last few years and haven't seen an escort for over 2 and half year . I guess not too uncommon for me . But part was due to having cancer on my chin , which is gone , left a scare that I can live with, compared to the alternative. It gas left me a little more self concious and not wanting to see new girls.
I have looked at a few local escort adds and maybe there is a few I would like to see but it us not like the old day when girl were more acting on perb and lots of choises And for me late I drove for agencies and met done great girls that way and got to know them before seeing them.

I am 65 now and started seeing escort just after turning 50, tried to make up for my lack of experience , because I never dated or any thing else before.
Well through the course of seeing different girls I would find a few regular and also found a few friend. I had 4 or five girls that have been friends for the last 12 to 14 yrs . They must moved on into none sex work and they turned in to good platonic relationships. I might get to gether with them some times , dinner or texting dayly or weekly that keeps us in touch . But thing do change and some of their lives have had bad ups and downs.

A few months a go the one friend that I saw the most of on resent year texted dayly with and maybe got out for a bite to eat or movie , she suddenly passed away.
It has been a sad time for me remembering her every day and regretting that I could not of helped her more .

That's what's got me looking at these dating sites again.
I had registered with Secret Benafit a while back and look through it . Got some text but only today did I get some coin to check out there messages. On one had I dont think i can afford the sugar daddy game
I may of put out $$$ to see my favorit escort for 2 hrs at a pop in my active days but that's not the case today.

I'll look at some of the message maybe the hidden picture , might be all I can afford lol.
Now the other day I signed up for Mydates and wonder what experiance others have had there.
I have replied to a few messages out of 30 or so that I got from different women of all ages from 21 to 70.

I picked one because of her simple question " Am I cute. Yes on No.
Could not resist , hot some coins and answered .messaging is expensive $10 for 500 credit and it 50 credits a message , so you need to cramp a lot into them . But she only asked simple quest and told me nothing about herself in the 8 or so message we shared and I think we have parted. I do like her she was 36 but not sure.

This morning I replied to some one else who is 23 she messaged me twice wondering why I have not responded.
That seems to be a theme with most women that message me , the second message is asking why I have not messaged them back , or claiming it's fake. And other comments to try to get a response.
I am trying to figure out how many of these girls a planted just to get guys to pay for messages because there are no free messages on this site.
I have put out $30 so far for credits and message with the new girl a little today not getting very far. ��

I might just be very good at being g attracted to fake girls . Oh and in there profile there us no personal info to give a guy any idea of what thay are like .I put a bunch of info in my profile but they dont seem to read it
Even stated I could not message everyone that messaged because it was cost prohibitive.

Now the other side if this is I only know girl that were escort I am the most comfortable with them because we know each other and where we have been in and we can
be open about and are open minded about the business and peoples sexuality. Unlike most people and thats where I dont even know I'd I fit with people from these so call strait dating sites, all though I am sure there are so escorts on there to like mist dating sites I have seen in the past.
So just dropping this out there what are you thought on the whole dam thing

That's my phone number.
I'll be honest at this point I am getting crazy by my phone notification every time some one looks at my profile likes my profile or message me and then message me later upset that I have not messaged them back right away . It seem the wo.en are very hungry for any new meat that is put on the plate..I am not use to that , weather it is fake women or not..
I saw escorts partly be cause I made the choise and I was in control of who I saw or wanted to see. Of course it was allway up to the girls if they wanted to see me. But a good part if it was I was paying for a service , be coming friends made it easier for both. But in the end being g friend made it awkward for the girls and thats all I am to them .
Actually dating is scary when tryi g to do it in line I dont like it .And that just after 2 day.
I can see where so e better looking guys can get who every they want from these site if my experiance is any indacation. I never did very well the old fashion way of meeting g people in the real world but I still was able to get more comfortable with waitresses, or store clerks it just took time and I chose to try.

Nice to here from you guys too you always have stories ftom an interesting life.
I not sure what I am looking for on this mydates but have been daluged with women denting message and I just cant answer them back because it 1 dollar a message.
I have stuck with one at a time and explained that to a few that I would of like to meet with . But I dont think it fair to be engaged in message more then one at a time .that's the way I am and when I saw escort I usually stuck with one as a regular until they could not make appointment regularly or we just became friends. And then got put in the "friend "catagey lol.
The one I am messaging with is a pretty 36 yr old Asia lady not sure if I will be a situation are not she sounds like she gas come her for a companion prob more. Still dont know much of the story she is very causious or it a or it is a scam..
Never the less I not going to keep messaging a 1 dollar a pop I need to get her to text on the phone so we can take and send pictures just to prove she is really who she says she is.
But I admit it is scary just found the girls I saw through the yrs a lot Easier for my introverted nature

I had looked at some of those other site 7 or 8 yrs ago , wow been that long a go, any way yes I noticed a lot of inactive account and the ladies were not messaging guys back them unless it was just to get you signed up , then nothing after you payed your money.
Mydate is different . There is no sign up fee and the ladies are looking and messaging way to much .YES you have to bu credits to see the message and pay for every message . It is a dollar (50 credits)a message but you can buy as much or as little as you want.
And no hassel to close your account., like those other sites.

Of course this threads is about the ins and outs of dating site so I will continue with my thoughts on it.
I never have been good at talking with women in getting a date sence. I was just friendly to the store clerk I would see a few times a week or the waitress at the pub or restraunt that I would go to daily. Yes I was attracted to a few , but I would get very nervous, all most paralyzed
When trying to get to know zone one better and asking them out , usually I could not go there .But I made an acquaintance of one in 30 yrs. Then it was on to strip clubs and made one friend there in 4yrs . And it was after that I got into seeing escort.
And truth is I just found it far easier talking to girls that work in the business . Prob it was that I was in control by paying even though I know they could say no , and the other part was that I was comfortable being naked with another naked person . It just seemed being g the most honest and open with some one , and we knew what we were there for.
Dating is a lot different . Too many games and even here on the dating site there are lots of women there for multable reasons. Some Looking for some guy just to pay there way , others lonely and then the ones that want sex.

You have to weed through it and that comes back to my inability to be that comfortable talking openly with women and playing the game. Even though it is easier just messaging or texting g sone one , I will say some things that I would not if I was in person. That is because we really dont kniw the person until we actually meet them and 90% of the ladies that contact you you will never meet .Although I think I am better at it then 14 years ago. But I am not out there to take advantage of any one and dont want them to try to take advantage of with me no drama please I have been there on both counts as I think many of us have been .

Any others with some positive or negative about their dating sites.
I also am on secret benafits and read a few of the short messages from the girls another one where you have to pay to read the message but at least you can message with them for free after. Of course that to nagosiate what they want and what you are willing to pay.
Personally I cant afford any arrangement for a few thousand a month maybe a few hundred for a few hours in the month or some casual time for a walk and dinner. I have not approched any on that .
As for Mydates that still up in the air I think I am really good at getting g hooked by the scams or plates , what ever they call them . Message with another young girl to day sone one that has been persistent about me messagi g them. So I tried to see if she would just be comfortable texting on our phone and talking .
No . It seem to be all about safety and getti gvto know some one through messaging. Personally I dont think you can know a perfect stranger by anonymous messages. And spending $100 on finding out nothing .
What mist start off with is calling you sweety, baby, there honey. And very few if any are using there real name . Hiw does that make trust develop.

I have to say after reading g a bunch of reviews on mydates where 95 % were negative. I got to conclude i allowed my self to be take when some thing just told me this is a scam My first pick sucked me in and she is a fake.
Some further looking on line and there are actual adds for companies that hire girls or guys to flurry on line for money. Do nothing they say is really serious. And then there are the boys that seem to be very sophisticated these days .
So even those I may of found some one real and there could be light women there , the prettiest. Sexiest and the ones that seem to good to be true are the one that message you first and are fake.
There are lots of 45 yr old and up , had 2 or three kids. And then there us this strang group from Anmore a place north if port moody. A bunch of single 40 something no kids. All congregating in one village looking for a 65 yrs old guy from Victoria. I feel a little stupid for sure.

Just a bit of an up date on this thread.
I have found the whole experiance unsatisfactory.
I stuck with mydatesand basically concerned it is a scam in alm sences of the word. And that was concerned by just reading the terms of services. In the terms it starts that the parent company of mydates hires " animators and chat operators to promotes chat fir entertainment purposes" Ahh so they hire people to chat with client to get them to but credits to continue to chat with a fake profile. Sounds like fraud to me.
That is,exactly what I got caught up in even those I had stated earlier thats thought was going . I still was hoping, but still got taken.
I have since taken everything g off my profile ,no picture ,no info at all accept I am 65 and in Victoria. Guess what happened. I get a lot of looks from women from vancouver to prince rupert, Calgary, grand prairie,,Vernon and the odd repeat from victoria and north cowichen. I still got message ,even though there is no info or picture, say how they like my profile, they think I am sexy, and why am I not returning their message. Sone have asked to see a picture. They might be real but they are from Calgary. I suspect that mistv if not all of the first messages are robbed messages and then an operator follows up with some message say how disappointed they are I did not message them ,or how rude. Any thing to try to get a response.

The 3 girls I did get hooked by seemed good at their job lol they kept going when i knew better.I revieled a lot of my self to them in long paragraph, and they respond with one sentence and maybe a question to keep it going. When ever I tried to get info from them I would get a snipit,like I sell beauty supplies or i have to careful input who i meet i had bad situations befor. I basicky got lots,of cage info and found out that none were ftom victoria as they claim ,because they never gave me any info that I asked for. One I asked about what was going on at Mackenzie and the high was , what buildings were in the inner harbour. She answers I am new here came from Florida. When I asked did she fly or drive. She says I dont like flying and I doubt drive but I am here now. I just have to say Wow. At that point I told her about the scam that was going on.. and she says" why would i be doing that , i would have to be an idiot,what if i am, what are you doing here". That was a conformation in my book.
The two girls I talked the longest to I also mentioned the scam part one said not listen to it and she will allway be with me. The other asked me if had ever been scammed . I told here about different ine I have seen and I had been scammed by the other girls on my dates and of course she assuredness she was real .Never could conferm she wa in Victoria. I don't think any of them were because since I stopped talking ,which was quit abruptly, since them I have gormt a few text saying"how are you doing over there " .Right they are not in my city maybe not even in north America.

Just an addition I changed my location to New York and later LA. You should see the beautiful girls in the list of profiles. All fake profiles using model,actress or porn star photos. On a number of page that came up they used 10 different poses by the same person for different profiles on, and then there was Jessica alba's picture up also lol.atvleast here in the back wood thry were not do blatant at being fake.

But when it comes down to it.it is lies ,deception and promoting fraud because they are using all this to get you to buy credits to keep taliking to a fake person . And the girl might be a male or your granny and Visa versa for any women that is,in there looking for a genuine connection.
I strait out Said I was looking to some one to meet with and go out with. They all lied about it .