When I was 23 I met a much older lady in Dillinger's night club in Vancouver.....I guess she was 55....but had a nice body....I went to her place right across from Stanley park ....I saw her a few times..she called me many times, she was well off and wanted me to go to Tahiti with her.....she would pay everything....I really thought about it until I thought...hmmm what if she gets mad at me and leaves me there lol...I didnt go..as far as lending money to a SP, I see it as not different than lending to a friend or distant family member or a person at work...they will either pay back or not...if you cant afford to lose what you loan...don't ..if you can afford it and you do and it never comes back...shake your head and move on
SP asking for $$ help
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I loaned money to my ex regular too. Twice. I got it back with the interest but I will not do it again. Done loaning money to anybody
Yes I have been asked several times. I always decline. One was her car needed new tires. My best excuse is well Yes I would If I could. but sorry my funds are depleted right now. I do have a fave SP that I eTransfer to and occasionally she will ask if we set up a date for next week.... if I could send the advance now? I did once cuz she needed to pay her phone bill. Then something else got in the way for the date. Finally we did the date but weeks later. She had almost forgot about the eTransfer by this time. I now will not send funds until at least the night before. she has learned this about me now too.
I gave my favorite SP most of the money for her property taxes, she didn't ask for it but accepted my offer. Bought her a mcrowave last month and a vacuum cleaner this month. She pays me back with sessions which works good for both of us,
It's not really a black & white situation, if it's someone you know extremely well and it's a one off and there's a valid reason for it, like she lost all her credit cards and had her entire purse stolen from her or some other emergency, I can understand doing it... If it's a trend or you think it would set a precedent that you're uncomfortable with, refrain from doing it. Who really knows anyone's intentions, in the end. I was always raised not to lend money, and pay back everything you borrow asap... So my first instinct based on what you've said is to say it's not the best idea, 530 am, asked before for a loan and missed 2 appointments, red flags all over the place.. She may be an amazing sp tho, idk but she may need to work on organizing her schedule, finances, and travel arrangements more, so perhaps it's a learning curve for her...
"SP asking for $$ help
Has this happened to anyone? Someone I'd seen texted me pleasantly but at 530am!. But then said she was in a bind and needed some money to fly her back to the city. And yes, that would lead to a great time at her place
I politely declined but she said any bit of money would help.
It's a shame (given that she was great in bed, beautiful, and fun to talk to) but I decided to pass, even helping her with $20. In my current life, just too many little flags, too many risks, and too little known about her to start anywhere near the "white knight" route. Maybe she really is in a bind and a little bit of help will be what's needed! But given that she's asked for an advance before (which I declined), and she missed 2 appt. before without explanation, I think I have to go safe now and not help.
Effectively I think this will mean I will not see her again but so be it. The hobby can be risky enough; throw in someone who needs lots of help in their life (which I don't know, but is a worse-case possibility) and the risks are too much.
If I was single and free of judgment, I might have helped. But not in my current life situation; I'm afraid the hobby is ultimately a selfish thing for me. I'm honestly nice and professional with the women I meet but like any service, im not ready to deeply get into their personal life nor let them into mine.
Your thoughts/experiences?"
"SP asking for $$ help
Has this happened to anyone? Someone I'd seen texted me pleasantly but at 530am!. But then said she was in a bind and needed some money to fly her back to the city. And yes, that would lead to a great time at her place
I politely declined but she said any bit of money would help.
It's a shame (given that she was great in bed, beautiful, and fun to talk to) but I decided to pass, even helping her with $20. In my current life, just too many little flags, too many risks, and too little known about her to start anywhere near the "white knight" route. Maybe she really is in a bind and a little bit of help will be what's needed! But given that she's asked for an advance before (which I declined), and she missed 2 appt. before without explanation, I think I have to go safe now and not help.
Effectively I think this will mean I will not see her again but so be it. The hobby can be risky enough; throw in someone who needs lots of help in their life (which I don't know, but is a worse-case possibility) and the risks are too much.
If I was single and free of judgment, I might have helped. But not in my current life situation; I'm afraid the hobby is ultimately a selfish thing for me. I'm honestly nice and professional with the women I meet but like any service, im not ready to deeply get into their personal life nor let them into mine.
Your thoughts/experiences?"
Out of the couple girls I see regularly, if either one asked I would lend them whatever they needed no questions asked, I also would not "trade" for services...
I can agree with wintersurfer to the extent that you've confidence in the outcome because of a long term relationship. Otherwise you'll get the Shakespeare's experience! I've helped out a few gals but then my MO was long term devoted arrangements. One soured in the end but that's was the end of it all. I moved on to an casual approach now because and there is no more helping out.
I can relate to all the earlier posts and reasons gals give to get money. Heard all the stories!!
I agree with the majority opinion overall in that loans on future services or payback are too risky.
I chuckled at the earlier note about one gal asking for several thousands loan for an investment! Funny I had the same request and declined but gave the gal hell for thinking I was such a fool. We ended up becoming long term friends on a very pleasant deal for several years. That's over too as she is raising a family now with another guy who has no clue of her past.
Life is such an interesting game!
I can relate to all the earlier posts and reasons gals give to get money. Heard all the stories!!
I agree with the majority opinion overall in that loans on future services or payback are too risky.
I chuckled at the earlier note about one gal asking for several thousands loan for an investment! Funny I had the same request and declined but gave the gal hell for thinking I was such a fool. We ended up becoming long term friends on a very pleasant deal for several years. That's over too as she is raising a family now with another guy who has no clue of her past.
Life is such an interesting game!
All good responses. I'd never judge someone who does give money to an SP; it's your hard-earned money and your decision!
For me, it was simply too risky to start down a potential rabbit hole. I'd given a woman I was really into some money once before, about $500, because she said she needed some help for the month. It ended up she wanted to go on a scuba trip with others. I never felt so used in my life (she never paid me back). $20-40 is no big deal and I'd lend that out to people I hardly know. But I really can't afford random texts at all hours! So for this case, I chose not to give any.
As Lalani said, it's never B&W. Thanks again for the thoughts.
For me, it was simply too risky to start down a potential rabbit hole. I'd given a woman I was really into some money once before, about $500, because she said she needed some help for the month. It ended up she wanted to go on a scuba trip with others. I never felt so used in my life (she never paid me back). $20-40 is no big deal and I'd lend that out to people I hardly know. But I really can't afford random texts at all hours! So for this case, I chose not to give any.
As Lalani said, it's never B&W. Thanks again for the thoughts.
