(Serious question)
Is it also mansplaining when someone has asked for help in the specific subject matter?
Seeking advice on starting a new business
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Is it also mansplaining when someone has asked for help in the specific subject matter?
So your saying the building may need a massive renovation?
I own a twelve pound sledge hammer.....
I was waiting for someone to mansplain mansplaing but I'll give it a shot.(Serious question)
Is it also mansplaining when someone has asked for help in the specific subject matter?
In the context of this situation, I would consider this mansplaining. I think everyone had great intentions and were more than happy to help, but they failed to realize that they were explaining, to a very successful business woman, how to start/run a business. Maybe some of them don't think of sex working as a business, I don't know. That would give me a sad if people on a escort review board thought that little of sex workers... Plus, as much as this breaks my heart due to lack of latex, Elsi (probably) was joking starting this thread *cough marketing cough*.
In general, if someone asks for help, I prefer to explain things in a respectful manner. Avoiding condescending phrases such as "you probably wouldn't know" and "EH SUGAH TEETS! Listen upp!". Same way you would want someone to educate you.
I hope this helps, Sugah teets.
(I'm joking, questions like this only help and I've asked the same question before.)
Mansplaining mansplained by a Sub-Slut.
Thanks, that makes sense.
I just hadn't noticed any condescension or "sugah teets" calling, and to be fair, the question was very open ended "Please help me get this baby off the ground with your suggestions and good advice and stuff. "
I think that if she had merely announced her desire to start another business, and people had started replying with gratuitous advice then the mansplaining would have been quite apparent.
But sure, perhaps OP's intentions were to ask for ideas on the specific business rather than be assumed to be underestimating the task?
Anyway, best of luck to OP. It honestly does sound like a cool idea
I respectfully disagree. Crying wolf is not a good way to address a real issue, which mansplaining can be when it actually happens.
Many similar threads were started by men, with similar replies. There are no particularly condescending replies in this one.
As for running a previous business, you are making a lot of assumptions: that OP is very successful (she didn't claim she saw it that way); that it is a good predictor of success in a larger business with employees, payroll, and long-term business leases. I don't have hard data on likelihood of turning a profit in the first year as a self-employed escort vs. running a restaurant for example, make a guess. It's not like "you can do one, you can do them all" - at least I'm not rushing to open a nail salon myself.
Elsi deserves a special recognition for confusing people this much. However tempting a binary choice is, "this is a serious question" or "this is 100% trolling" does not always cover the reality.
Good luck...seriously. I know a few ladies that have used the fruit of their labours in this industry to step off into successful businesses that they don't have to hide from family and friends.
On a questionable note, you are catering to a niche market....how many people that appreciate a tattoo parlour atmosphere, with Metallica banging in their ears, have the money to spend to keep you living in the style to which you have/would like to, become accustomed ?
Would certain people be grandfathered for complimentary boob pics., and blowies, if you stepped away from the paid for laid employment?
Do you mind!? How's a lady to cover her tracks if you're out here pointing them out?
Further to the other concerns about the legitimacy of my new business, maybe. Probably not. It's a nice little fantasy like the leagues of men in my life who'd like to move to some developing country, get beachfront property for $20k, and open a small bar on the water. I like to imagine them all 100m apart down some white sandy beach, skin leathered and red, smelling faintly of stale beer and saltwater. It's my dream, damnit, and no one's going to take it away from me.
Coming from two entrepreneurial parents, and growing up in a house where "sorting receipts" was a regular chore in the rotation, I'm probably uniquely qualified to say how familiar I am with the shackles of self-employment. Fuck, I think I have a small business going as we speak, somewhere around here...
I would love to see someone open a salon with an aesthetic that isn't the fluffy-white/ultra-bright chic. As someone with an above-average number of digits and a regular schedule of manicures and pedicures, it would be nice to go somewhere that didn't think everyone found orchids, lavender-scents and Pop Top Billboards from 12yrs ago the most relaxing. As deeply as I care for my dear nail techs, I fantasize about somewhere that didn't find it a very unique and interesting trait that I get my nails done with extra hard top coats, not because I give a shit about instagrammys, but because I don't need my nails to look like the things I do to them between sessions. I'm sure several of the men around here know the frustration of putting on two coats of Sally Hanson and then going digging through the bucket of screws only to have three nails chip. Can I get an amen.
And speaking of men and manicures, maybe if salons looked a little more salooned and less frosted-icing deco'd, we'd have more guys invited to plunge their hands into the warm, dark nether regions without fear of those extra sharp fresh-clipped digits or "what's a cuticle oil?" hangnails.
Maybe your Elsi started this thread because she got into her car after being invited to start working at her local salon, Metallica was playing, and she cranked the tunes and rolled down the windows and let her imagination run away with her. Maybe she wanted to bring you all in on her fantasies of putting nail polish into jars that looked like sharpies, a little throwback to when we used to "paint" our nails in art class and have them bleed out to purple nailbeds by lunch.
And maybe it was more interesting than the two? threads on gas prices.
But it's certainly not a misdirection from her plans to take over the world.
I'd be a client. I've been looking for this, but I don't want to go into a salon just because it's weird.
I would never be a client.
BUT, I would lurk outside, walking by and galncing into the window....
I believe in you, Elsi! You can do whatever you set your mind to! My only concern is, if you do end up starting a salon/saloon, how will that impact gas prices?
It's no news around here that you and I get along....but I have to ask.
Your not really all there are you?
