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    Suicidal thoughts: does everyone have them at some point?

    Few random ramblings about myself (please ignore if inconsequential to my title question):
    I don't have much interest/hobbies. Just cars,sports,this
    I don't do much all day , everyday . Basically just eat and sleep
    I have friends, but I prefer to be by myself
    I love the thought of seeing SPs, but when in their presence, I wish I was elsewhere
    Never worked a day in my life. I received a inheritance windfall when I turned 19
    I'm under 30
    Besides seeing SPs everyday, I live a frugal lifestyle
    I feel happy/comforted knowing suicide is a option
    Suicidal thoughts cross my mind everyday. Started awhile ago
    The thoughts are getting deeper that I ask for feedback
    Is this just a phase? Does everyone get them at one point or another?

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    Quote Originally Posted by carnut View Post
    Few random ramblings about myself (please ignore if inconsequential to my title question):
    I don't have much interest/hobbies. Just cars,sports,this
    I don't do much all day , everyday . Basically just eat and sleep
    I have friends, but I prefer to be by myself
    I love the thought of seeing SPs, but when in their presence, I wish I was elsewhere
    Never worked a day in my life. I received a inheritance windfall when I turned 19
    I'm under 30
    Besides seeing SPs everyday, I live a frugal lifestyle
    I feel happy/comforted knowing suicide is a option
    Suicidal thoughts cross my mind everyday. Started awhile ago
    The thoughts are getting deeper that I ask for feedback
    Is this just a phase? Does everyone get them at one point or another?
    Everyone has to have that thing that says to themselves "I am worth the air I breathe, my life is not meaningless" It sounds like you don't have that and that is the reason for your depression.

    Not having a structure (work, volunteerism) that requires you to be up and doing something worthwhile is giving you too much time to navel gaze. Luckily, your problem should be easy to resolve. Just find work/volunteerism that you like and that makes you feel worthwhile. If you can't, see a professional councillor (referred through your doctor) and honestly deal with the core issues.

    We aren't actually built to be worthless drones. I found that out when I "retired" for the third time. I found that it was the work that made me feel worthwhile and not the money that I had accumulated. I can holiday for 6 months or so, and then I have to find something worthwhile to do.
    The Romans managed 1200 years, we won't manage 300. sdw

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    I had those thoughts when I was younger. I PM'd you a place that you might be interested in. I'm in a rush for meetings right now but I can give you more info later if you like.
    To each their own.

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    Never worked a day? Thats makes your time feel like shit. Without work or something important to do every minute every day feels the same and makes for no FREE time in the ironic sense.
    I dream of winning the lottery daily but even if I did I probably would need to work at least 4 days per week ( something without a killer commute).

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    Get some help. I am sure their are groups outhere that have people in the same predicament like you.
    When you are dead, you do not know that you are dead.
    It is the same way when you are stupid.

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    Find someone to talk to. Volunteer with less fortunate people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carnut View Post
    Few random ramblings about myself (please ignore if inconsequential to my title question):
    I don't have much interest/hobbies. Just cars,sports,this
    I don't do much all day , everyday . Basically just eat and sleep
    I have friends, but I prefer to be by myself
    I love the thought of seeing SPs, but when in their presence, I wish I was elsewhere
    Never worked a day in my life. I received a inheritance windfall when I turned 19
    I'm under 30
    Besides seeing SPs everyday, I live a frugal lifestyle
    I feel happy/comforted knowing suicide is a option
    Suicidal thoughts cross my mind everyday. Started awhile ago
    The thoughts are getting deeper that I ask for feedback
    Is this just a phase? Does everyone get them at one point or another?
    Carnut, appreciate the sharing. If the thoughts are daily, as you say, and getting deeper please share this with your doctor who can refer you to a professional. This will make a world of difference for you. Please do it asap.

    I'm going to pm you my number if you want to chat. If you don't, no worries but please seek professional advice....all the best to you.

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    "never worked a day in my life" and " basically just eat and sleep" pretty much sums it up.
    what a bleak existence.
    you need to talk to a pro.
    join a club.
    volunteer for ANYTHING at all.
    get a p/t job doing anything that remotely interests you.
    upgrade your skills/education.
    you don't need to become a social butterfly by any stretch, but a bit of interaction would help.
    BELIEVE that you have something to contribute on some level. get involved.
    I speak from experience......it can become too easy to just withdraw.

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    Thank you for the responses​ and suggestions.
    I'll look into helping animals. Hopefully it'll help, as animals is the one few things I'm passionate about.

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    IMO, you need purpose in your life; reason for waking up everyday. Find something you're passionate about that will drive you to become the best version of yourself. Having said that, please seek professional help.

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    Hi Darlin', it's great that you shared your thoughts about this and are reaching out. It's not easy to do and a lot of the time men have a harder time talking about this stuff, but so many have the same feelings. I think suicidal thoughts or depression is a normal part of the human experience but when they hang around for too long and become residents in your thought process, seeking some help is sooooo beneficial to get you back on track to happiness. Ive been through huge struggles and my life changed for the better the second I started talking to a counsellor. While in the midst of depression you can feel like you're worthless or bad or that this is how you're meant to feel, but the brain is fascinating. A turning point for me was actually learning about the brain and how it works, and realizing that 'no, I'm not cursed, my body just doesn't produce enough of this chemical or that chemical'. It was such a weight off my shoulders, and combined with talking about my feelings in a safe environment I'm at a place now where those daily suicidal thoughts just don't creep in anymore. Even if they're just thoughts, it is still suffering and you don't deserve to suffer.
    I hope this helps and sparks some ideas in you. I'm sure that good things will happen for you from being brave enough to put yourself out there.
    XO Fiona ( sorry this got a little long )

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    Yes.

    When I was younger (teens) it was more prevalent.

    Ultimately, I just asked myself "how do I want the world to be different because I was here? How will it permanently be marked because of my influences?" And I move on from there.

    I am on the board of directors for three non-profits and we impact people that are homeless, that are elderly, and those that are the weakest and cannot fend for themselves (abused children, women and even men).

    I won't sit here and say "get help" because whenever someone said that to me it's obvious that they haven't been through it. I will say that you are looking for answers, and that makes you braver than most people. Emotions and thoughts come and go without you controlling it - Stephen Fry says depression is like the rain. It happens with or without and it's completely out of your control - but I have learnt to hold out an umbrella when it's raining out.

    Find some friends, (hell even some SP's, I know like 4-5 that are in counselling/psyche/social services etc) and just share about who and what you are - and just have people listen.

    Finally, I just want to say: "you matter". Everything you do has and will affect someone. It's not an intangible thing like "your vote matters" and other political statements - I am saying you being on Earth makes it permenantly different and you have a chance to make it better if you would like. So why not?!



    Hope this helps (I am passionate about mental health, this is "normal" and very common. people get bruises and twist their ankles all the time, the same is with mental health - it's a fact of life and it's common and very approachable and manageable).

    PM me if you'd like to hear more.


    Edit:
    (I'd still seriously consider speaking to a counsellor or a psycharist if I were you - just because I've been through something similar doesn't mean we have experienced the same things/feelings/thoughts... Trusting an expert isn't the worst thing in the world either :P)

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    No offence to the thoughtful posters before mine.

    IMO seeking advise for such a serious subject from layman is not where you ought to be researching.

    Hospital ER's have a psych emerg nurse attached to the triage team. Go to an ER an explain your situation and your suicidal thoughts. Be honest with them and don't sugar coat it.

    Think about your thoughts of suicide and put them on a scale of 0 to 5 with 0 indicating no thoughts of suicide and 5 being the worst case scenario. If you find on a daily basis your thoughts are increasing of value on the scale; you really require a professionals help.

    Your MD should be able to help you get in touch with a psychologist. It may be helpful discussing your life's problems with a non-judgemental professional.


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    Quote Originally Posted by carnut View Post
    Few random ramblings about myself (please ignore if inconsequential to my title question):
    I don't have much interest/hobbies. Just cars,sports,this
    I don't do much all day , everyday . Basically just eat and sleep
    I have friends, but I prefer to be by myself
    I love the thought of seeing SPs, but when in their presence, I wish I was elsewhere
    Never worked a day in my life. I received a inheritance windfall when I turned 19
    I'm under 30
    Besides seeing SPs everyday, I live a frugal lifestyle
    I feel happy/comforted knowing suicide is a option
    Suicidal thoughts cross my mind everyday. Started awhile ago
    The thoughts are getting deeper that I ask for feedback
    Is this just a phase? Does everyone get them at one point or another?
    Everyone goes through a phase.

    I am no expert, but you need to change your lifestyle. Get a job, not for money, but it will make you feel useful. It gives you a reason to get out and meet people. When you feel down, think about this, "There is always someone worse than me."

    Get in a meaningful relationship, Not necessarily a gf or marriage, but anything that has deeper value than just a casual fone call. See if you can talk to your grandparents. Offer your services to them. I feel proud whenever I take my father or mother to doctor's appointment or anywhere for that matter.

    Volunteer. There are lots of places who would love to have you.

    We are all here to live everyday till we die not to die everyday that we live. (Yea, I wrote that, Yay !!! I am going to reward myself with a visit to Pretty Priya, when she comes to Vancouver!).
    If you don't want me talking, just shove your boobs in my mouth.

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    Do you like animals?
    Visit your nearby SPCA and offer to help as a volunteer.
    Just petting a dog is therapeutic.

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