Rude members who ask for info

stinkynuts

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There have been many times that after posting a review, a member (some with very few posts) will ask me about the sp. I'm not not sure why they need to pm me rather than post in the thread so that everyone can benefit from the answer.

What pisses me off more is that they will ask without any etiquette:

"What was the rate?" or "How tall was she? instead of "Can you tell me how tall she is? Thanks."

Then some will ask multiple questions, maybe three or four in different pms.

And to top it all off, these assholes don't even thank me after all of my responses.

Sorry, just had to vent. There are too many inconsiderate people who are leeching off this board. I try to contribute as much as possible because I am benefitting from this board. And I don't really mind the lurkers who never contribute to reviews, even though they should if they are using the board. But the worst of the worst are those who never contribute and ask me questions rudely in pms, and don't even thank me.
 

westcoastrider1982

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Jul 16, 2011
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Yup! Welcome to the wonderful world of perb!
I try to contribute as much as possible too, but only poon maybe once a month.
Only time I don’t review is when I’ve been told about girls through pm and asked not to share about them because of all the leaches on here.
What grinds my gears is that I’m sure there’s people on here that poon all the time and don’t share anything!
 

MissingOne

awake but not woke
Jan 2, 2006
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I have been asked quite personal, even intimate questions by PM, with no explanation of the reason why the questioner would want to know. I don't reply, period.
 

Finewine60

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Jan 20, 2019
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I guess I am lucky as all the people who have PM me are quite reasonable and nice.
 

take8easy

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Jul 27, 2014
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Seems like more and more members are pming soon after I post a review. And I agree if they asked the question in the thread, more members would benefit.

But I don’t necessarily take their brief way of asking a question as rude or their lack of etiquette. You are free not to reply. But I almost always do.
 

Cock Throppled

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Oct 1, 2003
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Upstairs
It's not perb, it's the world.

The level of assholiness rises in direct proportion to the ease of communication technology.

You're welcome.
 

lukom

Bobs and Vagenes Poacher
Dec 8, 2010
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I feel like this might have been me in my 20's when I was new in this review board and perhaps messaging people or more so commenting on the post. I am sorry if anyone ever received such a message from me ever at any point. I don't share as much as others do, but I will chime in on a review, or on a 411 post... but I generally end up sharing more with people who privately ask me politely as I don't like to go into a series of details publicly on the forum.


It's not perb, it's the world.

The level of assholiness rises in direct proportion to the ease of communication technology.

You're welcome.
This is exactly what I was thinking. It's an epidemic, an attitude of entitlement, and it's demonstrated differently from culture to culture.

I say don't reward it by giving them what they want, either ignore, or give them a half ass answer at most.
 

Edward Lei

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You're not obligated to answer them. Esp if their user name is not familiar to you.
I tend to do this but every once in awhile I feel nice and reply. But for the most part, I live up to my "Registered Asshole" moniker. Putting that there under my profile name has probably saved me from plenty of stupid and unwanted PMs lol
 

YGpoon

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Jul 4, 2017
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Pretty sure I had 1 guy PM me a one liner question....I def didn't answer back. lol
 

Noob888

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Jan 28, 2006
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We're living in a very self-entitled and self-absorbed world now. Old school etiquette is quite rare.
 

Forum mod

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One possible, polite but firm reply, if the person has no posts, or no reviews.

Thanks for reaching out. If you are willing to share your own reviews and information, I would be more than willing to help you out. PERB after all, is built on guys helping each other.

I look forward to reading some of your reviews, and after I do, I will be sure to answer your questions about so and so.

Another option:

Thanks for your question. I choose to share information only with the other guys who regularly post information of their own. Hope that will include you in the future.

Either way, it's up to you, you can be part of the solution, or part of the problem. If any of these questioners get nasty or abusive, flag the PM and the mods will handle it.
 

LLLurkJ2

Keep on peeping
Jul 6, 2015
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And this is just pooners...imagine being an sp and the texts you'd get, 10x worse to be sure. There are some giant assholes out there.
 

hedgeman

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I very rarely get pms asking questions, when I do I look at their post history ,if they're a leech and have a majortiy of 411 requests, I don't reply, if they contribute every once in awhile I help where I can
 

Avioneto123

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I always try to help but many times their mailboxes are full and they don't even know it. If they respond back with a thx,then, I will reply again,if they don't respond at all, they get blacklisted as I will not waste my time on those. More annoying though is when you get a PM asking you to change something you wrote on behalf of a SP. For those I just tell them to not PM again.
 

Westcoast1

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Jul 26, 2015
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And this is just pooners...imagine being an sp and the texts you'd get, 10x worse to be sure. There are some giant assholes out there.
I have been with a couple of SPs when the phone goes off. I really dont care to be honest. I usually have a bit of a laugh with them while they answer stupid and completedly rude questions. The sense of entitelment of some guys is just absolutley astounding. So aggressive on when they can come over and so rude. When there is a language barrier its even worse.
Ive actually had to reply to a few texts myself while laying in bed with a certain SP as she was clearly frustrated with this one guy. I told him to fuck off and she slapped me in the ass. I told her she was better off not seeing him. She laughed and agreed. That was one of the most memorable sessions I can remember. I think she felt a bit liberated and it showed in the session.
 

Correct

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Proudly in Revelstoke BC
I can write into my reviews that I will not give out any more details, and still get 20 people sending me a PM asking for more.
 
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Mr Quim

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The beautiful Fraser Valley !
It's not perb, it's the world.

The level of assholiness rises in direct proportion to the ease of communication technology.
This is exactly what I was thinking. It's an epidemic, an attitude of entitlement, and it's demonstrated differently from culture to culture.
We're living in a very self-entitled and self-absorbed world now. Old school etiquette is quite rare.
And this is just pooners...imagine being an sp and the texts you'd get, 10x worse to be sure. There are some giant assholes out there.

Unfortunately, I think it's a sign of the Times !
I'm not sure where etiquette got lost in the Translation ?

Thank christ, I don't have to deal with these self-absorbed pieces of work on a regular basis, like most of the Ladies probably have to !

https://twitter.com/i/status/1173683832404336640




Cheers
 
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