Have You Ever Watched Anyone Die?

Cock Throppled

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Have any of you ever personally witnessed anyone die? Did it change you in any way?

I have seen three people die - One, was a junkie booted to death in a fight by another junkie, and essentially was murdered in front of me, although technically he wasn't declared dead until later. I regret not trying to help more to try to save him, but the guy was berserk. I wasn't even asked for a witness statement.

Two - I came upon a vehicle shortly after it crashed, and it was engulfed in flames. I could see the man inside trying to claw his way out Nothing anybody could do, but it was horrific, an I still feel guilt I might have tried to do something. This one really hit me. It showed just how fragile a line there is between life and death.

Three- My father died with me holding his hand. Cancer. I was 20, but it strangely didn't affect me much. I was gad to see him out of his pain.
 

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I have seen many, some released from their pain, some horrific accidents....and there were many that I was the person who pulled the trigger in the line of duty, something I try to justify ,and live with daily.
There is a profound finality to any death....all is taken away, and yet we go on with the memory of what we have witnessed....to await our own.
 

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Thankfully I haven't been there when a person has passed away but I've had to put down two beloved pets. Both times I felt extremely guilty as I've always wondered if it was too soon, but the vet told me that the humanitarian thing to do was to help alleviate my pets pain with euthanasia. I know pets/animals aren't people but I'm a lot closer to my pets than to most people and I still get teary eyed when I think about them. Thankfully both my brothers and my parents are still around but I know I'll be a mess when they go. I don't know if I would want to be there when it happened. I'd like to think that I brought some comfort to my pets when they passed but I don't know how I would feel with my family members. I guess I'd probably feel more guilt and regret if I weren't there.

I don't envy you sybian but I do want to thank you for your service and the burden you live with. It can't be easy and I hope you have a good support group. Hopefully this place is also an outlet for you.
 

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I was 7 years old when a neighbour ran in front of a car to save her dog. It was really traumatic and I still recall the events today.

When I was 22, I witnessed a car crash by Willingdon exit on the 401. A VW Van was clipped on the rear by a Dodge Charger who was excessively speeding. The man was dead from his injuries inside the van. I remember the look of disgust people showed when looking at the Dodge driver. It was a really messy scene.

Then there was my mother’s death in hospital. She went peacefully.
 

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I don't envy you sybian but I do want to thank you for your service and the burden you live with. It can't be easy and I hope you have a good support group. Hopefully this place is also an outlet for you.
Oddly enough, as I live in a remote location, with few friends around, and even fewer family members.....this place is an outlet for me, yet I do have a support system when demons raise their heads.
Thank you for the note....it means more than you can imagine.
 

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No, I have not. But there was always this morbid curiosity. I have watched a few "Death caught on live TV" videos on You Tube. It felt creepy initially, I must admit. The worst was when I accidentally ended up watching a You Tube post of a beheading by ISIS people. Now, THAT shook me up seriously.

I had not even watched an animal die till I was about 10. I went to visit this uncle who grabbed a chicken and twisted its neck. Again, once I saw someone cutting a chicken's neck. Both incidents made me sick to my stomach. I still can't watch similar stuff.

Now, many years ago, a close relative became unconscious on the dinner table. He would not respond to anything and I was right there. For a minute the thought did cross my mind, "So, this is how people die?" It turned out that because of old age, his heart slowed down and 911 instructed us to make him lie down on the floor. We did and he regained consciousness.
 

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Have any of you ever personally witnessed anyone die? Did it change you in any way?
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Yes. No.

My dog dying would bother me more then anybody I know right now.
 
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I was in the room for a medically assisted death for a terminally ill very close family member. I once saw a deceased person being loaded into an ambulance after a car accident. Didn't watch them die, they were already gone.
 

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When I was called to the hospital, a doctor said that my mother "flat lined" (referring to heart beat) and nobody could survive doing that. Was sent into a room with her body a few minutes. I saw her breathing, her chest rhythmically moving up and down. Two social workers met me outside the room and gave me instruction to arrange a burial. In front of the two I selected from a list, phoned, made an appointment to meet with a funeral director and walked home.
 
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I did once. This was years ago.. maybe 15. ? Something like that. I watched this Larger man drop dead in front of me. He fell to the ground, hit it hard & then began to shake. Slighlty in shock, but not completely I ran to the fire hall across the street for help, but by the time the guys ran over there was nothing they could do. I actually forgot about this until I read the thread.

Thinking back now, I do remember a comment I over heard one of the fire man say. " He ate himself to death "
 

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My ex girlfriends father died at home from cancer surrounded by family and me. It wasn't too bad, a little sad. I saw a drunk get hit by a car. Drunk was jaywalking. Seeing him get hit was a little bothersome, but it was his fault, not the driver.
 

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It is really scary how insulated we humans are from death. In the big cities and towns the meat people eat is consumed, but most have never seen how a cow, chicken or pig dies to help feed them. That is just one aspect of death as I see it.

Watching another human die is hard, it tells us of our own mortality, somewhere, somewhen we ourselves will die. Its not pleasant, the emotions, thoughts that you have. The sooner you deal with those emotions the better off you will be. People who have jobs that deal with life or death situations have to isolate and compartmentalize those situation to keep doing their jobs. These situations are accumulative, building up over time. There is better help with this now then there used to be. Mental health is a growing concern for many companies and government agencies.

Gallows humour. I find this in some military science fiction I read. The insane beserker laughing madly as he kills people... The marine t-shirt that say" Join the Marines, Travel to distant countries, Meet interesting people and then kill them." or "In the end, let God sort them out.". Some people find this humour dark and morbid....

Life is light and warmth compared to death, dark, lightless and cold....

I guess humour helps, but sometimes people don't appreciate humour... especially gallows humour...
 

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I grew up in Surrey and spent some time on the wrong side of the tracks, so it was inevitable i’d See something eventually.

Was with a couple of the boys when some guys tried to rob us, fought them off but one of my buddies was stabbed multiple times. Died as we tried to get him to the hospital.
Seen a couple people die of overdose, also saved about half a dozen with Narcan.
Hardest one was my best friend, didn’t actually see her die, she OD’d when I wasn’t around, and I didn’t find out for almost a week. Guy who was with her bounced town.
 

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I sat with a friend who died from aids . those last 2 weeks were excruciating painful .That was 15 years ago
 

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Yes.
A clinical placement on LTC. My client was elderly and on Paliation. What was most remarkable for me as a student were the audible Cheyne-stokes (that's the rattle...aka, death rattle), noticeably diminished LOC (level of consciousness) and VS.
Your first witness of live death (oxymoron- what I mean is not footage...you're in the room) does change you. For me very emotional as I had come to know the client, but such a moving honor to bare witness to.
My first care angel.
I'm a Nursing student...there will be more.
 
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