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Schweps

N00b P00ner
Aug 29, 2019
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Hiya folks!

Long time lurker here, finally decided to come and have fun with the rest of the you. As a n00b to all this (except for one glorious night in Amsterdam 10 years ago), I wanted to hear about how y'all keep discrete when living with an SO. I would imagine it would be slightly suspect if you came home smelling of heaven, and hell would surely be soon to follow.

So, any tips, tricks, lifehacks from our pooning veterans?

p.s. if you say that your SO joins you in your adventures, please know that I will smash my computer with jealousy. Then I will demand to know your secret. That is all.
 

604jbear

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I am fortunate that I have my wife's permission to see SPs. It started when we used to fight a lot about the frequency of sex we were having - she was perfectly happy/satisfied having sex once/month whereas I was obviously not. After some discussion, she agreed to do some exploration - we started off going for couple's erotic massages and going with me to see dommes, which she actually enjoyed. We did this for about a year or two, and our marriage was much happier. She came to understand how the lack of sex affected me and realized that I had no desire to find another life partner - after that, she gave me her blessing to see SPs on my own. Unfortunately, I have not yet been able to convince her to join me for a FS session with a SP - she keeps saying she will think about it if the right person comes along - but just hasn't happened yet. I'll be honest - life is MUCH easier without having to hide it from her - don't have to make excuses where I am going on a Sunday morning for 2 hours, lol
 

sensualsixty

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Nov 26, 2007
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Hi Schweps: Have you decided on make and model of your new computer? My wife joined me in quite a few adventures. My secret? I picked the right woman to be my wife.
 

badbadboy

Well-known member
Nov 2, 2006
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Couple of things come to mind:

Take your own shower soap with you so you don’t come home smelling different.

Pay everything in cash and don’t keep receipts. If you get a hotel room, book it with a credit card and settle the account in cash.

Get a ‘burner phone’. Search it in this Lounge area and there are numerous discussions about burner phones.

If you share a computer at home, never search anything Pooning related on it. Either have your own computer, tablet or smart phone. Have robust passwords on any device. When not in use, turn off the power.
I say this because a guy got caught when asleep because his SO placed his thumb on his phone allowing her to lock herself in the bathroom to have a good read.

Easiest way to get caught is being lazy covering your tracks.
 

Schweps

N00b P00ner
Aug 29, 2019
19
1
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Dreamland
Hi Schweps: Have you decided on make and model of your new computer? My wife joined me in quite a few adventures. My secret? I picked the right woman to be my wife.
Well now you tell me! That would have been useful information about 12 years ago, where the hell were you then???

@604jbear That's essentially the boat we're in, although there is a medical component as well. Even after so many years together, she's still terrified that even the thought of me exploring would result in my leaving. For me, it's a service through and through, no different than massage or counseling (sometimes both eh?), which is why the level of stigma confuses me. Good on you guys for that level of trust in your marriage!
 

Schweps

N00b P00ner
Aug 29, 2019
19
1
3
Dreamland
Couple of things come to mind:

Take your own shower soap with you so you don’t come home smelling different.

Pay everything in cash and don’t keep receipts. If you get a hotel room, book it with a credit card and settle the account in cash.

Get a ‘burner phone’. Search it in this Lounge area and there are numerous discussions about burner phones.

If you share a computer at home, never search anything Pooning related on it. Either have your own computer, tablet or smart phone. Have robust passwords on any device. When not in use, turn off the power.
I say this because a guy got caught when asleep because his SO placed his thumb on his phone allowing her to lock herself in the bathroom to have a good read.

Easiest way to get caught is being lazy covering your tracks.
The soap thing is freaking great, I didn't even think about that. I usually use fragrance free everything, so any additional scents could be a giveaway.

Also, OOF that guy getting caught... This is why I sand off my fingerprints before going to sleep at night.
 

clu

Active member
Oct 3, 2010
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Vancouver
Pay everything in cash and don’t keep receipts. If you get a hotel room, book it with a credit card and settle the account in cash.
That's not foolproof. Online banking for my credit card shows pending transactions which includes all authorisations. Any time I reserve a hotel (lots of business travel) it would show up as a pending authorisation. I know that you can use Visa gift cards for a lot of online services (e.g. Expedia) that need credit cards. Their limits aren't spectacular but I believe you can link multiple cards to a single PayPal account to pool them.
 

Sphubby

Living the Life
Jan 21, 2015
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Vancouver
I am also lucky and in the same boat as 604jbear,sensualsixty and can partiake as I see fit with or without my SO joining in.

Now little off topic but you would think that would be standard if your SO is a SP but believe me it isn't. I know 2 couples that the wife is SP and the guy is not allowed to see other ladies, sp's or otherwise. The thought process behind it, she does it for work and for him its just for fun. I guess I can see that point except when work is also fun lol.

I know of my half dozen or so LT relationships over the years (2 failed marriages) only two would ever allow a open relationship. (one being my current relationship) They are far and few between. The not having to worry about hiding it is the best situation like we have but most don't have that option.

One suggestion is (and it worked once for me) mentioning to your wife that you have a friend and his wife that go to a lifestyle party's. See what her reaction is to it. If you happen to know someone that does its even better. (pm me lol) You just never know, funnier things have happened. In my current relationship I brought it up every 6 months for about 2 years before she agreed to check it out. 2 years after that she became a sp. Funny how things work out sometimes. Not having to lie or constantly coverup is a relief and makes for a happier life.
 

cr_tallguy

Laid-back Member
Aug 9, 2015
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Campbell River
So, any tips, tricks, lifehacks from our pooning veterans?
The ones I found most useful were to find a hobby that gives you a reason to be out of the house, and to stick to a routine, like always coming home at the same time (so leave work early to go meet that special lady).


If it's infidelity tips and tricks you're looking for, the internet is your friend. Here is a sampling to whet your appetite:

https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/8gdgwg/the-vice-guide-to-infidelity
https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/life/782956/marital-affair-excuses
https://www.cheatingspousepi.com/cheating_spouse_tips
 

masterblaster

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May 19, 2004
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I have been dating an SP for a few months now. She told me a while ago she better not find out I paid someone for sex while I’m getting for free from her.
 

jgg

In the air again.
Apr 14, 2015
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Thehouse

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Apr 26, 2017
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I have been dating an SP for a few months now. She told me a while ago she better not find out I paid someone for sex while I’m getting for free from her.
I had been getting involved with an SP a while back and she said she didn't like me to have other girls. First I thought"are you kidding?" she sees other guys all the time. Then realized she was serious about me and her customers were just a source of income. I couldn't really handle it very well and we had many arguments. I still think about her now and then.
 

volvoguy1979

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Nov 4, 2017
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I had been getting involved with an SP a while back and she said she didn't like me to have other girls. First I thought"are you kidding?" she sees other guys all the time. Then realized she was serious about me and her customers were just a source of income. I couldn't really handle it very well and we had many arguments. I still think about her now and then.
LOL you wouldn't be alone with that point of view!

Seriously, she does it multiple times a day with several different people for money and expects you to just see her.
I'm pretty sure she probably had a few other "clients" she used that tactic with.
It's a great way to ensure a steady stream of income from a select few rather than always having to see new clients.
 

Thehouse

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Apr 26, 2017
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LOL you wouldn't be alone with that point of view!

Seriously, she does it multiple times a day with several different people for money and expects you to just see her.
I'm pretty sure she probably had a few other "clients" she used that tactic with.
It's a great way to ensure a steady stream of income from a select few rather than always having to see new clients
.
Isn’t that the truth.
 

Miss Hunter

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Aug 30, 2013
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I had been getting involved with an SP a while back and she said she didn't like me to have other girls. First I thought"are you kidding?" she sees other guys all the time. Then realized she was serious about me and her customers were just a source of income. I couldn't really handle it very well and we had many arguments. I still think about her now and then.
Were you still paying?
 

Miss Hunter

ProSwitch
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Aug 30, 2013
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I can tolerate pooning as long as its done strictly as a recreational activity, and done safely. I prefer leaving things open because honesty is what is most important to me. But open relationships aren't for the faint of heart. And every open relationship will have different rules. It's not a free for all. You should take the other persons feelings into consideration in regards to your actions.
 
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