Back in '97, I had just broken up for good with a Japanese girl. She was the first girl I had ever truly loved. I still love her to this day. There's nothing between us now except a deep friendship, even to this day. It was tumultous relationship, with a lot of hardship during it. After she went back to Japan, I don't know what it was, but Japanese girls were sniffing me left & right & asking me out on dates, it was sick!
There was one girl in particular...maybe her "husband" might be a member...if he is...he can go stick his finger where the sun don't shine (because he was a jealous jerk & she was scared of him).
We met earlier in the year of 1997 while doing "language exchange", a great way to meet people, learn a language, & if you're saavy or with some people, really really desperate, a great way to date women from other countries. Most of the students wanting to learn English at that time were Japanese, Korean & Chinese. I was learning Japanese, so it was only natural that I met many Japanese people.
Anyway, this girl, I'll call her "ko", because so many Japanese girls' names end with "ko", ie. Junko, Hiroko, etc.
Ko & I were very comfortable with each other both in a professional scene & in a casual scene. I asked her out one night (without the intention of pursuing a relationship with her) to go to a party. Anyway, after the party, she confronted me & asked me, "What do you think of me?"...I said something like "I think you're a nice girl", yadda yadda. She was like "chigaou" ("wrong" or "I didn't mean it that way"...). So she went out of Japanese character and blurted "Do you like me?" I was stunned. Ko was a really attractive girl & several years older than me (I was 21 & she was 26 I think). I told her I think she's a great girl & all, but I was in no way ready for a relationship at that time. Obviously she was hurt. I had a hard time getting a hold of her shortly thereafter.
That summer I went to Asia. I left in June & after returning, I thought I'd see how Ko was doing. I passed by her work & found out she was still working there. I returned another day & saw her. She was stunned, but I could tell she was overjoyed (to put it mildly) to see me. She told me she had a boyfriend though. They had met at a party that June (shortly after I left for Asia!)
We chatted a few times on the phone & each time, she had to hang up when her boyfriend was around. Strange eh? That November (1997), her boyfriend wanted to meet me. She was supposedly in Japan visiting a sick relative. We ended up meeting in a restaurant. He seemed nice & said it was cool for us to be friends. BUT...I called once more after that & he told me they got married! He changed his mind & didn't want me talking to her anymore! He even said on the phone, "You got it?!". I was stunned. I said sure at the time...If it had been now, it would have been a much different situation...
WTF is the point of this story? Well...here was a girl who was probably out to marry me for a visa...couldn't get me because I was still healing from a previous relationship. She found another guy...who ended up treating her like crap. They supposedly got married & she went back to Japan. I hope she didn't come back to Canada. That jealous bastard can stick five digits where the jungle is lush & the sun don't shine...
Who knows if she liked me even for a bit for my personality & charm & the fact that I was (& believe that I still am) overall a nice guy.
So yeah buddy out there, a big FUCK YOU! She might have been a user, but you were an abuser! I HOPE SHE LEFT YOUR SORRY ASS!