Why do you visit a lady?

Why do you visit a lady?

  • stress release

    Votes: 5 7.2%
  • relaxation

    Votes: 7 10.1%
  • pleasure

    Votes: 36 52.2%
  • temptation (like her look or description)

    Votes: 12 17.4%
  • out of habit

    Votes: 1 1.4%
  • other

    Votes: 8 11.6%

  • Total voters
    69

take8easy

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Because I am a man and all men want to be with as many women as they want. That is my belief and I am sticking to it.
 

Miss Hunter

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I think “Why do you visit ladies?” would be a more appropriate title.

Because men are sluts.
 

Newb808

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Feb 12, 2019
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Biologically wired to spread the seed around like a dandelion puff in the wind
This ^ is the underlying reason lol. I’m not mature, patient or available enough to partake in a serious give and take relationship, and yeah I like(all just instinct and biology, thanks Miss H) variety. I don’t do the local bar scene and I am seldom allured by my prospects from online casual sex platforms. Aside from carnal indulgence/gratification, I enjoy the company of females I can unabashedly discuss pretty much anything and live out my fantasies with as well. Being that I don’t have a “real” lover, I enjoy feeling appreciated when repeating with favourites or especially after giving a decent gift every now and then.
 

GAdventurer

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Curiosity at first, to be honest. Though curiosity is a slow boil event for me. Initially the will be something in a posting that causes me to pause, perhaps read the posting again, look through the images again. The pause cause may be in the words, the phrases or the images. . . . . haven't figured that one out. As time moves along, and the most important thing is that a second (and more) posting also cause that pause.

When I notice a pattern in my reactions, I'll drop a short complementary note, short introduction, draw attention the posting that ensnared me and why, wish them a pleasant day (or stay if they are traveling plus a safe and uneventful trip home), and sign off.

I have been gifted with some excellent, usually short, email exchanges with very interesting women.

Finally, should I be able to make my long and arduous way to Van I'll bring up the idea of meeting.

So, Vanessa, why do I see theses ladies? By the time I am actually able to see them we have established a bit of a repour. Meeting her, though still imbued with nervous tension, excitement and a schwack of unknowns feels more like meeting an acquaintance than a stranger = warmer intimacy, increased level of trust, a more authentic lover experience.

A bit wordy and I wandered of topic a bit. My thoughts anyway.
 

Jethro Bodine

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Beverly Hills. In the Kitchen eatin' vittles.
Out of the options I chose relaxation but for me that also includes stress release and pleasure.
My visits are all about leaving my real world at the door. Not in a way where I take on a fake persona but all the stress, demands, duties, responsibilities, etc.
Its an hour or 2 where I can kick off my shoes, turn off my phone, uncork a bottle of wine and the only 2 people on the planet are the lady and myself.
While the session itself can often leave me wobbly in the knees or looking forward to bedtime ;), I leave energized and refreshed.
I really notice it in my attitude, interpersonal reactions and personality in the days following a visit.

Cheers
J
 

OneLuckyGuy

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^^^^^^
Exactly what JB said. Captured my views perfectly. Although a hedonist at heart it is equally more enjoyable if my companion at the time shares in the same pleasure.
 

johnnydepth

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Other. To explore sexual options not readily available in my daily life. Different ethnicities, suicide girl types, kink, etc.. Now I can happily say been there, done that.
 

oktrythis

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Other. Straight up. Because I want it and she's willing to offer it. And, I have the cash.

OTT.
 

Dick Ford

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I love being a sexual person again, and all the intimacy that goes with it -- touching, cuddling, talking, sharing memories, and generally letting my guard down in a safe, non-judgmental environment.
 

grizzly

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https://youtu.be/r7xLfeTytns

Watch this video and it will explain why a lot of men seek out providers. I've been doing this for many years and I knew that often times the connection with a lady was more memorable than the sex, but I didn't know why. This lady really sums it up.
 

Robert Audley

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I think “Why do you visit ladies?” would be a more appropriate title.

Because men are sluts.
Not necessarily. There are those with enough insecurities that "visiting a lady" is easier. And that doesn't make them sluts. For instance.

I myself don't like to hurt people (emotionally) and don't like to be hurt, so "visiting a lady" is a pretty safe, noncommittal, clean-cut transaction. I guess that one belongs to "other" in the poll.
 
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sensualsixty

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Encounters - not necessarily sexual

https://youtu.be/r7xLfeTytns

Watch this video and it will explain why a lot of men seek out providers. I've been doing this for many years and I knew that often times the connection with a lady was more memorable than the sex, but I didn't know why. This lady really sums it up.
I am reminded of an encounter with an SP in Toronto many years ago. She told me she had met a gentleman from Winnipeg for an encounter - and he found it so satisfying that he made multiple return trips from Winnipeg to see her. Sex was a very minor part of their encounters. This tends to confirm the thesis of the Ted Talk.

sensualsixty
 
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Shanghai

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Probably just “variety” in the massive menu of choices to fulfill that basic need.

One unexpected beneficial side effect is the elimination of fear of encounters such as approaching a super hot chick that is way out of your league and giving her the “look”, then nailing her. So, at work for example, when there is a super hot chick at the water cooler, you are now in her league and can speak to her with confidence.

Another added added benefit is you can see other guys that are clearly trapped in their routine and are socially prevented from seeing hookers to relieve stress so they can get better sex than that they are getting at home, I don’t have that constraint so people do treat you differently because of the clear absence of this stress.

The poll is missing lots of choices. Plus, the radio buttons should be check boxes. The missing choices include human connection, just quietly hugging, mental stimulation, pain relief (massage), or “because it’s cheaper than marriage”, and therapy.

The TedX talk was a bit of a hoot. Only a woman could make such a talk, because the business and social model for men being sex workers that women would pay for does not exist. Yes, men have such emotional needs that can be met far better by a sex worker / slash / therapist. She’s a hot little number that looks like she would be fun in the sack. She forgot to say her rates.

She didn’t specify the hours and amounts she made off repeat clients and display the empirical data that typically goes along with supporting the theory that a sex worker makes a fabulous therapist (where apparently, no training in the therapy field is needed). This to me is a bit like the fox telling the hens in the house how much better off they will be by continually contracting from said fox, various unspecified much-needed services.

if you go by reading perb, few guys ever find “the” magic provider that provides all their sex AND emotional needs, so that hiring other workers is no longer necessary. That is what being married is like (perhaps cheaper if the cost of a divorce is factored in)

Paying the hoes is more like having choices, like what food to eat, picking a different restaurant to go to, such as fast food at McDonalds, sushi ordered in via skip-the-dishes, Chinese, you name it. Blow job one day, have a girl over for tacos and sex overnight another day, Netflix beer and anal, a slippery 2-hour nuru massage, a 3-way, just visiting and listening to music and hugging. A bad day at work is instantly remedied by a good quick romp in the sack for 30 minutes, not having to worry about the overhead of “conversation”, then off to home to the wife and kids and the three-legged dog.

Each person has a different quality that fulfills a different area of need for a particular day. If you listen to the 400-year old writings of Miyamoto Musashi from Kumamoto, such pursuit of selfish pleasure is not a recipe for happiness. Bandaging actual holes and treating it with sex is probably like going to a quack chiropractor that fixes you just fine for a month, but you have to keep going back for more adjustments.

Back the TedX sex worker talk, and she throws in the bit about the murders and suicides. My bet is those individuals are not the ones that have $200/hr to give to a hooker to relieve their stress. Quite possibly, these sorts of individual that sex workers who do have therapeutic skills plus great sex skills may not want the really messed up people as clients. Plus the messed up guys can‘t afford a decent providers rates.

My experience is it the women that are the ones that ”need” the connection aspect far more than men. Extremely rarely do I encounter someone interesting enough to talk to (that I can afford) that I would devote the remaining 15 minutes of my hour to have deep personal conversations with. The girls that realize they can set their price are the ones who have figured out how precisely how to attract quality individuals who have the financial means. There no school for that as there is for therapy.
 

theimp

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I think “Why do you visit ladies?” would be a more appropriate title.

Because men are sluts.
Slut and proud. I encourage, all people, to free themselves from the shackles of inhibition and release their inner slut. Walk proudly through a life of hedonistic exploration.
On a base level, it is true, men are sluts, myself included. However, I think Vanessa may be asking, why does one see a particular lady, over all the other lovely, options. For myself, it depends on my mood. I have varied tastes. Perhaps a doe eyed, ingenue, innocence corrupted is a favorite fantasy scenario, or a mature, worldly hedonist, who may show me something new, or a bratty princess, so much fun to punish. My all time, favorite is the unabashed kinkster, I appreciate and respect the honesty.
I am fairly, careful about who I see as I am far from rich. I save for weeks, sometimes months, depending on what kind of session I am seeking. There have even been a couple of ladies that I have (so far) restrained myself from seeing, deeming them too perfectly suited to my tastes, the irresistibles, impish kryptonite, if you will.
The elements that must be present, no matter my mood, are intelligence and honesty. I have seen ads for "bimbos" and while I get the physical appeal, I need to connect on an intellectual level.
 

cruefan

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I visit mostly to enjoy the company of a beautiful woman.

It is all about mutual respect, great conversation, fun and having a fantastic time.
 
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